DH and doctors' appointments

packfan20 · February 2012

I'm a FTM so 2+ timers might have different answers. I've had four doctor's appointments and one ultrasound. DH has come with me every time. Despite very pregnant women and a packed waiting room, DH is always the only guy there. Does your DH go with to appointments?

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dani2480 · February 2012

So far, he has been to all of them. He wants to be at all of them too, and I do my best to arrange appointments so they're convenient for both of us.

The only problem is that DH is a detective, and is at risk for being called out at a moment's notice for a case (including some of his regular days off). We've been lucky so far, but it's possible something could come up that forces him to miss an appointment (and we've already had a "close call" where he wasn't sure he'd be able to come until the very last minute).

vintagefix · February 2012

I am a FTM too. DH comes to my appointments as long as he is not working. He wants to.

I told him to stay home for the blood work only appointments since it only takes about 10 minutes total.

I've seen 2 other men in the waiting room so far.

Jblw143 · February 2012

DH has been to all of mine so far, but I won't make him come to all of them. With DS he came to the ones we did u/s or b/w (b/c i am a chicken with needles - well used to be at least). Some of the appointments I don't feel it's necessary for DH to come.

StacyBee79 · February 2012

My husband hasn't been able to come to any yet. I've scheduled all of my appointments so far on his regular days off of work so that he can stay home with our two boys - it would just be too hard (and expensive) to work out babysitting arrangements for the appointments, and it would be even harder to bring the boys with us! Plus, most of the appointments are short and boring. Stick out tongue

He'll come for the anatomy scan & gender reveal though, which will be sometime in March. We haven't decided yet if we'll bring the boys or get a sitter. He was able to come to a lot more appointments with my 1st pregnancy, and I'm sure he would have loved to come for the two ultrasounds I've had so far, but it just hasn't been practical.

TheBug16 · February 2012

My DH only comes when there is an ultrasound.

Jessie_dc22 · February 2012

DH comes to the "big ones". 1st OB appointment, a/s and birth. I don't make him come to all the others. They're just quickies.

brittk0486 · February 2012

DH went to basically every appointment with me with DS, but with this one he hasn't been to any of them yet. I only get one u/s around 22 weeks, so he'll go with me to that. I don't really see a need for him to go to just the basic office visits each month.

maykious · February 2012

Jessie_dc22:
DH comes to the "big ones". 1st OB appointment, a/s and birth. I don't make him come to all the others. They're just quickies.

This is our situation. DH came for the first "confirmation" appointment, where we also had a US (at 5 weeks, so I don't know why), then came to a second U/S-only appointment at 7w, skipped my next regular checkup and pap smear at 10w, came at 14w to hear the heartbeat and will come on Monday for 18w and anatomy scan. Beyond that, I doubt he'll come to any more appointments unless we get another US for some reason. DH has almost always been the only guy there. I think we've seen one other guy one time.

jellyjellybean · February 2012

DH has been to 1 so far and will be at the a/s in two weeks and probably at least one more before the birth. I know he has some questions/concerns for my OB so he always knows when my appointments are but if he can't make them, he can't make them!

Mrs.vtjaime · February 2012

Mine has been to every one and plans to be at them all. I would say usually about half the women in the (very crowded) waiting room at my practice have men with then.

christieep · February 2012

Before we went to the first one DH didn't really think he wanted to go, but he went to that one and all of them since. I don't need him to go with me, but I think he kind of likes it. He definitely plans work around u/s appointments.

packfan20 · February 2012

StacyBee79:
My husband hasn't been able to come to any yet. I've scheduled all of my appointments so far on his regular days off of work so that he can stay home with our two boys - it would just be too hard (and expensive) to work out babysitting arrangements for the appointments, and it would be even harder to bring the boys with us! Plus, most of the appointments are short and boring. He'll come for the anatomy scan & gender reveal though, which will be sometime in March. We haven't decided yet if we'll bring the boys or get a sitter. He was able to come to a lot more appointments with my 1st pregnancy, and I'm sure he would have loved to come for the two ultrasounds I've had so far, but it just hasn't been practical.

At my appointment yesterday there was a pregnant mom with 3 little boys with her. They were relatively well behaved but all I could picture was them playing with the stirrups or a speculum. Smile

hsm · February 2012

My DH has come to all of the ultrasound appointments and came to the first (long) appointment. He would, but I told him he doesn't need to come to just the belly check appointments. They aren't that eventful (which I'm glad about!). It was the same with my prior pregnancies.

