Pregnant after IF

my ultrasound results

There is no baby. 

Bloodwork today will decide if I will just 'miscarry' naturally or if I have to take medication.

Even though I've read so many stories on this board alone that should have taught me that IF is cruel and heartbreaking and unfair, I still cannot believe that it can hurt this much.  My heart is utterly broken.  

I am grateful for the support I received on this board for my very short time visiting.  Wishing all of you ladies the healthiest and happiest wishes for your pregnancies!

Re: my ultrasound results

  • Oh no. I'm so sorry.  This is heartbreaking.  Please take care of yourself and do whatever you need to, in order to deal with this.

    Big hugs.

    Renee- 37 DH - Chad - 39
    2/06 - surprise pregnancy - twins
    3/06 - m/c 1st baby at 6 weeks 
    5/06 -2nd baby had no heartbeat at 14 wks.
    D&E - Bled out. Blood transfusions. Week in ICU - Cheated Death!
    Diagnosis: Blood clotting and bleeding disorder, immune issues, & cervical stenosis
    5/10 - 1st IVF cycle - BFN
    FET - 10/12/10 - BFN
    1/11 - IVF with PGD - BFN
    IVF - May - BFN
    6/11 New RE - fingers crossed!
    9/11 - IVF - 4 transferred
    10/13 - BFP!!
    It's a boy! Clint Michael, Due in June!!!

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  • Oh no, I'm so sorry.  It's a terrible situation to be in. 

    When I m/c'd last year, I opted to try to let it happen naturally (and had to wait another 10 days after the u/s before it started, which was hard).  If I had not m/c'd by the time I got close to 10 wks, my OB would have induced it with the meds.  She said it's most effective if you do it before 10 weeks, but can cause very painful cramping (they do it in the office and make you stay there the whole day to make sure you're not bleeding too heavily).  Good luck with whatever you decide -- I know both options suck. 

     ((Hugs))


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  • I'm so sorry.

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  • Oh no! But... is it maybe too early? I thought you only very recently got your BFP.

    I'm so sorry things didn't go as planned today.  ((hugs))

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    After 22 cycles and 4 failed IUIs, Serafina joined our family through IVF/ICSI, born 8.28.12
    Our surprise baby, Juliette, is due 12.8.14!

  • Today was 6 weeks, and the doctor said there was absolutely zero percent chance that it was a viable pregnancy.  At the very, very least, a sack should be clearly visible.

    He recommended I do the meds today or tomorrow ... unless my HCG is down in the 100s then he said it's already happening and I can just stop the PIO, etc and let it happen.  That would definitely be my wish, since he also prescribed vicodin and xanax with the 'miscarriage' drug  (sorry I cant remember the name, it's a suppository)   and the nurse warned that cramping and bleeding could be pretty bad. 

     

  • Oh sweetheart, I am so very sorry.  IF is so painful, and nothing can prepare you.  It is a pain no one should ever have to go through, and yet so many of us do.  You'll be in my T&P. 
    TTC with PCOS since November 2009
    IUI#1 Femara/Ovidrel (cd 3-7) = BFP, m/c
    IUI#2 Femara/Ovidrel (cd 5-9) = BFN
    IUI#3 Femara/Ovidrel (cd 3-7) = BFP!
    beta #1 11/23 = 270, P4 = 75
    beta #2 11/28 = 2055
    Our daughter E was born 7/29/2012!
    Surprise, our 2nd daughter P was born 5/22/14!
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  • I am so sorry. That is heartbreaking. ((hugs))

    IVF #1 ET 1 d3 embryo 10/30/11 BFP
    3 Embryos frozen (1 d5, 2 d6)

    DS born 07/29/12

    FET #1 ET 1 d5 embryo 02/10/15 BFN

    FET #2 1 d6 embryo didn't survive thaw, transferred last d6. CP :(

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    Today was 6 weeks, and the doctor said there was absolutely zero percent chance that it was a viable pregnancy.  At the very, very least, a sack should be clearly visible.

    He recommended I do the meds today or tomorrow ... unless my HCG is down in the 100s then he said it's already happening and I can just stop the PIO, etc and let it happen.  That would definitely be my wish, since he also prescribed vicodin and xanax with the 'miscarriage' drug  (sorry I cant remember the name, it's a suppository)   and the nurse warned that cramping and bleeding could be pretty bad. 

     

    I didn't realize you were already 6 weeks. I'm so sorry this happened to you.   :(

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  • Oh I am so very sorry to hear this.  Big hugs to you. 
    TTC since 2006
    Me: 36 DH: 40
    DH dx azoospermia My dx: RA & AMA
    d-IUI's--6/10, 7/13 & 8/4: all BFN
    d-IVF#1--Lupron/Menopur/Bravelle/Novarel; mini-dose protocol
    ER: 10/25--18R; 14F; ET: 10/28--3dt of 2 embies; 3 blasts frozen
    + HPT 11/4; Beta #1--14dp3dt: 441; Beta #2--21dp3dt: 9298
    One beautiful jelly bean growing! Saw h/b on 11/28 and 12/5!!!
    P/SAIF welcome
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  • I'm so sorry.  Please take care of yourself.

