I have a confession...Please help!

Happily Overwhelmed · February 2012

I'm pretty embarassed to say this but as I keep reading more and more posts I need to come out with it...

LO doesn't have a "bedtime" nor does he have any sort of "schedule".

Honestly, at this age I was unaware it mattered. But I guess it does? Or are the schedules more to help out the parents?

And how do you manage to set this? Like do you wake LO up if you feel he needs to be awake?

MrsT2008 · February 2012

DD set her own schedule and we're just running with it.

I wasn't going to be worried about helping set one until she was more like 3-4 months, but since she moved toward this on her own, I won't complain Smile

beka0404 · February 2012

My LO isn't on a schedule... It's more of a pattern. I don't expect any real schedule until she's older.

slmayer1981 · February 2012

Our "schedule" is pretty much to help mommy and daddy out...meaning we want to maximize the amout of sleep we're getting. We put her to bed when we go to bed, anywhere from 10-midnight. How long she sleeps as well as the rest of the day is up to her. I think babies pretty much do what the want at this point. We have established a bedtime routine in hopes that it will help with day/night confusion. We get 4-5 hr stretches at night. She's 7 weeks today.

InTheSun · February 2012

beka0404:
My LO isn't on a schedule... It's more of a pattern. I don't expect any real schedule until she's older.

This! And I'm in the same boat as the OP, I felt like a terrible parent for not having a "schedule". When I read the previous post about schedules I had a brief discussion with my husband about it.

Greenbaby3114 · February 2012

Our schedule is eat every 3 hours give or take 30 min and whatever he does in between...sleep...play...poop...it's up to him. We do bath (every other night), swaddle, and rock around 10:00 around a bedtime routine.

hlc820 · February 2012

No schedule here....the only consistency is that I never let him nap after 9pm......he is woken up if he is sleeping and most nights hes up fussing. He gets a bath and bottle of BM from. DH and then DH attemps to put him down between 10-10:30. that is the only consistent thing we do. Everything else is up to LO. He has patterns for sure but as for times, etc....i got nada!

iluvmylab · February 2012

beka0404:
My LO isn't on a schedule... It's more of a pattern. I don't expect any real schedule until she's older.

This.

Happily Overwhelmed · February 2012

InTheSun:

beka0404:
My LO isn't on a schedule... It's more of a pattern. I don't expect any real schedule until she's older.

This! And I'm in the same boat as the OP, I felt like a terrible parent for not having a "schedule". When I read the previous post about schedules I had a brief discussion with my husband about it.

I too talked to DH about it. He just kinda rolled his eyes. I think we both think babies will do what babies do.

I'm totally feeling better after reading responses!

rockychryslerb2010 · February 2012

iluvmylab:
beka0404:
My LO isn't on a schedule... It's more of a pattern. I don't expect any real schedule until she's older.
This.

Us too. Although, the last few days DS has been more consistent with his pattern.

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robynlynn83 · February 2012

I've never pushed a schedule with any of my kids. Once they start to show a pattern of falling asleep around a certain time repeatedly, we go with it. With all four kids it has been anywhere from 6-730 around 8 weeks and it has lasted. All of my kids are in bed at 730ish still, even my kindergartener. When your baby is ready, he or she will set the right time for bed.

cdmiesuk · February 2012

I feel like they will figure their schedules out on their own. You can encourage him to be awake in the day and asleep at night but mostly I think it'll just take time.

NaturalBlond · February 2012

Thank god for this post. We have no schedule. We just do what works. And for us what works is what she dictates. I know this will have to change eventually...

Rosie24 · February 2012

No

Rosie24 · February 2012

No real schedule here either. We follow her lead and we also see a pattern forming.

KeyLime81 · February 2012

We have a bedtime routine so that LO gets the idea that it's time to sleep, but that's it. Feedings, naps, etc...it's just on his demand during the day. I will say it's kind of nice not having a set-in-stone schedule tor run my day.

michelle142 · February 2012

DS set his own at about 4 weeks. We've just been rolling with that and it works out pretty well.

co baby1 · February 2012

KeyLime81:
We have a bedtime routine so that LO gets the idea that it's time to sleep, but that's it. Feedings, naps, etc...it's just on his demand during the day. I will say it's kind of nice not having a set-in-stone schedule tor run my day.

This is really us too, LO has some patterns and tells us when what we are trying to keep her doing isn't working (bedtime). Our bedtime routine is bath (sponge bath every other night), massage/lotion, DH bottle feeds half the bottle, then we do her nose and swaddle, finish the bottle and rock to sleep.

liveandlove10 · February 2012

We don't have a schedule either. DH and I have been trying to get DD on one, but she doesn't cooperate so we've kind of given up on it.

That said, I do try to get her down around the same time each night but most times it's to no avail because she ends up waking up 10 minutes later and I'm up till at least 2:00am.

She'll start daycare next Wednesday so I know once she starts going things will change anyways. I'll try harder to get her on one after she's become adjusted to daycare and I'm back in the flow of going to work.

erinemcg · February 2012

I'm in this boat! No schedule to speak of, just following his lead!

OurJellybean · February 2012

We started ours at 6 weeks and it made a world of difference, it's nice to have some routine... Even if it doesn't go as planned all the time

juepnunes · February 2012

We also have no schedule here. If baby wants to sleep, she does. We are usually in bed by midnight and up by 10am, which works great for me, I am not a morning person anyway.

MesmrEwe · February 2012

DS has a schedule... His own and we are at his mercy...

wintersnight20 · February 2012

Psht I wish we had a schedule. The last few days I've had a fussy or playful baby who woke up every 15 minutes and today he's mostly slept. he's asleep right now and I'm so used to being up every two hours that I'm wide awake -.-;;

Bookwormyone · February 2012

V does what she wants when she wants. At this point, any time she's not spitting up/crying I count as a bonus.

uncharch7 · February 2012

they're too young to be put on a schedule... DS has a pretty predictable routine so we just go with it. like anything, it's subject to change.

EvenAngelsFall · February 2012

Happily Overwhelmed:
I'm pretty embarassed to say this but as I keep reading more and more posts I need to come out with it...

LO doesn't have a "bedtime" nor does he have any sort of "schedule".

Honestly, at this age I was unaware it mattered. But I guess it does? Or are the schedules more to help out the parents?

And how do you manage to set this? Like do you wake LO up if you feel he needs to be awake?

We have nothing that resembles a schedule either! Both DH and I (when I am working anyway) have inconsistent evening schedules. It will be impossible to keep to one. We are trying to have the same *routine*, but like you, we are going by LO's cues. Sometimes he is down for the night at 8, sometimes 10. But its nice not trying to bribe him to go to sleep when we want, he goes on his own when he is ready and actually stays asleep for a 6-7 hour stretch. I am not sure he would do that is we *put him down*.

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