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wdyt: babysitter "stealing"

heybabeheybabe
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So we hang out with my H's business partner and his fam a good bit. My H and his partner are really good friends. The wife & I are friends and get along well, but only do things together with our husbands/fams.

H and I have had the same weekend babysitter for about 3 years now. He sits for us on a weekend night probably once every 4-6 weeks. He is usually very reliable and eager to sit for us. He works at a DC and babysits for some of the kids there, too on occasion, so we are not his only family.

So business partner & wife wanted to find a sitter for a regular Thurs night date night. He tells this to H & asks H if he can have our sitter's number. H doesn't see an issue b/c they're talking about Thurs nights & we only ever use the sitter on weekend nights so he gives him his number.

Sitter started sitting for them every other Thurs night. Since then, the 3 times I've asked him to sit for us on weekends, he said he can't b/c he's busy. I know he's not babysitting for partner & wife on weekends, but I suspect he has cut down on his weekend sitting b/c he now has a regular Thurs night gig.

I'm kind of pissy about sitch. H shrugged & said, "It's a marketplace. He got a better deal. We can't force him to babysit for us." UGH. I know, but I think it was not cool of partner & wife to "lure" him away.

WDYT? Should I get over it? It's a free country. I can't make people babysit for me. Or am I justified in being a little po'd that they "stole" our sitter?

eta: I may dd later. I may or may not just be in a hormonal funk. ;) 

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  • Mrs.PurdueMrs.Purdue

    I don't think  you can be po'd at the partner/wife for 'luring' your babysitter away, but you CAN be po'd at your husband for any reason at all, and this one sounds as good as any!

    partner/wife probably have no idea that he's turning you down now, they didn't think he would do that when they hired him, etc.  they just needed a baby sitter (and admitted that it was for a regular gig) and your DH gave them the info.  he knew the information up front, so it doesn't seem like they've done anything shady here.  

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  • FeistyFilleFeistyFille
    I think babysitters are pretty temporary no matter what the circumstances. They get older, move away, get SO's who they want to spend their weekends with, etc, etc.  You really don't know that the other family stole this person away by the sounds of it.  Next time you talk to him, can you ask if he'd recommend someone else? Maybe there are other people at his DC that do this as well, or he knows someone who would be good with kiddos and needs the money.
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  • ACRACR
    If he was sitting for your friends on the weekends, I'd be ticked. Otherwise, I'd let it go.
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  • heybabeheybabe
    imageMrs.Purdue:

    I don't think  you can be po'd at the partner/wife for 'luring' your babysitter away, but you CAN be po'd at your husband for any reason at all, and this one sounds as good as any!

    partner/wife probably have no idea that he's turning you down now, they didn't think he would do that when they hired him, etc.  they just needed a baby sitter (and admitted that it was for a regular gig) and your DH gave them the info.  he knew the information up front, so it doesn't seem like they've done anything shady here.  

    Haha, you're right! I *should* be pissed at H! ;) 

    No, I know. They definitely were not trying to pull anything shady. I just wish they had found some other sitter instead of our regular sitter, ya know?

    Ok, so who's gonna give me the number of their babysitter? :)  

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  • KDM2006KDM2006
    Having the same sitter for 3 years is pretty awesome! I wouldn't give up so easily on finding a new one. Talk with sitter and see if you can work out a schedule in advance that would work for both of you.  I would of course throw in some possibly bs about how much your kids "miss" him.  Good luck!
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  • rssnlvrrssnlvr

    I kept rereading this wondering where the part was where the babysitter stole something.

    ^no help at all.

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  • MrsAJLMrsAJL member

    I agree with your H. They didn't steal your sitter. He sits for them on Thursdays. Just because your sitter wants to free up his weekends is not the the couple's fault.

     

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  • heybabeheybabe
    imageMrsAJL:

    I agree with your H. They didn't steal your sitter. He sits for them on Thursdays. Just because your sitter wants to free up his weekends is not the the couple's fault.

     

     Yeah, I'm just being too possessive of our babysitter, but it's hard to find a good one, y'all. And this sitter is fabulous. And he knows us and our routines. And the boys love him. Sigh. I'm just dreading having to find a new, good sitter, if, indeed, he is off the market.   
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  • kiarox2002kiarox2002

    imageACR:
    If he was sitting for your friends on the weekends, I'd be ticked. Otherwise, I'd let it go.

    This.  I'd call and offer him more money. 

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  • MrsAJLMrsAJL member
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    imageMrsAJL:

    I agree with your H. They didn't steal your sitter. He sits for them on Thursdays. Just because your sitter wants to free up his weekends is not the the couple's fault.

     

     Yeah, I'm just being too possessive of our babysitter, but it's hard to find a good one, y'all. And this sitter is fabulous. And he knows us and our routines. And the boys love him. Sigh. I'm just dreading having to find a new, good sitter, if, indeed, he is off the market.   

    Now given my opinion, a good babysitter is so hard to find and losing one would bring me to tears. My best babysitters are my parents. Luckily my sister and her husband don't have children yet or you can better believe I'd throw down with her to get on their schedule first. Smile


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