Telling your family you're pregnant.

MomOfTwo2012 · February 2012

I started thinking today back to when we started telling people about the baby. I thought it would be fun to hear everyone else's story about telling your family.

How long did you wait to tell people? DH couldnt wait so everyone found out the day after we did at four weeks.

Any memorable moments from telling your family? I remember calling my dad to tell him and having him argue with me for a good five minutes because he didn't believe me. I ended up having to send him a picture of the pregnancy test before it actually hit it him lol.

Editor's Note* Telling my husband.... I took the pregnancy test without telling my husband. Once it came up positive I took it to where he was sitting. Told him to close his eyes and hold out a hand. I put test in his hand and the first thing that came out of his mouth was "Omg you got me a candy bar while you were at the store!!" Haha no fatty open you eyes, you cant eat this

KatieMarie27 · February 2012

How long did you wait to tell people?
Told my best friend the night I took the test. Told DH 3 days later (he was working out of town) and told my family at about 12 weeks.

Any memorable moments from telling your family?
I made pictures of the sonogram with the words "Coming March 2012..." and a shamrock for my mom and dad. My dad wasn't home so I left him a picture on the dash of his truck. He ended up calling me later that day and was so excited. I told my mom and she immediately started crying and told her fiance that they were going to be grandparents! Good thing no one was around because you could have heard her from a mile away.

Teneniel · February 2012

I was so shocked I had to call my mom right away. She helped me calm down from being panicked and upset. Then hubs wanted to call his parents (he was not terrified like I was, just very VERY excited).

The best memory was when FIL put MIL on the phone, and hubs said "We're pregnant!." She excita-screamed. Twice. It made me feel a lot better.

lalyssalou · February 2012

After I got the BFP, I ran to the store for more tests, and when I came back, my MIL already knew! I was mighty irritated, but DH was so nervous he didn't know he could contain it, haha.

Since we got our BFP the weekend before the wedding, we waited until we'd been married two weeks (and had our first prenatal visit) before telling my folks. My mom said, "Well. That was fast, wasn't it?" ...I was already 12 weeks by this point!

krispy83 · February 2012

How long did you wait to tell people? We told my parents just a few days after finding out. We told my brothers just a couple of days after that (as soon as we saw them) and told DH's parents and siblings the next day. It was mostly based on how quickly we saw everyone after finding out. We waited to tell extended family and friends until after 12 weeks.

Any memorable moments from telling your family? My mom cried, which kinda suprised me. She was/is SO excited and happy for us. My ILs were not surprised, I expected them to be, but apparently DH's family had been expecting an announcement for a while. But my favorite moment was probably telling my brothers. They are twins so when they were younger and received the same present for birthdays, Christmas, etc. my mom would make them stand or sit back to back to open it (so that they didn't see each other's gifts before they finished opening their own). DH and I got them both mugs that said #1 Uncle on them and made them stand back to back to open them. I'm very close with my brothers and the looks on their faces were just awesome.

joygazz · February 2012

I waited 2 weeks to tell my husband. I was nervous. ( I am nervous about everything)

waited 10 weeks to tell my family..

Abby7 · February 2012

Told my sister the day I got the BFP...my mom the next day...DH a few days later, after I had confirmed doubling betas. Mom told my dad pretty much as soon as she knew, and DH told his parents at about 6 weeks.

I didn't tell anyone else till 16 weeks, because I was afraid I would start showing and people would talk. If it weren't for that, I could have held out forever. I was so afraid of jinxing it.

drewbon13 · February 2012

How long did you wait to tell people? Well, let's see...we told DH's family as soon as we found out. (We knew they were going to be more excited and positive about it than my family.) We also told my sister.

My father and brother and rest of my family found out after I had my first ultrasound at about 6 weeks along or so.

Any memorable moments from telling your family?

With DH's family it was great because we were down visiting for the weekend and his mom was talking about how she didn't know she was an aunt until her nephew was about 5 years old or so. DH and I looked at each other and calmly told her that well, she'll be a grandma here in about 8 months or so. She just about fell out of her chair, she was so happy!

