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SallyAnneS
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rolling in bed and screaming, how to stop without cio??
SallyAnneS
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I lurk here a lot but usually don't post but I am hoping you can help me.
My son has just started to roll back to belly in his crib. He doesn't roll belly to back and he doesn't sleep on his stomach. The last week of naps and overnight sleep have been hard because as soon as he is laid in bed he rolls to his belly and starts to scream. We go in and flip him over to calm him back down and after a few times he is usually asleep. This isn't a huge problem. The big problem is that at around 4am he starts rolling over and screaming. We go in and flip him and he has rolled back over again before we even leave his room. We might get a 30 minute span of sleep between 4am and 7:30am when he gets up for the day. The rest of the time is just spent trying to flip him and keep him calm. We are running out of steam.
The tips I have read googling thus include putting a sleep positioner so he can't roll over, which I have tried but he just grabs onto the bars of the crib and pulls himself over. and to let him cry it out. I don't want to have him cio, seems cruel to not go to him when he is obviously scared. And when on his stomach he pushes up on his arms and also grabs to try and pull up in the crib. So it isn't like he is in a laying to go to sleep position.
Please give me some suggestions. As I type this I have had to go to him 3 times and he just started to scream again....
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Re: rolling in bed and screaming, how to stop without cio??
My Lo did this when she was learning to crawl. It's like they are driven to practice in their sleep or something.
I started to swaddle her again - first with a swaddling blanket, then I bought a woombie because she would break out of the swaddle. She hated it, but it prevented her from rolling over and trying to crawl in her sleep, and it worked for us.
We swaddled for the first few months off and on and she didn't mind. then the crawling stage came at 6 months and we started swaddling again. She hated it and would fight against it/cry. But once I would start nursing her she would calm down and go to sleep. With the woombie we left her arms out and just had her legs in it so she couldn't crawl. Until she was stronger and she was able to do it anyway. : but it bought us time - a few months - of semi-peaceful sleep.
She did cry, but I was with her, so I don't consider it CIO. She was just mad and never really freaked out or was scared. By that age I could tell what type of cry it was.
It will probably resolve itself as he figures out how to move himself around better.
Also... don't confuse not wanting to "cry it out" with never, ever letting your child cry. It's not the end of the world if a baby cries for a minute out of frustration. If you're constantly running in to flip him, he'll never have a chance to figure it out himself, will he?
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Token, I think that has been part of my problem. Not letting him get frustrated enough and helping to much. And now I am paying the price. I don't want him to feel abandoned but I am not giving him enough independance either.
After my post I needed a break or I was going to lose my mind. And I let him cry (and me cry) and about 15 minutes later his arms gave out and he slept for 20 minutes. It was awful. But he was okay and other then being mad at me for a bit afterwards we are okay. I don't want to have him scream like that, but now I feel like I can let him have a few minutes in the middle of the night to try and work it out himself before I try and fix everything for him.
All I really have to offer is a "this, too, shall pass" comment. In a few days he'll adjust! Then, he'll learn something else new - like sitting up on his own, then standing - and it starts all over! This worked well with our partial bedsharing ways - I just put him in our bed when I didn't have the 3am patience anymore. Hang in there!