Have you thought about/done a tubal ligation?
DavezWife
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I know we've talked about this before, and yes, it's odd to think about around these parts, lol. But I am.
I'm pretty dang sure I want a tubal once I'm done with these babies. I have two main reasons: 1) I am TERRIFIED of ovarian cancer, and I've convinced myself I'm doomed to get it, because of all the meds I've piled on 'me oves. Cauderizing the tubes reduces that risk significantly, from my med journal readings. 2) I suck at staying pregnant, I need too much help to do it, I knew going into THIS one it was my last, (SO I LOVE EVERY FRICKEN SECOND OF IT!!) and let's face it, I don't make good eggs/embryos. For whatever reason. Odds are soooo stacked against me, and I'm 39 this summer. Fuggit. Momma is T-I-R-E-D.
(however, we'd like 3 kids total, so adoption and/or embryo adoption for a GC is a consideration for us, big time.)
Anywho.... not planning but if I end up with a c/s, they can do it then. So I need to be solid in my decision soon.
WWYD if me, and/or what kinds of stories have you got about why you did it, or want to? (yes, I could do Essure, but why? I'm done. I'm not doing this again. Done done annnnnnnnd done.)
Re: Have you thought about/done a tubal ligation?
This is our agreement too. In fact, when we thought we were having twins DH was ready to make the appointment ; ) Of course that does not address your ovarian cancer fears. If was ok with having the procedure and was 100% sure I was done, I'd have them do it at c-section. We are about 80% sure (though I think that will increase to 100% when the baby comes) we are done so we would not do it at delivery which only adds to support the decision for us to have DH go through some of the "reproductive he!!" I've had to deal with for the past 6 years....holy crap, 6 years???
I had one. I opted to not do it during my C-Section. Here is why:
I was miserable in my twin pregnancy. PUPPS took over my brain and I could barely take care of my daughter I was in so much pain all the time. I didn't want to make the decision in the cloudiness of all that misery.
I waited until we were out of the newborn phase. I wanted it to be a decision DH and I made when we weren't sleep deprived and feeling completely overwhelmed.
Why did I do a tubal versus the pill, or any other cheap/easy methods?
It was symbolic for me. Literally cutting off ties to the TTC world. I just didn't want to ever think, "crap, am I pregnant?"
Why did I do it instead of DH?
The reasons you said. My OB told me the same thing. Plus, it was symbolic for me. Like I said, literally cutting off all ties to the TTC/infertility part of my life. Also, DH was scared sh*tless of having his balls messed with. In a bad way ; ) I wasn't scared at all. After 2 laps, 2 IVFs, 2 C-Sections...ain't no thing.
We continue to be thrilled with our choice.
I know that, should circumstances beyond my imagination happen, we would "just" do IVF again anyway, so I don't need my tubes intact for that.
It wouldn't add to your recovery time. You really would have no clue they even did it. It is a quick procedure they would do right after delivering the baby.
D would get snipped if that's what we want, but I'm not kidding when I say I'm TERRIFIED of getting o-cancer. Honestly, I'd get a hysterectomy if it wasn't such an incredible recovery time and yes, I'm a bit young to begin HRT therapy. lol.
I also like the idea of symbolically being DONE. Good lordie, can you imagine staying ON this rollercoaster if you were me? I'm brave. But I'm done being stupid.
lol.
I had a tubal after I gave birth to Jack (had it before they stitched me up from my c-section with him). I did it because his cardiac stuff was so fricken' scary and we knew it was genetic & we weren't ever going to risk it with another spontaneous pregnancy. It wasn't that we didn't want more children, but we knew we weren't doing that again (we didn't know about IVF/PGD at that point).
So yeah. That's what we did. And of course, you know we went on to later have little Henry thanks to our RE.
Hannah
ps - If you're interested, I had a ligation and resection, which sounds like what you're after. They cut out a piece of each tube and burned the ends
so those suckers aren't ever going back together. No loops or clips or ligatures or any of that stuff.
Good luck mama!! You gotta do what's right for you!
Ditto. I've had 3 c-sections, and a tubal with my second one (last pregnancy was from IVF) and the recovery from it was no different at all. You have no idea it even happened.
MH and I have been discussing this very issue. (My history in brief: I have had 7 pregnancies before this one. All 7 ended in m/c. End diagnosis is that I do not make eggs that will result in a viable pregnancy. This pregnancy is through DE.)
