"Did you get your baby fix?" (vent)

Trish11278 · January 2012

This is what a co-worker asked me today when a fellow teacher brought in her new born. I work in a small school and my co-workers know about my struggles and my m/c. I was shocked that this teacher asked me this question. Is it wrong that this bothered me? I am very open about my IF struggles in hopes that I don't get comments and stupid questions like this. UGH! It just bothered me.

Thanks for letting me vent!

lynn0926 · January 2012

Absolutely not! It would have bothered me too, especially if it was someonevwho knows my struggles! She deserves a throat ??! Sorry you had to deal with that!

machole513 · January 2012

That would have made me mad! What did you say. I usually speak my mind, so depending on the day I probably would have asked..what is that suppossed to mean? I'm sure they would realize that isn't appropriate to say! Sorry!

emmypants · January 2012

In a training class this guy [who I think is a giantdouche] had his wife bring the like 6 day old baby in and tried to shove it in my face. The only reason he didn't get a ball kick was he was holding the baby and I would've felt bad if the baby would've gotten dropped. I loathe people that do that!! >_< I'm sorry

Trish11278 · January 2012

machole513:
That would have made me mad! What did you say. I usually speak my mind, so depending on the day I probably would have asked..what is that suppossed to mean? I'm sure they would realize that isn't appropriate to say! Sorry!

She first asked me if I saw the baby and then asked me that stupid question. I gave her a look of shock and then simply said that I did see her and no I didn't get my baby fix. Maybe one day.

OnTheLanai · January 2012

I would have flipped my *** on her. Seriously.

MrsCK · January 2012

Wow. I'm sorry that you were on the receiving end of that. Whatever happened to "if you can't say something nice, don't say it at all"? *Sigh*

BlueEyes313 · January 2012

Trish11278:

machole513:
That would have made me mad! What did you say. I usually speak my mind, so depending on the day I probably would have asked..what is that suppossed to mean? I'm sure they would realize that isn't appropriate to say! Sorry!

She first asked me if I saw the baby and then asked me that stupid question. I gave her a look of shock and then simply said that I did see her and no I didn't get my baby fix. Maybe one day.

People can be so ignorant sometimes. Unless she is a normally mean-spirited person I'm sure she has no ideas how her words hurt. Have you considered pulling her aside at some point and saying something along the lines of, "You know your comment the other day about getting my baby fix in upset me. I've been open about our IF struggles in an attempt to curb ignorant comments." I would think that any person who isn't generally an a$$ would "get it" from there.

and if that doesn't work

ellephunt · January 2012

Ugh. I get this all.the.time. I do daycare and I also get the - "it must be so nice to not have to deal with kids at night." ::blank stare::

violetmarie61516 · January 2012

That was totally uncalled for and completely insensitive!!!

islandgirl80 · January 2012

Sounds like she needs a high five. In the face. With a chair.

Raggedy1 · February 2012

That SUCKS. Sometimes people are so thoughtless.

Trish11278 · February 2012

Thanks ladies! I knew you would understand.

Mnerani · February 2012

Since when is someone else's baby a drug that will cure your desire to have your own baby?

The other day, someone very close to me joked that I could have one of her twins. It threw me off because she's not a jerk AT ALL. Honestly, I don't think people know what to say sometimes. I often look back at all the times when I was young and single that I teased my married friends about their baby plans. I'm sure that by doing that, I hit a sore spot with at least one of them who was trying without success. That makes me cringe now. It's hard to know how to be sensitive when you haven't gone through it.