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    Trying for #1 since May 2010   l   DX ~ Unexplained Infertility June 2011

    IUI #1&2 = BFN; IUI #3 = BFP, m/c @ 6 weeks

    November '11 ~ IVF#1 ~ ER 11/18 (29R, 17F) ~ 5dt of one beautiful blast on 11/23 = BFP!!

    Beta #1 9dp5dt = 116, P4 = 28 ~ Beta #2 13dp5dt = 700 ~ Beta #3 20dp5dt = 9500, P4 = 26

    1st u/s 12/27 - hb of 156!! EDD 8.10.12 :)   **TEAM GREEN!**

    Sweet baby boy born 8.18.12

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    Trying for #2

    FET #1 - October '13 - c/p   l   FET #2 - December '13 - cancelled :(   l   FET #2.2 - 1.30.14 - BFN

    ~ More testing - hysteroscopy, endometrial biopsy & more b/w - all normal / negative~

    Surprise BFP while waiting on FET #3 ~ beta #1 500; beta #2 1600; first u/s 4/3 - measuring 5w5d, no hb yet!; 2nd u/s 4/10 - hb 132, measuring 6w6d - EDD 11.29.14 :)    **TEAM GREEN!**

    Beautiful baby girl born 11.24.14

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  • I'm so sorry to hear this news. T&P for you. (((hugs)))
    TTC Since July 2008.
    Me: PCOS DH: Low everything (MFI)
    Clomid with TI x 3 2010 BFN
    Clomid+IUI+Ovidrel 2010 BFN
    IVF w/ICSI #1 2011
    9/8/11 Beta #1: 2082!! 9/19/11 Beta#2 34,689!! U/S 9/22/11 HR 127! 11/8/11 HR 150! 12/6/11 HR 136! 12/14/11 HR 139! Born at 26w2d on 2/4/2012! After 83 days in the NICU, Adalyn came home on 4/26/12!
    FET 1 3/2013 BFN
    FET 2 5/2013 BFN
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  • I am so sorry to hear this.  T&Ps are with you.
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  • My heart breaks for you and your DH.  I am so sorry for your loss and wish there was something more to say to give you comfort.
    TTC since 3-08 IVF # 1 Dec 2011 BFP DD born at 31 weeks 6-24-12

    FET #1 Dec 2013 BFN

    FET # 2 Feb 2014 BFN

    No more frosties

    IVF #2. September 2014

    PGD yielded 2 perfect 5d blasts

    SET November 9, 2014
    Nov 23, 2014. Another BFN

    Not sure where to go from here.

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  • I am so very sorry. ((hugs))
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  • Honey I am heartbroken for you.  I can't even imagine how you're feeling.  IF is absolutely cruel, just know there's nothing you've done wrong.  Allow yourself to grieve before you decide what to do next and try to be kind to yourself.  BIG HUGS.
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  • I am so, so sorry. I know how devastating it is, and my thoughts and prayers are with you. 
    MFI and (now) AMA
    IVF 1 April 2011 - Cancelled
    IVF 1.5 July 2011 - MC
    IVF 2 October 2011 - BFP!
    *Identical Twin Boys born June 2012*
    Here we go again...IVF 3 is underway!
  • (((hugs))) I am so sorry for your bad news:( It is a horrible experience to see no baby or a baby that has stopped developing on an ultrasound. Sending you lots of thoughts and prayers.
    IUIs #1-3 (1x unmedicated, 2x Clomid) = 2 BFNs, 1 m/c at 7w3d
    IUIs #4-6 (injects) = 3 BFNs
    IVF #1 = BFN
    FET #1 = BFN
    FET #2 = BFN
    IVF #2 = BFP, b/g twins lost at 20w due to partial abruption/PPROM
    IVF #3 = c/p 5w2d
    Long-shot Clomid/Prednisone cycle before next IVF = BFP, our beautiful, healthy girl born 6/26/13!
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    TTC again March 2014
    FET #3 - May/June 2014
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    all embryos arrested before xfer - back to the drawing board...
    IVF #4 - July/August 2014 
    beta 1 (11dp3dt) 220, beta 2 (13dp3dt) 671, beta 3 (19dp3dt) 10762
  • I am so sorry for your loss, I hope to see you back here soon.
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    DX: Severe MFI 9/1/11
    Because of Undescended testicle at birth
    IVF #1 October BFN; 5 snowbabies
    FET: November/December 2011
    ET: 12/7/11; Beta 1: 12/16/11: 66 Beta 2: 12/19/11: 212! 1st ultrasound 1/3/12! Graduated 1/10/12: heartbeat 160
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  • I am so incredibly sorry.
    *****PAIFW/ SAIFW***** Me 28 DH 28 MFI- told IVF only choice Me-Anovulatory, HSG-clear 3/11 IVF-1 converted to IUI due to 3 dominant follicles-BFN IVF 1.1 ER:6/28 27 eggs 17 fertilized ICSI ET:7/1 2: 8 cell embryos 15 frosties Beta: 7/12-BFN FET:3 day transfer 3 embryos BFP! Beta 10dp3=87 Beta 13dp3=301 Beta 17dp3=1776 Ultrasound 6weeks 3 days 1 hearbeat of 125bpm and a gestational sacBravado Bras at Nurtured Family
  • I'm so, so sorry for your loss. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
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  • I'm so sorry. 
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    MFI, Lap on 7/21/11 - Stage III/IV Endo and Polyps removed by D&C
    IVF #1 with ICSI - ER 1/20 (16R, 12M, 10F), ET 1/23 (1-10 cell and 1-8cell transferred), BFP on 1/31 Beta #1 on 2/3 = 68, Beta #2 on 2/6 = 261 EDD 10/12/12  
    Baby girl born 9/22/12

