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GRRRR WTF is wrong with my mom?!?!?!?! (I'm going to whine for a minute)

learningfromlifelearningfromlife
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Let's start this out with... Yes, I am grateful to get a shower, yes I know I'm not supposed to get a say in anything, yes all the other stuff I'm supposed to say and be ok with....

So I vented about my mom the other day and insisting on inviting her friend I can't stand... well she's outdone herself again.

She called me to tell me she's already started addressing them out... without my guest list or addresses so that she can make sure she invites her friends. Well according to my list there were very few left over invitations so now I might not get to invite people I actually want there so she can have her friends there... and now we've gone from 1 I don't like to several I don't like (and she knows this). I feel like she did it like this just to get her way. Awesome. Now I'm kind of dreading this shower. I know it's another gift and I need to be grateful but I still don't understand why it needs to be another gift from someone I don't like... I'd rather just not have that extra gift.

And I made christmas cookie pops for the kids in december and now she wants cookie pops that go with the theme (it's a playful garden theme). I hate the idea and she can't find a baker willing to make them. I keep suggesting other ideas I think would go over better but now she's at the point of saying she's going to make them and she's like Helen Keller in the kitchen but thinks she's Martha Stewart so I already know these things are going to turn out horribly. I feel like my shower is going to be super tacky for that and other reasons and I wish she'd stop telling me her plans because it's making me look forward to the shower less.

I just want it to be April and all this to be over and the baby to be here.

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Re: GRRRR WTF is wrong with my mom?!?!?!?! (I'm going to whine for a minute)

  • DinabethLDinabethL member
    At this point, you know what kind of person your mom is. You just have to roll with it, and accept it. You are only stressing yourself out. Instead of focusing on the people you don't want there, just think about all the people that will be there that you actually want to see. It's not like you have to sit down with every single person. I think it will go just fine, stressing out is doing you no good at all!
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  • ImThisBabysMomImThisBabysMom member
    I hate that because someone does something nice for you, you are supposed to suddenly become opinionless about it. I really dislike when people say to just be grateful. You can act grateful to her but still have feelings. Sorry the situation is more about her than you. That's the downside to someone else hosting for you. Just keep focused on the fact that it will be additional gifts for baby. That part is awesome. Just do your best to stay poised and polite through the day.....well unless someone is a straight up biiitch to you.
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  • learningfromlifelearningfromlife

    imageDinabethL:
    At this point, you know what kind of person your mom is. You just have to roll with it, and accept it. You are only stressing yourself out. Instead of focusing on the people you don't want there, just think about all the people that will be there that you actually want to see. It's not like you have to sit down with every single person. I think it will go just fine, stressing out is doing you no good at all!

    Thanks. I definitely need to hear that. I'm already really stressed out and upset with her for other reasons and I think the shower stuff is just making it worse. I think I just need to get it out and vent so I can get over it.

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    imageImThisBabysMom:
    I hate that because someone does something nice for you, you are supposed to suddenly become opinionless about it. I really dislike when people say to just be grateful. You can act grateful to her but still have feelings. Sorry the situation is more about her than you. That's the downside to someone else hosting for you. Just keep focused on the fact that it will be additional gifts for baby. That part is awesome. Just do your best to stay poised and polite through the day.....well unless someone is a straight up biiitch to you.

    Yea, I told her today that she needs to find a nice way to tell her friends to behave. I'm going to get over it and just stop talking to her about the shower until the day of... I will change the subject or whatever I need to do so I'm not so worried about stuff.

    Oh and I asked her when she went to pick out the menu to have at least one thing that wasn't pizza or pasta with tomato sauce (it's at an italian restaurant) because that stuff is giving me wicked heartburn she was like "well I'm sure they can get you a salad because I want to do lasagna and stuff like that" whatever, mom... I'll just go to wendy's beforehand and eat there I guess.

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  • ImThisBabysMomImThisBabysMom member
    Geez. Wow mom does NOT care about you and your wants for the day. It's a show for her friends. I'm sorry to hear that. I'd monitor those invites too. Buy your own invites to send to who she leaves out. That isn't right. Is this your only shower?
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    imageImThisBabysMom:
    Geez. Wow mom does NOT care about you and your wants for the day. It's a show for her friends. I'm sorry to hear that. I'd monitor those invites too. Buy your own invites to send to who she leaves out. That isn't right. Is this your only shower?

    yes it's the only one. It is a show for her friends, but whatever. I will wear a smile and say thanks and write out thank you cards and be done with these people (the ones I don't like)

    ETA: You want to come out to my town next month for some free food? I could use all the moral support I can get.... lol!

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  • gisa886gisa886 member
    imagelearningfromlife:

    imageImThisBabysMom:
    Geez. Wow mom does NOT care about you and your wants for the day. It's a show for her friends. I'm sorry to hear that. I'd monitor those invites too. Buy your own invites to send to who she leaves out. That isn't right. Is this your only shower?

    yes it's the only one. It is a show for her friends, but whatever. I will wear a smile and say thanks and write out thank you cards and be done with these people (the ones I don't like)

    I would also send out invites to my friends behind her back. At this point it seems like she is throwing herself a baby shower and using you as an excuse to do it.

    i wish i could be joking but my dad is the music teacher at a church so he owuld be mad. we had sex, all the time how bad i know but we dont want to wait and he said GREAT OH KAY! and I was really feeling the wets? down there- too embarsed to say- but he acted like man.
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  • adamstodrakeadamstodrake
    Oh geez, it sounds like this is really a shower for grandma and not mommy. (Insert sarcastic yaaaaaay). I think you are doing your best to be cordial about it, and keep on doing that, but you certainly don't have to be happy about it in private. Can you purchase more invites and invite friends on your own?
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  • tiannaleetiannalee
    imagegisa886:

    I would also send out invites to my friends behind her back. At this point it seems like she is throwing herself a baby shower and using you as an excuse to do it.

     

    Yup, this is what I would do and then call the restaurant, ask for something without red sauce and increase the amount of people.  Sorry she is behaving like this.  Good luck!

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