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Attachment Parenting
schmoodle
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Thought you ladies would appreciate this...
schmoodle
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Hi, all! I haven't been over here in ages but I had an interaction today that gave me the warm fuzzies and thought you all would like to hear.
Went for an eye exam and the doctor asked as part of medical history if I was nursing, and I responded in the affirmative (ok, so I make about 3-4 oz. a day at this point but I'm hanging in there, lol!). Turns out she has a little guy a few months older than our babe and is still nursing him. She asked, out of curiosity, how our baby slept and mentioned that her son wakes a lot at night and she worries it's because she still nurses him, if she's doing something wrong, and the like. I told her that (a) of course she's not doing anything wrong by still nursing him, he's still an infant (I think she said he was 10 months old), and (b) it's not her fault if he wakes - my baby is mostly formula fed and wakes all the time lately because of teething, earaches, separation anxiety, you name it.
She was so relieved and grateful when I told her this and when I said that I think many moms aren't honest about how their babies sleep because there is pressure for them to STTN. I mentioned that our son slept in our bed as an infant because it was the only way we got sleep, and that when I went back to work he started night nursing a ton which I thought was fine and normal. She confessed that they co-sleep too (and we bonded over how great the snuggles are, esp. for working moms who don't see baby during the day). Again, she was SO happy to hear this and said most people in her life think she's odd for still nursing/co-sleeping and she doesn't get support and doesn't have many to talk to about this kind of stuff.
So, even if I don't entirely practice what I preach (because I can't nurse very well due to horrific supply and I don't bedshare with this babe because we have a 2.5 year old in our bed and she sleeps better on her own) I was so glad I could reassure a fellow mom who is questioning her practices/choices that, to me, are 100% right/normal (not that alternatives are wrong, but you know what I mean)!
*** It's funny because I'm fat ***
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Re: Thought you ladies would appreciate this...
That's awesome!
BTW, love the new (or new to us, since we haven't seen you in awhile) siggy pics. Your LOs are too cute!
That's so awesome. I'm so happy you were able to reassure a confused mom.
I wish I had real live people I could talk to about that, or at least meet someone who feels the same way. I'm not questioning the way I do things, I just wish I knew people that did things the same way. It sucks being the only one sometimes.