My mom threw me a baby shower this weekend. It consisted of my side of the family, friends, and my parents' friends. Also we invited MIL and SIL. We did not include DH's side of the family (minus MIL and SIL) because MIL said she was throwing her own shower for family and her friends after my mom offered to get together with her to throw one big one.
So MIL comes to the shower and tells my mom she isn't throwing a shower at all (she had scheduled it for Feb 11) and might do a "meet the baby" party around Father's Day instead in honor of my DH's first Father's Day. Then she tells me at the end of the shower that she is going to throw one but only for her friends and family as originally scheduled for Feb 11 (not my FIL's family) and throw a "meet the baby" party for FIL's family. MIL and FIL are still married, she just doesn't like his family. Happens to be that FIL's family is the who DH and I are closest with and love dearly.
So A. I'm confused with the back and forth and am not sure what to believe. B. My mom is really upset because she loves FIL's family and would have invited them had she known. C. I'm upset because it sounds like FIL's family isn't going to get to participate. This is the first grandchild/great grandchild for them.
What, if anything, can I do? DH could get involved (and has been a little bit) but she is just going to say that there isn't enough room like she told me. My friend said to call FIL's mom (DH's grandma) and see if she would like to put anything together... but that just seems tacky. Could we throw our own meet the baby party afterwards for them? We obviously can't throw our own shower. I'm just at a loss.
I hope this wasn't too confusing.