Would a male daycare worker make you uncomfortable?

thsyearsgirl · February 2012

I'm just curious to see what your thoughts are regarding male daycare workers. I know this is pretty rare, but it came up while we were on the daycare hunt this week, and I wondered how you ladies would feel about this. It does not impact our decision in the daycare we're going to choose, and I understand that we all need to go with what makes us comfortable, but I'm still interested to hear your opinions. Any thoughts?

sbelle3 · February 2012

My first thought honestly is yes. I know it probably shouldn't but my gut reaction is that I wouldn't like it. BUT, when I think about it my boys have had 3 male after school workers the past few years and I loved them. They were high school age and my boys just thought the world of them. We also loved the teenage boy who worked in DS2's nursery class at church when he was 2. We felt like he was such a positive male role model for our sons. So maybe it depends on the age or that initial gut reaction.

honeybee #1 · February 2012

I would be far more bothered if my LO were older, less so as an infant.

Vieve831 · February 2012

I honestly wouldn't have any issue at all - as long as they were nurturing and did a good job

MrsBini10 · February 2012

It shouldn't bother me but it would.

kavc016 · February 2012

MrsBini10:
It shouldn't bother me but it would.

this.

VTFutureMrs · February 2012

We send DS to Goddard School and they have several male workers. They are all great and I don't have any issue with them.

rachaelski · February 2012

Our daycare has male teachers, not in the infant room though. I visit daily to BF my baby, and it is always during nap time for the rest of the school. The male eachers are wonderful! I see them patting the kids' backs who need soothed to sleep and they are very friendly.

jnealet · February 2012

There are so many checks and balances at daycare centers that it wouldn't bother me. I probably wouldn't take my girls to an inhome run by a male though.

Magriet · February 2012

jnealet:
There are so many checks and balances at daycare centers that it wouldn't bother me. I probably wouldn't take my girls to an inhome run by a male though.

This (even though I have a boy I feel the same about the in-home daycare).

Andi2384 · February 2012

jnealet:
There are so many checks and balances at daycare centers that it wouldn't bother me. I probably wouldn't take my girls to an inhome run by a male though.

This exactly.

mbgreenwalt · February 2012

For an infant I feel more comfortable with a woman. By nature I think most women are more comforting and patient with a baby. For an older child I would feel ok with a male. My toddler loves her uncles and DCP's sons. They are such high energy and like to play and roughhouse with her.

klreese0213 · February 2012

curious .. of the mentioned male workers how many are gay? would homosexuality play a part in the nurturing aspect. or how comfy youd feel with a heterosexual male working with your child opposed to a homosexual. mal.

mbgreenwalt · February 2012

klreese0213:
curious .. of the mentioned male workers how many are gay? would homosexuality play a part in the nurturing aspect. or how comfy youd feel with a heterosexual male working with your child opposed to a homosexual. mal.

My DCP's sexual orientation would not matter to me, male or female. The 3 gay males I know have zero interest in children therefore do not have that nurturing instinct towards a child so I would not have them watch my children.

kclear · February 2012

honestly wouldn't bother me at all.

b.heather · February 2012

It wouldn't bother me - I think its good for kiddos to get nurturing and loving care from men and women.

This is the reason though that my husband won't take our DD to the playground alone - he feels like people look like him like he could be a perv even though he is there with his daughter :-(

littlewinnie15 · February 2012

I understand that these topics were only brought up for discussion, so my comments are not directed at anyone in particular... but,

1. A male daycare worked wouldn't bother me in the slightest. There is one at our center.

2. The topic of being gay should have absolutely no bearing in this discussion. Gay =/= pedophile. Any insinuation that it does is extremely offensive.

I am not going to spend my life shielding DS from men or gay people. Now, if someone gives me the heebie geebies or showed too much interest in my child, male or female, I would have a problem with that.

knottie198f1ac43570b6c2 · February 2012

kavc016:
MrsBini10:
It shouldn't bother me but it would.

this.

Same here.

Vieve831 · February 2012

littlewinnie15:
I understand that these topics were only brought up for discussion, so my comments are not directed at anyone in particular... but,
1. A male daycare worked wouldn't bother me in the slightest. There is one at our center.
2. The topic of being gay should have absolutely no bearing in this discussion. Gay =/= pedophile. Any insinuation that it does is extremely offensive.
I am not going to spend my life shielding DS from men or gay people. Now, if someone gives me the heebie geebies or showed too much interest in my child, male or female, I would have a problem with that.

Yes to all of this

hkane1 · February 2012

What is the difference between a DCP who is male and teacher who is a male? Will you still feel the same way when your LOs reach school age?

I have no problem with a DCP being male. One of my best friends is a male DCP and he is loved by most of the children and parents. It has nothing to do with the fact that he is male but he is fantastic with children. I would rather leave my LO with him than with some of the female DCP.

This being said, it has everything to do with who he is as a person and nothing to do with his gender. There are some DCP who are female that should not work with children and I don't think they should get a free pass because they are female.

I will leave my LO with male DCP and male teachers. If the person gives me a feeling a bad feeling in my stomach - then I will deal with it regardless of whether or not they are male or female.

authorofdreamz · February 2012

It wouldn't bother me at all. I don't even know why it would.

dpeugh85 · February 2012

hkane1:

What is the difference between a DCP who is male and teacher who is a male? Will you still feel the same way when your LOs reach school age?

I have no problem with a DCP being male. One of my best friends is a male DCP and he is loved by most of the children and parents. It has nothing to do with the fact that he is male but he is fantastic with children. I would rather leave my LO with him than with some of the female DCP.

This being said, it has everything to do with who he is as a person and nothing to do with his gender. There are some DCP who are female that should not work with children and I don't think they should get a free pass because they are female.

I will leave my LO with male DCP and male teachers. If the person gives me a feeling a bad feeling in my stomach - then I will deal with it regardless of whether or not they are male or female.

This exactly. I don't know why this would even be a question.

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