KissyFishyLips · February 2012

DH only goes to u/s appointments with me. He works about 45 min away from home - and same distance from the doc - so I told him not to bother with the regular OB appts because they're in-and-out and not worth his time away from work.

But last pregnancy, I was high-risk and had literally 21 ultrasounds. He only came to the "big" ones (a/s, NT, fetal echo, and a few toward the end that were diagnostic).

writerinNYC · February 2012

My sister goes to the same OB as me and is 5 weeks ahead of me in pregnancy, so she tells me what to expect at each appointment. My OB did u/s at the first two appointments, DH came. DH also came to the NT scan and the amnio and will come to the a/s. However, my since my OB only does u/s in the 1st tri, he is no longer coming to my monthly visits since nothing exciting happens at those (the NT and a/s are at the hospital).

I have to say, most people in the waiting room have their husbands with them.

sarahandeddiejune212008 · February 2012

DH went to almost every appointment, u/s and, nst with DD. This time around he has been to every u/s, but missed an appointment. I have monthly u/s and I always try and schedule my OB visit the same day, so when that happens he will come with. We have a home doppler so he doesn't need to go with just to hear the heartbeat. He will be at every u/s though. I think its great if the daddy to be goes with.

ohiobride2004 · February 2012

DH comes, well except for today. It was just a normal check up. He will be there at the next one for the ultrasound.

He came to most of mine with DD including one NST, he was so bored lol and even fell asleep!

temporalrobe · February 2012

He comes to ultrasounds.

The ones with blood pressure and pee in a cup and a how you doin'? no.

The Dr is 3 blocks from my place of work, so I go on my lunch break. He works farther. So I'd rather him save his vaca/sick/personal time to be with the kiddo than w/ me in the waiting room.

doggie mama · February 2012

Mine went to the big RE appointments, where I actually saw the doctor. He saw a few of the u/s there. He didn't come to my first OB or 12 week u/s because of work, which I think he was bummed about because I heard the heartbeat and the baby looked like a baby and was moving around like crazy. I have another appointment next week but I don't think he can come. I used to see men all the time at the REs but not at the OB. Then again, with u/s you have to make a whole separate appointment at teh hospital, and I saw lots of guys there.

christyp80 · February 2012

My DH came to every appt with DD and has been to all of them this pregnancy so far too. I think he just likes the excuse to get out of work early!

jlthompson19 · February 2012

DH only goes to the ultrasounds. It's not worth him taking off work early (and he wouldn't get paid) to go in, hear the hb, and leave.

M&D06 · February 2012

Nope, and he didn't the first time either. He comes to the NT scans and anatomy scans. I really don't expect him to come..it's silly for a 10 minute appt (to me, anyway). He does work from home the days I do have appts, though. It's easier for him to watch the boys than me take them with me. I appreciate that way more, lol..I get an afternoon to myself! :P

missusbee · February 2012

H only comes to ultrasounds. Why on earth would he want to come watch me get a vaginal? Or get my blood drawn?

Rink08 · February 2012

The only appt. that DH has ever been available for was my first one with DS1's pregnancy. He was also able to be at the gender ultrasounds for both boys. Every other time I've gone by myself including 1 D&C because he has always been in college, working, or busy with the Army.

jessicap70486 · February 2012

DH went to every appt with DD, I was high risk and he wanted to always hear first hand what was going on. That of course was before the Army. So he was able to go to the first u/s when we confirmed pg but that it so far. He won't be here for the a/s we have scheduled Feb 16th because he will be gone. Everytime I go to my appt's tho, there are usually just as many men as women in the waiting room.

Blue Pansy · February 2012

DH has been to all but one -- I went in for one that was just to check the heartbeat and measure my uterus, and I didn't want him to miss half a day's work for that. But he's usually been to my doc appointments and, of course, all the ultrasounds. I won't ask him to come when we're just doing the routine things unless it's convenient for him.

theblksheep89 · February 2012

My DH has been to my u/s and to a few of the regular appts. I try to make them at times when he can go because I know he really wants to be there but his job doesn't ever have exact end times so it's kind of a crap shoot.