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EveryNameIWantIsTaken
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I get sick of seeing so much discouragement *vent*
EveryNameIWantIsTaken
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Sometimes people can be so negative on here. Not talking about this board really, but on other ones. People acting like it's so hard to do something and be a mother at the same time. People discouraging people having issues nursing their baby who are interested in ep-ing from doing it. I mean, a lot of times things are all what you make of it, don't you think? I was determined to nurse Amelia. Tried for weeks, sought lots of help, still try at least once a day, but it just doesn't work. Really, the ep-ing isn't so bad but all I see when people ask about it is "it's so hard" "it's so time consuming" "don't do it, just get your baby to nurse" Sometimes it just isn't that simple and I'm proof of that. School is another hot button one with me. I'm in my 4th full time semester and have a 3.93 gpa. You just have to be dedicated and make the time and you'll be fine. I guess this just goes back to the whole moms should support other moms, not try to make them doubt themselves and their abilities. Seriously, 4 years ago I would have never though I could handle all this, but it's not so bad.
And now I'll get down off my soap box. I've just seen lots of things on the other boards I frequent that are like this today and I'm over it.
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Re: I get sick of seeing so much discouragement *vent*
I understand what you are saying. I EP as well and really, I don't think it's NEAR as difficult as everyone was telling me. Sure it adds a little more for me to do a day but when DD wasn't latching well and kept pulling off, we would work on nursing for 10 straight hours sometimes for her to finally get full. EPing is much easier than that IMO. I'm not going to school currently but DH and I are self employed and there is a lot he can't do without help. So DD just has to go with us. We just gotta stop long enough for me to change diapers, give a bottle, and pump. Sure, there have been days that I wanna pull my hair out but it's over pretty quickly and on with our day we go.
I TOTALLY agree with "moms should support moms", because no one else can understand like a fellow mom.
April '14 Siggy Challenge:
I totally get the breastfeeding thing. I had insurmountable issues (inverted nipples, tongue tied LO, vasospams, and low supply) and only managed to BF for three months. Despite the fact that I tried everything I could (LCs, supplements, tea, BFing vacations) it just didn't work. I tried pumping (like crazy trying to increase my supply) but I don't respond well to breast pumps even the hospital grade ones, otherwise I would have EPed.
I think all the negativity around it is other peoples insecurities. They either couldn't do it, or didn't want to but felt guilty, and are really only making excuses for themselves to make them feel better.
YES Y E S - like MOST of the time.
If I could make my font bigger, I would.
YES.
and p.s - I haven't even gotten past this sentence in your post =/
April '14 Siggy Challenge:
I think that is a very valid observation.
Its sad isn't it? I checke out the WM board the other day and it seem much more negative than this board. It was discouraging. I know I mostly lurk but I like to think this is a pretty supportive community. We are considering the option that I return to work next year so that we can pay off our consumer debt and be in a better position full time. Sadly, I would stop bumping before I joined the WM group. : /
I would post more often but I feel like sometimes new moms are judged pretty harshly so I tend to just lurk.
Aw, that sucks. If you are sane, I think we are nice
I hope you will feel comfortable posting more if you want.
I was thinking I might do that. Thanks!
If the bump were high school, and sometimes it feels like it is, I think the sahm board would get the "least likely to be mean and start unnecessary drama" award. Please post, I really don't think this board is like that.
I agree with you about the negativity. With that said, I EP and it is totally worth it but it is pretty hard. Some days it is really hard to get everything done and pump. I wish bfing worked out for us. Then I could feed her anywhere and not have to return home to pump (or pump in the car and have an ice chest packed to store my milk.) It can be exhausting. It takes a lot of dedication but it is worth the sacrifice.
Just my two cents.
Like PP- I don't leave this board. I don't have time for most of the crap that goes on.
Lately? I'm not so sure...
I guess maybe I haven't been around to notice it much. Is it due to the influx of newbies because I can't imagine most of the regulars that have been around a long time being that way.
I don't know, I think maybe we went too long with no new blood and got too comfortable with each other. But some of the posts lately make me feel like I'm back in Jr. High.
You're 100% right, Everyname. I plan to EP for this child because after trying with Rowan and going crazy over it I'm done feeling guilty. BFing is not an option for me. Emotionally I can't handle being needed that much- possibly flameworthy but that's how I'm built. So, I will EP and be so very happy with that. You're doing great, Everyname. If it's working for you, it's the best!