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Not WM related: My MIL is gone.
It all happened so suddenly. Her SO came home yesterday afternoon and found her unconscious. She had a very weak pulse when the paramedics arrived and never did regain consciousness. She coded six times during the night but fought back each time. By this morning her systems were shutting down and she had no brain activity. The ventilator was turned off at noon and she passed soon after.
We are all in shock and we still do not know the cause of death. She was 58 years old.
It is heartbreaking to watch DH and his brother deal with this. They had a complicated relationship but of course loved their mother. And her SO was with her for 14 years but has no legal standing in any of her affairs so that is hard to factor in as well.
Thanks for reading if you got this far. I am supporting DH as best I can but needed to get this out. Not a vent, obviously, but a bit of a release all the same.
My twins are 5! My baby is 3!
DS#2 - Allergic to Cashew, Pistachio, Kiwi
DS#3 - Allergic to Milk, Egg, Peanut, Tree Nuts and Sesame
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Re: Not WM related: My MIL is gone.
I am so so sorry to hear this. My MIL passed the day after Thanksgiving. It made for a very very rough holiday season. She was 66.
Sorry if this sounds weird, but just make sure you grieve too. I know I was so concerned about being supportive to my DH, my SIL, my niece, and just trying to be strong, that I never grieved myself. When I finally gave myself a chance, it hit hard. I lost her as well. Whatever your relationship is, you are going through a loss yourself. And I am so very sorry for your loss.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
I am so sorry for your family's loss.
DD -- 5YO
DS -- 3YO
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This is so well said and what I was trying to say. Hang in there.
Thanks so much to you all. DH has been running on fumes the last two days and I have barely seen him alone. Any time he starts to slow down the tears come. I am hoping to have some quiet time with him tomorrow so he can take a moment to process some of this before the viewing on Thursday and mass on Friday.
And thanks for the reminder to take time to grieve myself. I came home at midnight yesterday after being at the hospital with MIL when she passed, then watching the kids in the family while others contacted the funeral home and made arrangements, then meeting at BIL's in the evening. When I walked through the door with three sleepy, crying kids and saw the messy state my house was in after leaving in a rush I started to cry myself. I was tired and overwhelmed but knew that had to be why I broke down like that. I need to carve out some quiet time for myself as well.
My twins are 5! My baby is 3!
DS#2 - Allergic to Cashew, Pistachio, Kiwi
DS#3 - Allergic to Milk, Egg, Peanut, Tree Nuts and Sesame
I am so very sorry for your family's loss, and for the resulting pain.
Thinking of you.
I'm a little late to this. I just wanted to say that I'm very sorry for your loss.
My MIL passed almost the exact same way before we were married. Her SO (who she had been with for 15+ years) found her dead in her bed one morning. We do know it was from Congestive Heart Failure. It was hard for her SO, he was lost w/o her. It's so hard to watch your DH go through this. My DH and his mom were very close. We were in college at the time and he was about 4 hours away from her. All I could do was stand by his side and support him. That's really all you can do.
Again, I'm so sorry for your family's loss.