How the heck

Re: How the heck

• ErinR2012

  February 2012

  Yikes, that's a lot to go through.  Given all that, I think if you're having physical difficulties (injuries and sickness) then you shouldn't worry too much about your diminished sex life...you have reasons!!  As long as you and your DH are on the same page, and keeping communication open about how you both feel about the situation then I think you're doing OK.  If its important to you, you guys can find physical ways to connect that you're both comfortable with, it doesn't have to be sex, you can cuddle or just spend quality time in bed together talking, maybe he can give you a massage.  Don't try to force things or stress yourself out about it.  Hope you both feel better soon!
  

  

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• mikeandcristina member

  February 2012

  I've been having lots and can't wait for "the joys" of pregnancy. Mine's been hyperemesis and hospitalizations, home IV therapy, and a reglan pump... Not to mention I"ve had 2 back surgeries in the past and as I gain weight and my center of gravity changes my sciatica has been acting up and my SI joints lock!

  All I can say is hang in there, and take tylenol on a schedule! Also, for the sciatica, see how your doctor feels about "Lidoderm" patches. My OB said they are perfectly safe in pregnancy and I live by them. It's basically just a large patch that you stick over where it hurts, the Lidocain is absorbed into the skin, and tones down the pain.

  I'm one of those that needs the intimacy with DH to feel connected and loved, and we've just had to work around the issues. It may not be as great as before we were pregnant (too much movement makes me really nauseus, and I usually am sick after from being too hot!), but we both get what we need and DH has been very understanding... It may be worth it to just talk to your hubby about how your feeling and see where he stands! Good luck!

  

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• joshandpanda member

  February 2012

  exactly what I went through... we conceived in august, havent done much since then except our wedding in November... maybe once here or there... but thats it... why cant I have the libido jump like a lot of pregnant ladies do? ( WAH!

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• APendola member

  February 2012

  I can count on one hand how many times since we conceived.  And I haven't been through all that you have!  It's just that I've lost a lot of interest and I'm really fatigued.

  My husband jokes sometimes that I just used him to make a baby, but he has been very understanding.  I'm sure your husband understands too.  You can be intimate in other ways for now.

  
  

    
  

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• megolsu3 member

  February 2012

  Yeah- DH and I havent had sex a lot at all- could count the times on 1 hand and honestly- even when we did; it just wasnt the same. Some of us just dont get that heightened libido but I agree with the posters above- as long as you and DH still feel connected and talk about it- that's what matters!

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• DinabethL member

  February 2012

  If you can't do it, than don't worry! But make sure you still have intimate time with the hubby. He needs it, even if you feel like you don't.
  

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