    FET #1 - 9/16/13 - BFN

    IVF #2 - ER 11/11/13 (24R, 18M, 16F), ET 11/16 (2 Grade A blasts)
    BFP on 11/23 Beta #1 = 76 EDD 8/2/14


  • I'm so sorry for your loss.
    ttc since 02/10 first RE visit 01/11 Clomid + TI 03/11, 04/11, 05/11 IUI 06/11, 07/11 IVF #1 - BFN :( FET - 11/11 beta 11/21/11 BFP!!! :). Beta 1 - 319, Beta 2 - 921 1st ultrasound 12/1 TWINS!! Lilypie First Birthday tickers
  • I'm so sorry - you'll be in my thoughts and prayers.
    TTC August 2011 - Diagnosed PCOS Nov: 100mg Clomid; BFP -> C/P Dec: 150mg Clomid; BFN Jan: 150mg Clomid; BFP!! Beta #1: 164, Beta #2: 304, Beta #3: 634, Beta #4: 1980 BabyFruit Ticker
  • I'm so sorry sweetie. It's so heartbreaking. Please take care of yourself.
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  • Oh, I am so sorry! :(
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  • I am so, so sorry. That is a terrible thing to have to go through. I wish you and your DH peace during this difficult time. 

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  • Oh I'm so sorry!
  • I'm so sorry - sending support your way.
    38. DH 40. TTC since 2005.
    Earlier m/c. DX (finally) 10/10: abnormal acrosome.
    ICSI #1 3dt 11/20/11 HPT BFP 11/30 Our beautiful daughters were born July 28, 2012.

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  • I'm so sorry, hun...{{{ Huge Hugs}}}
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  • ((hugs)) I'm so very sorry for your loss.
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  • I am so, so sorry.  ((((hugs))))
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  • Oh no, I am so, so sorry. (((BIG HUGS)))
    4/08 BFP resulted in m/c
    8/08 BFP resulted in m/c
    3/09 Polyp removed and dx MTHFR (both copies)
    6 Clomid cycles, all BFN
    5/09 IUI#1 with Clomid=BFN
    6/09 IUI#2 with Clomid=BFN
    8/09 IUI#3 with Clomid=BFN
    IVF#1 = BFN
    IVF#2 = BFN
    IVF#3 ET 2 Grade A blasts 11/16/11
    Beta #1: 485
    Beta #2: 2,495
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  • Thank you, so very much for the support and kind words!!  I appreciate it so much, words really can't express!
  • I just want to add my voice to say how very sorry I am.  I too have been through that horrible ultrasound experience and it was one of the very worst moments of my life.  I really, really feel for you, and hope you'll be back on this board soon.
    me - 41 (dx: DOR); DH - 53 (no problems); 7/18/09 - married!; 8/4/09 - BFP on first (real)try; 9/14/09 - missed m/c; 9/15/09 - d&c; 11/09 - 3/10 - 4 natural cycles = BFN; 4/10 - dx hyperthyroidism caused by Graves' disease; 6/10 - thyroidectomy; 7/10 - 12/10 - 1 natural and 5 medicated IUI cycles = BFN; 1/11 - new RE; dx low ovarian reserve (AMH .42; 1/26/11 -- BFP (ectopic) from IUI #6; methotrexate 2/10/11; 6/2/11 - IVF #1 = BFN; 9/12/11 - prescreening for DE; 9/15/11 - IUI #7 (unmedicated)= BFN; 11/8 - begin DE cycle (shared risk program); 12/5 - ER (5 eggs/4 mature/3 fertilized/2 left by day 5) 12/10 - ET of one 1BB blast (expanded, "fair" quality), none to freeze; 12/22 - totally shocked by +hpt; beta #1 = 413; #2 = 3952 2/14 - CVS reveals a healthy baby girl! EDD: 8/27/12 DD born 8/31/12, 10 lbs 10 oz and perfect in every way. 
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