Hospital bedrest w/ a LO at home- anyone else?

Re: Hospital bedrest w/ a LO at home- anyone else?

• SoxGirl0205

  January 2012

  I completely understand how you feel, I have been on hospital bedrest since before christmas and I have an 11 month old at home, I missed his first xmas and his 1 year bday is on Feb.5th and I will miss that too because I will be here for at least another 2.5 weeks if I don't deliver before then.

  My DS is staying with my mom during the day because DH works all day and can't take time off now if he wants any kind of paternity leave once LO comes and our hospital is under strict flu precautions so noone under age 12 is allowed to visit. The nurses have made exceptions a few times since I have been here so I could at least see him about once a week for an hour or so, I also cry when he has to leave.

  I wish I could tell you how to make it easier but to be honest I don't think ANY part of this could be easy on anyone. Just remember that you are doing the absolute best thing you can do right now and luckily our LO's are "young enough" that this time apart isn't too rough on them...just imagine if they were 3 or 4 and could notice the mommy absence more. Hang in there...hopefully you will be out of the hospital soon and home with your precious family. ((((hugs))))

  
  

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• OfficiallyHollyC member

  January 2012

  Are you able to set up Skype with your LO? I can't say I've had the same experience. I have thought about what I might have to go through if I decide to get pregnant again. If I end up back in the hospital I have preemptively planned to write letters to DS every day so he can read them each morning. I also plan to get him a few of the recordable books so he can hear my voice reading to him when he misses me. I will ask him to draw me pictures and have him write me notes (if he is able to, if not I will ask DH to help him). I will keep his favorite candy at the hospital to give him as a treat when he comes to see me. I also plan to have a photo album of my family with me.

  I know its so hard but remember you are at the hospital to keep your LO in the oven safe. Good Luck! 
  

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• TeacherTiff member

  January 2012

  thanks ladies... skype and the recordable books are something i hadn't thought of! 

  i can't imagine missing Christmas & his birthday so I really feel for you I hope the rest of your stay goes quickly! 

    
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• DrRx member

  January 2012

  I'm on hospital bedrest (today is Day 20) and once a week we have a thing called "Moms Morning Out" where the long-term High-Risk moms get together, etc.  2 of the mothers who were here talked about how they had children at home and how hard it was for them.  1 had been here for a while and she said what really helped her was making sure to read to her son at bedtime every night, whether via Skype, the phone, etc.  She was only able to see him a couple of days a week because she didn't want to mess up his schedule (he was 3, I think) and didn't want to disrupt his life too much. 

   Good luck and I hope that you find a way to cope with it.  Hospital bed rest in it of itself is difficult, and I can't begin to imagine how to do it if I had another child at home. 
  

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