And hoping to soften the impact when I told my dad, I actually went to a custom t-shirt place and had them put "I'm a Grandpa! (Again!)" on a shirt and mailed it to him. He thought it was hilarious and loved the shirt...but wasn't exactly the most pleased about it haha. My sister had her baby like four months or so before I got pregnant, so he couldn't help but saying that "Oh, your sister had one, so you had to jump on the bandwagon and have one too, huh?" :-/

adreajoy · February 2012

We called and told our families at 12 weeks.

They were like, Oh. Congrats I guess.

Our families kinda suck.

Babymamawithdrama · February 2012

I told my parents around 15 weeks, there was little hiding the fact I was pregnant again. My sister found out that she was pregnant (unexpected) and we were trying to let her have time to decide her route (keep or adopt). If she or my family knew I figured that would likely have some effect on her decision. With my son we told after we saw the heartbeat.... Not everyone in our families know of all of our losses so we preferred to wait.

lulling · February 2012

We didn't tell anyone until about 17 weeks. Nothing really memorable about it. I told my husband a few hours after I found out (he was at work.) He was floored!

bets1009 · February 2012

My DH was so excited we told our parents the day we found out and then we told his brother and sisters the next day.

The most memorable thing about finding out I was pregnant was that I found out on my best friends due date. She had her son 2 days before her due date and although I would have loved to be pregnant with her, it's kinda cool that we each got our own time to be pregnant!

jgal84 · February 2012

We told immediate family after the first u/s at 7 1/2 weeks. I also told my boss that day, because I was battling awful m/s and knew he would catch on. We told everyone else at 10 weeks, after I found the baby's heartbeat on my own with our doppler here at home. DH wanted to tell EVERYONE immediately, but I wanted to wait until 12/13 weeks. We compromised on the HR thing.

Pretty much everyone just said, "Wow! Already??" Confused

HalloweenWife · February 2012

How long did you wait to tell people? Well I took two pregnancy tests in July because I didn't feel right but DH didn't think I was actually pregnant because he couldn't see the line. Fast forward to August 5 and I took a digital one and it was positive! I seriously freaked DH out that day, he didn't talk much and was just trying to process it. We didn't have our first dr. appointment until August 15 so I had to keep it a secret for more than a week from my mom who I tell everything to! Torture! Then on the 15th we went to our appointment, got the confirmation that I was 10w 6d and went to work. After work we picked up the dog and I called my mom to tell her we were coming over to see the new boat they just bought. That's when we told everyone we've ever known! I couldn't stop smiling all day!

Any memorable moments from telling your family? My grandpa was the funniest. At Easter last year he told us we weren't allowed to add any more people to the family because there were too many of us already. Well, when I called him, I asked him how he felt about adding another one to the family and he went silent for a minute and then said "Get the hell out of town, kid!!" He is too funny. My cousin Stephanie was great too because she started screaming and running around her house searching for my aunt, uncle and two other cousins. It was priceless. And I still don't quite have all my hearing back from her screams!

mrscurlygurl · February 2012

How long did you wait to tell people?

People kind of found out in stages. We'd gone to Costa Rica for a week in July. I'd taken a test before we left "just in case" and it was negative. I was supposed to get Aunt Flo that week, but she decided not to join us on vacation. We got back on Saturday night and I took the test (well 4, actuatlly) the next morning. I could hardly believe it and just ran downstairs to show DH. We were both suprised, but very excited. That night, we went to a pool party at a friend's and she told us she was pregnant! She was about 6 weeks (I was estimating I was 4), but I knew I didn't want to tell them yet. (She later told me she knew something was up because I didn't react as excited as she'd expected...I was just in shock from both my news and hers). Anywho...the next day another BF and I went on a road trip to vist a friend. I almost made it the whole way home, but she started needling me with qustions and figured it out. So, since she now knew, I figured I had to tell my sister the next day. Otherwise we made it to 11-12 weeks to tell most people.

Any memorable moments from telling your family?

My sister had a baby last May, so I made my nephew a onsie that said "I'm getting a new cousin!" I met my sister at her house, put it on my nephew and we went to my dad's. We just waited until he finally noticed what it said...perhaps too subtle for him and my stepmom, but it was fun. They were kind of subdued about it...probably cuz sis had just had a baby and stepsister had one the year before, but whatever.