We are not sure we are done having children. However, we are sure that we will never get and stay pregnant with my own eggs. We have 10 embryos frozen (from the DE cycle) and can do FETs should we choose to have more children.
After we have these babies, I cannot risk more miscarriages. I just can't go through it again. If possible, I'd love to avoid having to take birth control. If I have a c/s with the twins, I am seriously considering a tubal ligation. It wouldn't change our future plans/options regarding children, it would just give me a peace of mind and closure regarding my fertility issues.
ETA: I realize that I can still have losses with the DE frozen embryos. I guess I just meant I cannot go through the nearly sure loss of a pregnancy using my own eggs.
I don't know if we're done having kids but I suspect the answer won't change when/if we do decide we're done:
I won't do it. DH won't get a vasectomy.
We're MFI and I have a clotting disorder so we don't see any need for DH to get a vasectomy and with my clotting disorder I don't want to undergo any surgical procedure regardless how minor.
I was unaware of the ovarian cancer connection. Interesting, but I still don't think I would do it. The odds of us conceiving on our own are so slim . . .
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I had my tubes tied after this CS. I knew ahead of time that I wanted to and was happy to have it done while I was there for a sch CS anyways. I knew I didn't want to be pregnant again and didn't want anymore kids. The idea of having a "whoops" baby at 43 after I took my guard down TERRIFIED ME! (Happened to 2 of my aunts). I feel like an old lady as it is at 40 with a toddler and infant! LOL! I can barely remember to take a multi-vit every morning and I didn't want to have to take the pill or have to go to the OB for whatever other options there are. I feel like I have done enough damage to my system with all the meds and wanted to have a final decision so I didn't have to think about it. I didn't feel a thing.. in fact the recovery from the CS was MUCH easier than with my DS2. I'm happy with my decision.
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My DH offered to get a vasectomy.....he was ready after DS2
Once I became PG with DD and went through those crazy 20 weeks of bedrest....I was d.o.n.e. We knew we were done regardless after this last PG, but after all that I went through, I never, ever wanted to be PG again.
Every PG I had involved issues and each PG caused A LOT of anxiety. I just knew that I did not want to ever be PG again.
Because I was having another c/s, I just felt it was easiest for me to do it. Like I said above, my DH was more than happy to have it done, but it took an extra 70 seconds on the table and I just felt that it was easier since I was already open on the table
I have no regrets and it didn't change my recovery at all.
A close friend had hers done after their 2nd around 1 year post partum. She did it laproscopically and said it was super easy. She was out and about the next day.
I think you definitely have to feel 100% done. I literally asked at every appt to make sure that it was in my file
And, I asked my OB about 20 times while I was on the table making sure she did it...Lol!
I thought about it, but, too late. I wish I had thought about it, or my doc had mentioned it prior to my c-section.
Yes, I desperately wanted to have a second pregnancy and a second baby. But, after accepting that I needed to use donor eggs and having a successful pregnancy, I did not want that pregnancy to be with my own eggs. I do not fantasize about having an oops pregnancy with my eggs. It has been well established that my eggs suck and the thought of a pregnancy, and all the potential problems, with my eggs scares me.
But, I also don't want to put my body through unnecessary surgery, so, we haven't discussed doing it now. I wish I had done it when I was open on the table.
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I am considering a tubal or Essure. I will be taking the next step either way. DH is not excited for surgery and I have 2 friends who had complications following theirs. I figured I have done everything else why not this.
However the idea is so ironic considering the time, money and heartache spent on trying to get pregnant. I am just too old and tired to do it again.
Honestly I would do it HOWEVER in your case I'd wait till later. I'd have them stitch you up as fast as possible so that you can be with Cricket as quickly as humanly possible.
I'd rather go through two surgeries then miss any of the precious time that I had with my baby.
Just something to consider.
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Sean - Our IUI/Injectable miracle born Oct. 5, 2008.
Liam - Our second miracle born July 16, 2010
great point, but one we already covered, lol. We would skip it if I needed to hurry and be with him. We actually have a pretty elaborate set up as far as scenario A, B, C and then some.... man I have such an amazing coordinator and team, so grateful. But thanks, you never know when something has slipped by me, lol.
5 REs + 3 surgical hysteroscopies for septum/lap + 3 failed IUIs
IVF w/ICSI/AH & acu = BFP!, unexplained spontaneous m/c @ 8w2d (our little girl),
FET w/acu = BFP!, B/G twins!, lost MP @19w, dx w/funneling cervix @20w,
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Our twins born @36w4d via CS when A came foot first
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