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Postpartum Depression
bumpuser4307348
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Do I belong here?
bumpuser4307348
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I am a FTM and a SAHM to a wonderful 3 month old baby boy. I know that I definitely suffered from the "baby blues" during the first week or two and then I began to feel better everyday. Lately, though, I am just...cranky, I guess. I feel like everyday is exactly the same-feed, nap, play, diaper change, repeat-over, and over and over again. I feel lucky to be able to stay at home, but I don't enjoy it. When LO wakes up at 5:30 AM, I just want to roll over and go back to sleep. I have to force myself to get up and get moving. I somewhat resent my DH for still having a life, but I am such a control freak that I don't allow him to help and so I just get overwhelmed and even more moody. I haven't read too many posts on this board, so I'm not sure if what I'm feeling falls into this category. Feedback?
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Re: Do I belong here?
I don't know how much help I will be, but I will try. I sort of went through what you did, terrible baby blues, and then just general crankiness. Honestly, I was not too worried at that point, because the baby blues were getting better like yours.
But, the past month or two, things kept getting worse and worse for me. The crankiness was getting more out of control, and then the blues came back. I have an appointment with my doctor tomorrow to discuss it all.
I think you probably have two choices: You could wait it out, and maybe it will just work itself out. You could just be a tired, cranky mom of a baby. Or, you could call your doctor and just see what he/she thinks about it all. Perhaps they will be able to tell you a little better if it is just normal, or if it needs to be taken care of.
But here is my best advice- if it is negatively impacting your life, and you are upset by it and not functioning normally, then I would check into it. It can't hurt to ask, but it could hurt not to, you know? Hope I helped somewhat, hang in there mama, it will get better!
That is some great advice!
I'll add that you should talk about it with your DH. I understand the resentment towards him, but regardless of how rational it is, he should know about it. He should know how you are feeling with the crankyness and monotony so he can (hopefully) keep a close eye on you from the outside and help support you in ways that you need it. It might be real hard, but maybe give a little control back to him just to lighten your load (even if just for a week!)
One week, while I was still on maternity leave, we went out to dinner every night (unheard of for us). I didn't want to be spending our evening cooking and cleaning. I wanted to get out of the house. It was alright for a few days, but just a change like that might clear some of the cranky cobwebs to see things a little clearer.
Breastfeeding and pregnant!
I'm dealing with similar issues except I work full time at an office. I feel like I'm not completely present wherever I'm at, that there' sjust sort of this looming cloud over my personality and cannot get out of the rut. When I was still on Leave, I was feeling exactly how you felt. Couldn't get the day started, just did what I had to to take care of the baby.
Now i'm dealing with random spouts of uncontrollable sadness. Mostly I just think about my baby and just start weeping. Why? I have no idea. Hormones? Lack of sleep? The fact he's the youngest baby in daycare? Could be any of those things...