DH's parents were more excited. We'd gone to visit them for a weekend. We'd decided not to tell anyone straight out, but if they asked we wouldn't lie. Surely someone would notice that I wasn't drinking wine all weekend....not. No one ever asked. We finally had to tell them right before we were about to head home. MIL had thought I wasn't drinking because of weight watchers (which I'd been on, but I'd also been on it on 2 other trips that summer and had drank plenty o' vino those times...). Both of them teared up a bit, which was sweet

Sorry to be so long-winded...it was fun to remember those moments! Seems like forever ago Big Smile

kmiller1012 · February 2012

How long did you wait to tell people? We told both of our families after first appointment at 9 wks.

Any memorable moments from telling your family? I told my family that I really wanted to go to this Mexican restaurant b/c I hadn't been since the reopened (they had to move locations). They thought I wanted a margarita, but I knew it was the only way to get them all together without them questioning me. They were all shocked, but here is a picture of my sister after reading DS's shirt.

Also when I told DH the test was positive and he said I was joking b/c it hadn't been 3 minutes. The + sign came up right away. I had to laugh b/c he wasn't home when I took it w/DS and the same thing happened. He was going by the directions.

MamaYarbs · February 2012

How long did you wait to tell people?

DH knew as soon as I came out of the bathroom. The wait "3" minutes did not apply here... That line came up fast!! (I was about 4/5 weeks)

My dad we told at 8 weeks.

DH's BFF and My BFF was at 7 weeks.

We waited until 13 weeks to tell the rest of our family and friends.

Any memorable moments from telling your family?

A few!!

DH's BFF (who is a woman)... I made onesies with ironon transfers one said "I love the Hawk's Family" the other one said "Baby Yarbs...". We gave them to her two boys to open. She didn't see them open them. The boys came running to her with a very loud look mama... she grabbed the onsies and started crying and screaming running around her house.... The cutest thing I've ever seen!! I love that lady!!

My Dad - I made him a onsie that said "I love my grandpay Larry"... I wrapped it up and gave it to him. He said that's nice, I'm not a grandpa.... I said well you're gonna be... he started tearing up. (He's an amazing father!)

My BFF - I made her a onsie that said "I love the Hendrix family" I wrapped it up and gave it to her before we were going to see a movie. She's a teacher and thought I gave her "teacher socks"... it took her a minute to realize what it said... she started crying and of course it made me cry... Such a cute moment.

joyfullyfound · February 2012

How long did you wait to tell people? We waited until week 12 to tell our families and a couple more weeks (until after our next midwife appointment, just to make sure) to really make it public. We never made it FB official though... I preferred telling everyone in person

Any memorable moments from telling your family? We got both our families together for DH's birthday dinner and I ordered cupcakes for dessert that had everyone's new titles on them (this is the first grandbaby on both sides) - "Grandma" and "Auntie", etc. I put the cupcakes down on the table, just saying "You have to find you're own, it has your name on it" and DH whipped out the video camera to document.... well, my mom just saw the one that said "Mom" (mine) right away and leaned back in her chair and said, "found mine!". Haha, she was the last to realize what was going on... everyone around her was gasping and staring and everything.... It's a hilarious video.

MamaValley · February 2012

How long did you wait to tell people? We didn't wait at all. I actually found out the day BEFORE my period was due (it was a Thursday) and my husband was calling his family that Saturday to tell them. We told my parents the following Monday and told my sisters the week after that. Extended family and facebook got the official announcement when I was around 14 weeks

Any memorable moments from telling your family? Well, it was an unexpected pregnancy, so each person had different responses. My sisters both cried (I made them each a onesie's that said, "If you think I'm cute, you should see Auntie ____" with their name in the blank), my mom was in shock (She said, "I thought you were worried you were going into early menopause?!?!?!" which was absolutely true), and my dad could barely contain his pride. We told my nieces by showing them the ultrasound and having them guess what it was. They thought it was a picture of a cow or bats Big Smile They're 4 and 6.

MamaValley · February 2012

kmiller1012:

They were all shocked, but here is a picture of my sister after reading DS's shirt.

