Pretty feet and mommy guilt

kevin.amanda · February 2012

So yesterday my son had a trial at one of the daycares we're looking at. It was only for two hours but it's the first time he hasn't been with either me or my husband since he was born, exept for one time when he was 2 months old he stayed with my MIL for an hour while my husband and I went for lunch. There's a nail salon around the corner from the daycare so I decided to go get a mani and pedi while I had my couple hours or freedom. The last time I had one was almost a year ago, before my son was born, so needless to say I was long overdue. I sat back, soaked my feet and read a gossip mag while the lady worked on scrubbing away a years worth of dry skin and callouses. It was wonderful. Then I went back to pick up my son and found out he had been crying and inconsolable the entire time I was gone.

Cue mommy guilt. I cried the whole way home and most of the evening, I felt so bad for leaving him. I didn't expect him to react that way at all, he seemed to love it there during the interview and he's never shown signs of stranger anxiety before. Man, this is going to be harder than I thought.

gbaby26 · February 2012

Aww dont feel guilty. You definately deserve it! But I know what you mean as well.

Dont beat yourself up, when you get time to yourself ENJOY IT!! You know it probably wont come around again soon.

BlondeDutchess912 · February 2012

He's going to have to go through it eventually, I know it's hard but believe me, it better now than when it coes time for kindergarten. Also I'm super jealous of your pedi.

Nechie122 · February 2012

Wait, you've never left him for more than an hour in the last 9-12 months? Of course there's going to be an adjustment period! But he will be fine before you know it. It's good for him to be around new people and other children. Don't feel guilty!

Temp356619000002780 · February 2012

I agree he will adjust. This is normal and usually will take him a good week- a month to completely adjust. You will have to stay strong! DS1 cried non stop, it took him a good 3 weeks. Then he was fine. GL and don't feel guilty. We all need pretty feet.

LadyXaverian · February 2012

My daughter cried a lot the first few days of day care. She's been happy as a lark ever since. No guilt, Momma. I know it hurts the heart, but he will be ok. ((Hug))

MySallyGirl · February 2012

Wow I'm surprised it has been this long before you left him for any period of time! Like others said - better he learn to adjust now than when he is starting school! Stay strong, mama!

kevin.amanda · February 2012

Thanks ladies. He has been without me before, but when he's not with me he's been with my husband. He's never stayed with a stranger before. I expected that he would be upset when I left, but thought once he got up to the play room that he'd get distracted and settle down. We went for an interview a few days ago and he seemed to love it there. He's usually a very social, happy little guy and has never been shy around strangers before, but then again, we've always been with him when he's met new people. The provider said that it's normal for kids to cry when they first start daycare, but her concern is that she wasn't able to soothe or comfort him at all. I'm hoping she will let me bring him on the weekend to have some one on one time with her to get more comfortable with her, and then try again with the other kids. I'm also glad we figured this out now so we can make a plan to transition him as easily as possible. I have just over a month before I have to go back to work, so I'm sure we can work something out.

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