Has anyone else had almost no visitors?

KScheibe12 · February 2012

I will preface this by saying: yes, this is a pity party. The only visitor I've had at all since DD was born was my mom. She came to visit from 12/5 - 12/21. And since then, I haven't been able to get anyone to come visit. I've had plans with friends on three separate occasions and every time I was blown off at the very last second. I return to work next Thursday and in the ten weeks of maternity leave, I've had exactly zero friends come visit. I feel pretty worthless right now...

End pity party. Thanks for listening.

beka0404 · February 2012

1 friend came to the hospital and 1 friend has visited at home. Otherwise it's just been my parents and MIL. Though part of the reason for that is because the first 2 weeks were so rough that my mom ran interference and let my humongous family know that we needed time to adjust. Almost 5 weeks in, I'm now ready for visitors!

awillis13 · February 2012

Most of my family is over 3 hours away. My mom lives a mile away so we see her all the time. MIL has come down to visit a few times, and so has BIL & his fiancee. We had some people over for a playoff game a couple of weeks ago, and I've had a few friends visit. I'm on 8 weeks of maternity leave now, but visitors seem to come in bunches and then not for awhile. My SIL was coming 2x a week for the first 2 weeks I was home and then she fell off the planet again (she's really weird like that)

NoodleM · February 2012

I'm actually pretty disappointed a little in our friends because no one has visited. My husbands mom, my SIL's, and my SIL's boyfriend all came to the hospital and we see them every weekend for dinner (FIL is there as well), but that is it.

One friend has shown up, but that's because he wanted my husband to help him change his car battery and my husband convinced him to come here first and meet the baby.

I'm kinda dissappointed in our friends.

Moozilla11 · February 2012

I have had some people say they will come over but they never showed.

lageorgiapaperie · February 2012

ILs came once (uggggh) and then I had 1 friend come, will possibly have another coming over this week.

I personally love our lack of visitors

awillis13 · February 2012

I should add I know most of our friends have left it up to me, and have told me to call whenever I would like visitors. I know they're just trying to be respectful of our time/privacy/whatever, but I use so much energy learning T and taking care of him, I can't remember to call. I'd much rather have someone call and ask if they can come by. But I get that they don't want to call all the time and be a bother if we didn't want visitors.

juepnunes · February 2012

I guess some people think we are swamped with the newborn and that we prefer no visitors. Llikewise, I do have few good friends that never called or visited yet.

spacedolphin11 · February 2012

I know the feeling - one of my closest friends lives in the same town as me, and it took her SIX WEEKS to visit us (after promising to visit in the hospital and during each subsequent week. I had given up on her by the time she actually showed up.)

The only visitor we get regularly is my MIL (who lives 30 mins away) and she's the one I don't want to see...

lilwildthing · February 2012

One of my friends lives across the street. We both had our daughters on the same day. We still haven't managed to get together! I guess with both of us having newborns it is just too hard. Other than that I don't have any local friends or family so we have been pretty much visitor free.

mrsrgl · February 2012

Its so funny how the grass is always greener on the other side! We've had nothing BUT visitors since LO was born. I'm exhausted from all the cooking, cleaning, and entertaining. We've had people here both Sat and Sun since LO was born. I finally had to put my foot down since this weekend is my last before I go back to work Tuesday. I think its just funny b/c we're at two different extremes!

robynlynn83 · February 2012

Ditto masterhairstylist. We have had a ton of people say they want to visit/meet Jude and few have come. I have gone to work with him and to the girls' school so that covers a lot of people that wanted to see him but we have had like 3 people come over.

michelle142 · February 2012

I had 2 friends come to the hospital, but only my mom has come to the house. I've had a few friends call and say they were coming but never did. It's kind depressing and annoying all at the same time.

meggiekeys · February 2012

masterhairstylist:
I have had some people say they will come over but they never showed.

This exactly. It's crazy how so many people were waiting for her to arrive, and chomping at the bits every time I had a contraction and contacted me after every appointment, yet nobody's really showed.

Oh well, now I'm back to work so when I have time with her, I babyhog so they might as well not even waste their time

KScheibe12 · February 2012

mrsrgl:
Its so funny how the grass is always greener on the other side! We've had nothing BUT visitors since LO was born. I'm exhausted from all the cooking, cleaning, and entertaining. We've had people here both Sat and Sun since LO was born. I finally had to put my foot down since this weekend is my last before I go back to work Tuesday. I think its just funny b/c we're at two different extremes!

I was actually thinking about this as well. My sister had the same problem when she had her children. She even had to put the foot down on me and limit when I could visit. Based on the responses, it seems like there's really no middle ground. Weird...

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