That picture is PREICELESS!!! I don't know what I love more - your son's face or your sister's face!

kiarstin · February 2012

How long did you wait to tell people? We told right away, my husband couldn't hold it in. So I was 6 weeks pregnant. We found out at like 2.5 weeks but waited until confirmed doc visit to tell.

Any memorable moments from telling your family? My husband told his whole family via phone but told them in different way. He called his mom and said "Hey I was wondering if you could make a baby star wars costume fot the convention next year?" She said sure what for? " Oh for us, we will have one more guest on our trip" She was driving had to pull over and burst into tears.

For his grandmother he called her and said to her " I just wanted to tell you that you are one GREAT grandmother I mean really really great. it took her a second and she burst into tears to lol.

When I told my husband. I got him flowers and a card and wrote it in the card I left it outside his shower( I wanted him to have time to react however he saw fit good or bad b/c we got pregnant easier than we thought, took out iud and conceived within 3 days) He came out in tears repeating " We are going to be a family and kissed my belly" Best reaction EVER

kiarstin · February 2012

MamaValley:
kmiller1012:

They were all shocked, but here is a picture of my sister after reading DS's shirt.

That picture is PREICELESS!!! I don't know what I love more - your son's face or your sister's face!

Seriously so funny, I love how your son is looking at her like " Whats wrong with you lady"

twentyeightlegs · February 2012

I told my parents and my management team at work at 8 weeks. I told my sister like 15 minutes after I told H, but made her swear to secrecy. I told everyone at a little after 12 weeks. They were all very shocked as I had been anti-baby for a long time. (Baby was planned, just never updated my no-kids evah status)

Memorable moments: Telling my H. I woke him up to tell him and he said "Oh shiit. Are you serious?" LOL Classic. I punched him and then he hugged me. My due date is one day before my mom's birthday and so I told her I got her an early birthday present but it was going to take a while to finish--her first grandbaby. She said "What?" and I repeated it and I think she was just soooo happy. She's really excited about the baby.

bweb3218 · February 2012

How long did you wait to tell people? My husband knew right away and we waited until 8 weeks to tell everyone. I wanted to wait until 12 weeks, but my hubby couldn't wait Smile

Any memorable moments from telling your family? We bought a Big Brothers Rock shirt for my dog (he's our fur-baby) . My parents came over and my husband went into our bedroom to put the shirt on him and the dog came running out spinning in circles. My parents were confused at first and couldn't read the shirt, it was actually kind of comical. Then, my mom yelled "Am I going to be a Grandma?" and starting crying. She then cried even harder when she found out he is due four days before her birthday. My dad just started smiling and said congratulations. This is their first grandchild and was welcome news since my brother was in Afghanistan at the time. My in-laws were happy, but they said that they had a feeling we would end up pregnant since we went on vacation for our anniversary this year.

kmiller1012 · February 2012

MamaValley:
kmiller1012:

They were all shocked, but here is a picture of my sister after reading DS's shirt.

That picture is PREICELESS!!! I don't know what I love more - your son's face or your sister's face!

I love DS's reaction to my sister. He is like "what is wrong with you!"

cmsdouglas · February 2012

How long did you wait to tell people? We were going to wait until 12 weeks, but we ended up finding out while we were visiting my parents (who live ~30 hours away from us), so we told them the same day we got the BFP. We called DH's parents soon after. We told our closest friends at about 6 weeks and everybody else at 10 weeks.

Any memorable moments from telling your family? My parents were just so happy! DH's dad told him that we could still sell it with a return on investment for up to 2 years (jokingly).

mahtnamas23 · February 2012

How long did you wait to tell people? well I had told my DH and my sister that I thought I might be pregnant but I was scared to take a test. DH really wanted me to go ahead and take it (he was really excited). I told him I would take it when I was ready because I was freaking out a bit. I ended sneeking into the bathroom later that night to take it without telling DH what I was doing. 4 minutes later all DH heard was me screaming in the other room. He came running in and I was standing there looking at a stick on the counter. The line was very faint so I was still a little unsure so I just kept looking at it and asking DH if I was just seeing things or is there a line. He told me he saw it too and my eyes were not playing tricks on me. I then called my sister and told her not to tell a soul. We wanted to wait till after we had gone to the doctors office and had our first U/S and saw the heart beat before leting the cat out of the bag. So everyone else found out at 8 weeks.

