second guessing my 3wk old baby boy's name...please help!
hi everyone,
i'm looking for your help...my son, sebastian william, was born january 10. since his birth, my husband husband has refused to call him his name, saying that he can't even say his name without getting sick. that being said, he never really liked the name to begin with, but we weren't able to come to terms with a name in the hospital and upon discharge we just agreed on sebastian.
we are now considering changing it to the only other name we both semi-like, sullivan. we have a 2 year old daughter named emerson and our last name is shine. i'm looking for something multi-syllabic that sounds well with shine and forms a good sib-set with emerson.
sebastian has always been my fave boy name, but i kinda think sullivan is nice as well...any advice? which do you prefer? other name suggestions??? thanks in advance...
Re: second guessing my 3wk old baby boy's name...please help!
I have to say that Sebastian Shine sounds like a tongue twister to me. I can't imagine changing my baby's name at three weeks old though : /
ETA: Maybe you can come up with a NN that you both like as opposed to going through the pain of changing the name?
your husband gets sick when he says your son's name? That's a problem... why didn't he speak up about how much he hated the name sooner? Or is this a recent development?
I suppose in this case, I would change the name. Sullivan is nice enough.
I agree. Can he go by William?
I also don't understand how someone agrees to a name that makes him/her sick, but if it is really that problematic, I guess changing it to Sullivan wouldn't be terrible--just a lot of work.
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I think it's hard when they're brand new, it's like their grown-up names don't "fit" yet. Both of my boys went mostly by "Baby" or another cutesy NN for a couple months.
If the issue is that your husband really HATES Sebastian, change it. If he is just unsure, doesn't think it fits him, etc, try a NN. I think in time, he'll grow into his name.
Did your DH express this "sickness" before you had the baby? Geez.
I would compromise and come up with a nn from the middle name. William is cute, as are Will and Liam. Or Billy if that floats your boat.
Bastian sounds like bastard to me, sorry.
I think you both need to think on this some more...or at least wait until you are out of the post-partum haze and thinking clearly.
Sebastian is a fine name and I think it's ridiculous it makes your husband sick..I think it's harsh and overdramatic on his part. It's not like you picked out a swear word or something. Also, if it bothered him that much he should've said No when you were choosing/at the hospital.
One of my bfs has a little boy named Sebastian....and they call him Ash a lot...I think it's cute..there's just started as a silly nn and spun off.
Also I don't think there's enough of a difference between Sebastian and Sullivan to make either of you happy or go through the work.
Please don't change your child's name. First of all, it's adorable. I love the name Sebastian, and the whole name sounds very nice together, imo. Second of all, I think you need to tell your hubby to grow up. Saying that he can't say his own child's name with getting sick is so childish - why in the heck did he agree to it if he hated it so much? That was his opportunity to speak up. It's gone, so now you need to deal with the name you've given your child.
I grew up with a Sebastian, and he went by Seb - I've always thought that was cute. Good luck!!!
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I agree with this. I wouldn't change it I would come with a NN you both like. sometimes ppl call theiur children names that are not their names. Like "Bug" or another name. I like Seb for a nn. Your child is 3 weeks old- your dh needs to get ove rthe name- you had 9 months to think of the name and this is what you choose. seriously its not that bad!
Your husband needs to GROW UP. He shouldn't have agreed if he hated it.
Together you should sit down, and pick out a suitable nickname from the perfectly lovely name your child already has.
Ideas: Seb, Ash, Ian, Will, William, Liam, etc. There are about a million opportunities there.
Your husband sounds like a prick. He shouldn't have agreed to the name if he is that disgusted by it. Too damn bad for him now - he needs to suck it up and grow up.
FWIW, I think Sebastian William is a wonderful name!
People DO change their children's names. And depending on your state, amending the birth certificate within the forst 6-12 months might be less complicated than doing it afterward.
But it's a big decision, so I'd have a really long discussion about it.
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I agree with PPS on calling him by his middle name. I go by a nickname of my middle name, so I don't think its that weird.
Good luck!
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I think if you are debating it changing it, do it. We change DD name when she was about 3 months.
But, I do think that if you decide to change it, change it to something you love. I don't love DD's name now and I wish that I ahd taken more time to decide on a new name.
This made me LMAO..thank you, I needed a good laugh and agree!
I'm sorry but it sounds to me like your H is having some post baby depression or something. That seems WAY EXTREME to say that saying his son's name makes him sick and he won't say it. That is really ridiculous.
Sebastian William is a lovely name. I agree with pps to use a nn for either the fn or the mn that you can both enjoy.
I think your husband is being a big baby. Even if you badgered him in to agreeing to the name in the hospital, he needs to grow a pair and either stand up to you or put forth more effort into selecting a name he likes. Just agreeing to is so that he can complain about it for eternity is a little passive aggressive imo.
I'm sure you mentioned Sebastian was your favorite through your whole pregnancy, so if he really hated it he ought to have made that perfectly clear in advance of the birth, and then not agreed to it in the hospital.
I completely agree!
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I think the previous posters have given some great nicknames to try without having to change your son's name. I personally like Ian, Will and Liam.
You could also go with a generic male nickname like Chip, Duke, Ace, Sonny or Bud.
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