Is this weird? Regarding mom friends

chach916 · February 2012

So there is this girl who goes to my gym. Her kids are in the nursery with my kids and are about the same age. I've seen her a couple times at the gym and at the grovery store, we smile, say hi but thats about it. Last week we introduced ourselves and I asked her if she wanted to get kids together. She invited us over to have lunch with them today.

I've told DH and some other people about the above and they think I'm really weird that I approached a stranger to do a play date when I barely know her. DH says I'm essentially going on a blind date. I say a mom's gotta make friends where she can.

pepomntpat · February 2012

Why is that weird? How else do you meet new people? How else do you get to know someone other than hanging out?

Jillibean85 · February 2012

I don't think it's weird... Maybe if that was the first day you had ever seen her, and you just happened to notice she had kids and walked up to her THAT day, that would be weird.. But you've ran into eachother a few times by then, so i don't see a big deal.

CinemaGoddess · February 2012

I don't think it's weird that you approached her because it's not like you had no contact with her before talking about a play date.

I probably would've made the date for somewhere other than her home, but that's just my weirdness. I prefer to have initial playdates or meetups in a public place rather than a home.

KJmashup · February 2012

Not weird to me. I admire your ability to do something like this. My social anxiety ensures that I am a hermit who cannot meet new people without making things as awkward as possible.

Aloe0l · February 2012

not weird.

I wouldn't say you're total strangers, as you see each other regularly. It's not like this is the first time you've ever seen her and said "Hey, let's get together!"

BeerBeck · February 2012

CinemaGoddess:

I don't think it's weird that you approached her because it's not like you had no contact with her before talking about a play date.

I probably would've made the date for somewhere other than her home, but that's just my weirdness. I prefer to have initial playdates or meetups in a public place rather than a home.

All of this!

Personally, I am just paranoid and, as a result, would have had the first couple of meetings at a public location so that a) I didn't have to go to her house alone with my kids and b) she didn't know my address if I got a weird vibe later on.

cindyhow · February 2012

I don't think it's weird, we just had a playdate with DD's favorite friend from daycare, i didn't know the mom except from chatting at drop offs (we had a great time). I probably would keep it public if we had met elsewhere besides daycare but i don't find it that strange. have fun!

Brewtowngrl · February 2012

My closest friends in met on the interwebs. Even better...On the Knot. One rented part of my duplex from me and was DS1's sitter for awhile. We met IRL about 5 years ago and I don't know what I would do without them.

No I don't think it is weird. You have to have friends from somewhere and you have something in common already. Kids and the gym.

Ardmhs83 · February 2012

I don't think it is wierd. Wish I had mom friends...all of my friends are child free.

WildcatPrincess · February 2012

I went to the house of a girl I've met twice before. She just started coming to playgroup and invited my friend and I over for a play date, so we went. I'm going to take friends where I can get them!

karen_loy · February 2012

not weird, I wish I had mommy friends, the only one I have in my city is my sister

I'd probably try to set up a first playdate in a public place, but if you get a good vibe from this woman then I guess is ok to go to her place

Libby1978 · February 2012

I don't think it's weird at all.

scoutkate · February 2012

Not weird at all, and I'm envious of your gumption. I'm way too shy to initiate something like that!

BeachM · February 2012

Not weird. Every new friend is a stranger that you get to know better. The difference now is that we're not meeting them in school or always through other friends.

kerribear1717 · February 2012

Not weird at all. I've been casually talking with a mom at daycare when we see each other picking up our kids. Next step - play date.

If I were in your situation (gym time) I would've done the same.

ANJ410 · February 2012

I don't think that's weird at all!

After a few months of noticing another mom of 2 dropping her older one off at school everyday at the same time I drop my son off, I went up to her and asked her what her younger son's schedule looked like and it turned out that he naps and eats lunch at the same times my DD does, so I asked her if she would be interested in getting together since its hard to find other people to have playdates with who are available at the same times I am, and she loved the idea. Turned out she was having the same problem too, so now we get our younger kids together once a week for a playdate while the bigger ones are in school and we have become good friends.

Smootchy · February 2012

not weird. 1% weird to meet at a home for your first play date. But really, I understand that... It's nice to have the kids be able to run free in a "safe" environment while the moms can chat and sorta get to know each other. If you met at a park or some sort of playscape, you both would be running after your kids.

Again, not weird... Would have been weird if that was the first time you've even seen each other like other people said... But someone you keep seeing, totally not weird.

BelleIsa · February 2012

I don't think it's weird. How else do you make friends?

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