Any memorable moments from telling your family? All I can say is thank God for Iphones having video on them, because we caught it all on camera.

With my side of the family if was my dad's birthday so we wrapped up a diaper with "coming in March 2012" written on it in a box. My family has lunch together every sunday (the whole family -aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparrents). My parents are usually the first to arrive so we got there early to beat them. I gave the present to my dad as soon as he walked in the door. He was floored and so excited. My mom (who I was worried about) just sat in shock for 15 minutes. She didn't even think I wanted kids so she was caught off guard. Finally she came to and was very excited. As part of the present my dad was allowed to anounce to the rest of the family once they got there his big birthday news.

DH's family we told that same evening. Little back story, his family are major dog people and they are in-love with our dog Winston. So we decided to let our dog tell them the big news. About 15 minutes after we had arrived at his parents house DH took Winston to the back room and put a shirt on him that read I am going to be a big brother. Everyone was talking in the kitchen when he ran in "oh hey look at winston's new outfit everyone", I said. It took them a second to read it then DH's grandmother looked confused and said "your getting a puppy?" lol. At this point it clicked with MIL and she screamed and yelled "their having a baby". Then of course everyone was screaming and yelling. It was really fun to announce to both of our families

lcloffredo · February 2012

Well I just thought I was sick so when the Dr told me why I was so sick i about passed out. I told DH that night and he was in shock for about 3 days but he was so happy and one of the first things he said is that it was a girl lol. Told my mom a few days later (she guessed). And told his family the same day (his mom also guessed) I was about 5 weeks at this point but they had thought I was around 8.

One thing my mom said was "Don't worry honey, poor people have babies all the time." After she got over the shock and started thinking about the baby and not just how hard it would make my life she was really excited. His family were all really happy right away and they couldn't believe it! One of the first things my BIL asked was you're going to breastfeed right? It was really funny.

botbot · February 2012

MomOfTwo2012:

How long did you wait to tell people? Told DH the second I saw the BFP... my brother was living with us, so we told him as soon as we got the first u/s (that must have been about 6-7 weeks) Then at about 9 or 10 weeks we told our parents and some other randoms. 12 weeks for the rest of the family.

Any memorable moments from telling your family?

DH- I had just gotten some really disturbing news from my boss the day before my bfp, and I was afraid that I was going to lose my job. As soon as I saw the test results, although we had been trying for a while, I just started to cry. DH nipped my fears in the bud, reassuring me that he was always going to take care of me and our baby. (oh I'm tearing up again just thinking about it!!!)

Brother- My brother was living with us at the time over the summer... DH and I wanted to wait to tell people but we justified telling him since "we have another roommate moving in" . We got home with the u/s pics and I just casually handed it to him saying "hey, check this out!". He was shocked- he kept saying "No way!" "Really??" "Wow- that's great- no, really????" It was really cute.

Parents- Both DH's and my parents live out of town, but they all happened to come in for a big party in the summer at my aunt's house. Knowing this, we decided to wait to tell anyone else prior to being able to tell them in person. We told his parents first, while we were out to dinner (my stomach was so sensitive that all I could order was a side of asparagus and a side of mashed potatoes), and DH explained my new diet because of the news... as he put it "our family of two is becoming a family of three!" His mom started weeping (she's pretty emotional) and I'm taking it as a good thing. His dad was super excited too- and started treating me like I was about to go into labor from the remainder of the weekend (grabbing my arm as I walked up stairs, grabbing anything I picked up so I didn't have to carry anything, etc.) We told my mom a few hours later (my dad found out at the last minute that he could not come into town with her). Again, I handed her an envelope with the u/s pics and casually said, "look at this- this is pretty neat." She was joking around with my MIL at the time but when she pulled out the pics she started shaking and gasped "WHO. IS. THIS?" I told her "Your grandbaby" and she started crying and we had to pick her up off the floor. (yea, my mom's a cryer too). We got that on video. That was really cool. Texted a pic of the u/s to my dad, who immediately called my mom's cell (instead of just calling back my phone) to see what was going on. I think he wasn't sure how to react.

Thanks for posting! This was fun!

RaeJ004 · February 2012

How long did you wait to tell people?

