Anyone else waiting until 14+ weeks to tell?

noah-bear · February 2012

The only ones who know right now are my aunt and grandmother. We're waiting until the 12th to tell anyone else and do our "FB announcement". I'd like to wait until we know the gender, but with my dad's parents being so close, I know we can't keep avoiding them for 7 more weeks and we don't want them knowing before my parents do.

Just seeing if there's anyone else out there waiting as long.

Andreabks · February 2012

wish i could have waited that long. everyone important to us knows at this point. i just can never keep it to myself that long. especially when my sisters were calling every couple of days asking if we'd tested yet. (for like 2 months straight)

noah-bear · February 2012

Andreabks:
wish i could have waited that long. everyone important to us knows at this point. i just can never keep it to myself that long. especially when my sisters were calling every couple of days asking if we'd tested yet. (for like 2 months straight)

I think it's 100x easier for us because we just moved 1200 miles from our family. Otherwise, it'd have come out sooner with my bloat being very obvious.

briast20 · February 2012

Yep. Waiting until after the a/s to officially announce anything. My parents and my best friend know now, but no one else until after the a/s. Most of my family and friends are out of town so I won't be running into them or anything, and I'm a SAHM, so I don't have to think about announcing at work.

I'm only waiting because of my previous loss. I'm sure if the situation were different I'd announce sooner.

tucci013 · February 2012

Our closest friends and families already know. We will wait until 13-14 weeks to tell those not so close (although I think many already suspect) and I won't tell work until I start to show. We are not doing any sort of FB announcement.

Andreabks · February 2012

later loss was part of the reason we announced to select people early. we have a few family members who've been really supportive (set up prayer chains aparently) since our first loos at 17w, so we let them know right off.

That and MIL and SMIL are just as if not more excited than i am about this, especialy as smil never got to go thought all this herself. if we lose anotherone, we just have than many more people offering support. but this is just us.

Kasi80 · February 2012

We're slowly telling people but won't be announcing anything on FB. FB annoys me so I rarely ever post anything on there anyway.

noah-bear · February 2012

Kasi80:
We're slowly telling people but won't be announcing anything on FB. FB annoys me so I rarely ever post anything on there anyway.

Lol, sadly that's the only way that some "family" and friends stay in contact with us so it'd be the only way they'd know.

Mzshell13 · February 2012

::Raises hand::

So far, only our parents and a few coworkers (who witnessed me running to the bathroom) know. I'll be 14 weeks tomorrow and will tell my extended family and close friends at my son's bday party on Saturday. And that's only because it's getting really hard to hide it. I won't be telling on FB until at least 20 weeks, maybe longer.

Just being cautious because of my previous loss. With my son my entire family knew by 8 weeks, though I still didn't make a FB announcement until 20.

TravelSnob · February 2012

If I had a choice I wouldn't tell anyone until after I gave birth but unfortunately my body is starting to betray me so we're starting to tell everyone now.

My husband, parents, MIL and so on also are bursting to tell everyone the news so since we got to see baby yesterday they figure they will tell everyone they know now. I'm still concerned that there is something that will happen but I guess I can't live in fear of the what ifs.

pinkpepsi · February 2012

I am waiting till after my ultrasound next week, especially after the dreams I had last night. I have suddenly gotten over the major urge to tell a lot of people. But a couple people do know already. Just haven't announced it to the world or my family yet.

irer · February 2012

We've told family and some friends already, but I won't go "public" until after the 20 week scan. This was what we did with ds and I just feel more comfortable that way.

Kasi80 · February 2012

noah-bear:

Kasi80:
We're slowly telling people but won't be announcing anything on FB. FB annoys me so I rarely ever post anything on there anyway.

Lol, sadly that's the only way that some "family" and friends stay in contact with us so it'd be the only way they'd know.

My poor family that I keep in touch with on FB will probably never know unless my mom or dad mentions it. I have some cousins and other family members that have had more than one loss and are struggling with fertility issues so I'm hesitant to post anything on FB. After my loss I hated FB because of all the pregnancy posts and I know it might hurt them so I'm better off telling them in a different manner. I did announce my pregnancy on FB the last time but I miscarried the next day so I'm also kind of hesitant to do that again. I'm not superstitious but to have to "un"announce again would suck should things not go the way I want them to. Sorry, for the long response...just a little bit of my situation and why the decision not to tell everyone.

noah-bear · February 2012

Kasi80:

My poor family that I keep in touch with on FB will probably never know unless my mom or dad mentions it. I have some cousins and other family members that have had more than one loss and are struggling with fertility issues so I'm hesitant to post anything on FB. After my loss I hated FB because of all the pregnancy posts and I know it might hurt them so I'm better off telling them in a different manner. I did announce my pregnancy on FB the last time but I miscarried the next day so I'm also kind of hesitant to do that again. I'm not superstitious but to have to "un"announce again would suck should things not go the way I want them to. Sorry, for the long response...just a little bit of my situation and why the decision not to tell everyone.

I very much understand, before my losses I only had my HS friends and family on my FB. I was that naive girl who posted right after the stick dried and after the first loss, I learned. I did "un"tell Facebook and kept the next pregnancy quite. When I lost that one I put up that I had another angel in heaven. Only my mother and aunt knew I was pregnant before I actually lost LO.

If something were to happen this time, I'd still put up something even if I had never "announced" on there in the first place.

babyike · February 2012

Our families and close friends know already, but we're waiting to let everyone else know until after my 14 week appt next week. We didn't tell with DD or DS until 15-16 weeks. Just our own comfort zone I guess.

sdlaura · February 2012

Yes, after getting the really bad news with our first at our anatomy scan (up until that point everything was normal, and the NT scan went great), we won't be announcing this one until after the anatomy scan, which I plan to get the day I turn 18 weeks.

Oh, and like a previous poster said, we live really far (3,000 miles) from most family and friends, so it's a lot easier not to tell.

kristenreinert · February 2012

We are announcing to our families on Sunday, when I will be 14 weeks. I have my second appointment this afternoon where we have been told we will be able to hear the heartbeat, and we wanted to wait until after the first trimester. It's been super hard and I've kind of been avoiding my family so that it doesn't slip out. Best of luck with your announcements!

boymomstrong · February 2012

Honestly if I had my way I would wait to tell until I had a baby in my arms, but as my hubby is more confident than I am we will be announcing after our 14 week scan. I think its still too early, but our parents know and sibblings. Thats it for now.

As for a FB announcement, I am just going to put pictures up of the US. So many of my friends are having babies that i feel like people are getting burned out fast! However being Military we live away from family, and they are all on FB and its a big way we keep in touch... )

Good Luck.....

Tash13 · February 2012

Wish we could have! Unfortuantely, i'm starting to show so work will have to know this week. We had to tell family before I tell work because I work with my step-MIL and I obviously wanted to tell them first. Then I felt guilty that the in-laws would know but my family wouldn't just because they were across the country. So, immediately family and a few very VERY good friends know. I'm having my NT scan tonight and I'll be telling my bosses tomorrow.

ken&jennifer · February 2012

we did our facebook and reveal to the "other masses" at 14w exactly.

Close family knew at about 7w, work was told at 12.

abbzy85 · February 2012

I haven't told anyone and don't plan on doing so for a while. I see people all the time and am bloated as can be. I'm sure they all know, but whatever.

squireremillard · February 2012

I have told pretty much anyone that I have actually seen, but FB I don't plan to tell until way late. Its my 2nd and I'm not in a hurry to tell people I don't see regularly.