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We are going on Wed. to find out the sex of the baby at my appt. DH can't drive with me to the appointment due to work and immediately after the appointment his brother is coming to our house(spending the night) so they can go to a monthly get together with some of his friends. I feel really let down that we are going to find out what we are having and then go off separately and not see each other for two days (he has plans the next night also.) Am I being too sensitive?
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Re: Disappointed in DH
They're your feelings and I don't think anyone can tell you how to feel.
With Riley, DH was there but had to go back to work. I went shopping.
With Sydney, DH couldn't make it because of work and I told him over the phone. Afterward, I went shopping.
What would make this situation better for you? Do you want him to stay home? Not have his brother come over? Perhaps you can determine those things and then find a compromise.
Or in my case, just go shopping, LOL.
What? Seriously?
BWAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!
Yes, you are being way too serious. I mean, he's going to the appointment with you, right? What else do you want from the guy? He's supposed to be attached to your hip for two days after that? Why? What for? So you can talk about baby names? So you can talk about ways to decorate the nursery? Come on! You are totally overreacting. I hope this is just baby hormones and you're not usually this overly sensitive and crazy.
DH went with me and thankfully he has a flexible work schedule (he works from home) so we were able to go to dinner that night. I don't think you are being too sensitive but I think you need to figure out what would make it better for you. In your place, I wouldn't necessarily expect plans to be canceled but might plan for a celebratory dinner a few days later to celebrate your big u/s.
DD -- 5YO
DS -- 3YO
I'm not really sure what the issue is. He's going to be w/ you AT the appt, right? So why does it matter if he drives you there or not, or if you all are together the next couple days or not? I'm not sure why this is an event that requires being together afterwards?
And for the record, my DH was gone the entire weekend after we found out too - so.... that's why I'm confused on what you're upset about. Finding out the gender was fun, but it's not something that required us to be together....
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DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
I'm with the girls who don't see what the big deal is. If he's there with you for the u/s, why does he have to be there after? Maybe I'm missing something, but I don't get why he has to be with you for the few days after you find out what you're having.
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First of all, how fun is it that you are finding out the sex of your baby?! That is going to be such a fun day. Second, enjoy having your DH there for at least the time that you have him. It sounds like it is just one of those bad timing things and that he is not otherwise unavailable to you right? Definitely go shopping after you get the news or treat yourself to a spa visit or dinner out with your girlfriends. Just do something fun for yourself. When he comes back in town, you two can celebrate then. I have a feeling you will still be pretty excited. Congratulations!
Hmm... since it's bothering you and that's what matters...
Maybe you can take a totally different approach and have your OB write your baby's sex on a slip of paper and open it together on Thanksgiving/Christmas/Hanukkah or whatever special day you have coming up when you'll be together for certain.
I think this is a great idea! FWIW, I am so sorry that you feel this way. My hubby is a hunter/fisher/workaholic too, so I know where you are coming from at times. But it also feels nice to relax when he is off doing his thing. Maybe he can take an hour after the appointment to hang out with you before he goes off to his weekend. Good Luck