I wanted to wait until 12 weeks, but the night my sister had my nephew DH, my other sister and I were driving home and DH was on the phone with his friend that knew. The friend said "Did you guys tell them Mac's pregnant?" and my sister heard. So I had to tell my parents before she did... becuase I knew she would. So I was 8 weeks, we had known for a month.

Any memorable moments from telling your family?

Well we pull up to my parents house and go inside. They're both dead tired because they'd been at the hospital for 40+ hours while my sister was in labor. We told them and my mom turned around, walked upstairs and came back down with an outfit with elephants (my favorite) on it. She felt bad later because she knew it wasn't the reaction I wanted, but they were so exhausted I really don't blame them!

kris2131 · February 2012

How long did you wait to tell people?

We found out on a friday (July 22) which was either the day AF was due, or the day after. My cycle is always 30 or 31 days and I had told DH once that if I was ever late, we would know why. So that Friday we went out and bought a three pack of tests and that night I took one and it was positive. The next morning, I took another one and it was positive. That night, we went out to dinner and on our way back home, he asked if we could go to my parents' place. He was so anxious, he wanted to tell our families right away. We found out at 4w5d and they found out 4w6d.

Any memorable moments from telling your family?

My parents' anniversary is April 7, so after getting up the nerve I told them we were working on their anniversary gift now. They immediately asked if I was pregnant. Just as we were leaving, my mom got a text from her stepmom about my granddad's failing health and how he had lost the will to live. I told my mom to tell him to hopefully perk up his spirits. She called him the following morning, but didn't get the chance to tell him, but told her stepmom. Her stepmom told him later and then later that night he died. So I take comfort knowing that he knew about the baby when he died.

DH's mom knew the minute we walked in the door. It was 10pm on a Saturday and we hardly ever go over there that late. We walked in and I go to sit on the couch and she said "you're pregnant, aren't you?" I looked up at DH for some help and he had this look on his face. So there was no denying it. She was so happy and looked like she was going to cry.

sarahkw1 · July 2012

I have my first ob apt. on Monday, (and will be 7 weeks). We wanted to wait until after the first ultrasound to spread the word. So next friday we are going to DH's parents house for dinner, where I will be cooking. Angel hair spaghetti chicken parm with PREGO sauce. As a side will will have baby corn, baby squash, and other baby veggies and we intend to say baby as often as possible during dinner. 'hey baby, can you pass the baby corn?' etc. The prego jar will be sitting close to or on the table (we might even write 'I'm' above the logo really small.

If no one gets the hint by then, for desert will will be serving mini cupcakes with a mixture of blue and pink frosting on them - to our parents we will serve the cupcakes in the pair of baby shoes I recently bought.

I'm so excited. Its so hard to wait to tell!!

raspberry_bride · July 2012

How long did you wait to tell people?

The plan was to tell parents and siblings right away and wait to tell everyone else at 3 months. That plan went right out the window because some people that we told weren't aware of our plan. I think everyone found out by the time I was 8 weeks.

Any memorable moments from telling your family?

Not in a good way. Kind of funny now, but I think some feelings were hurt at the time. We told my parents, DH's parents and our brother's and their wives about a week after we found out. I hadn't even had my appointment yet to confirm so I didn't want anyone else knowing, and it was my grandma's 75th party that weekend and I didn't want to take away from that. At the party my FIL shared the news with my grandma, but I didn't know this. Later in the evening she came up to me and said "Oh you kept a really good secret from me" (the party was a surprise) and then she said "I hope you aren't keeping any more secrets from me" all while staring me down waiting for my reaction. I was stunned and said no, but she could tell from my reaction that I was. She went on though pretending that she didn't know.

Sorry this is long but there's more...

So my parents, grandma, uncle and aunt went on their scheduled trip to British Columbia for my grandma's birthday. While there they stopped in to see my DH's brother who lives there. We had failed to tell him that we were still keeping it a secret from some people, so of course he said to my parents that they must be thrilled etc. My grandma confessed that she already knew, and after that I figured I might as well tell everyone. I feel bad because I think it really hurt my grandma's feelings that I didn't tell her at her party. Next time I am debating keeping it a secret from everyone until 3 months.

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