So this was a while back, but one of my relatives was pregnant with her second baby. She was planning a small get together for herself, her close friends, and her family that was in her area. She did not have a baby shower for her first baby.
She sent "invites" over facebook. What she said in her invite was "You are not required to bring gifts as we have everything from baby #1 [she has two girls, so clothes and girly things were handmedowns], but if you absolutely are set on giving us something, we could defiantly use diapers. But you could get us whatever if you absolutely want to get us something."
Does this seem gift-grabby to you? I didn't think it was at the time, but now seeing a few posts on here about being gift grabby, I'm not sure...
FWIW, I didn't make it to the get together, but MH and I did get her a pack of diapers.
Re: In your opinion, was she rude?
Yeah, I don't think it sounds gift-grabby, just awkward and TMI. I bet if she had sent out written invites, she would have edited it down a little bit, but Facebook kind of encourages that stream-of-consciousness. The only gift-grabby part is the fact that this isn't a shower but she's still so fixated on gifts. But I bet she was just overthinking things and trying to be helpful. If it were my "small get together," I wouldn't have mentioned gifts at all; not even to say "No gifts."
(And yeah, some people would still bring stuff, but so what? Let them have their fun!)
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Yep, you two said it best. She may have mentioned the gift thing because others she had spoken with had brought it up before the e-vite went out.
The gift grabby ones tend to be the "I'm throwing my own shower for #2" or the "it's just a get together but here is my registry info" threads/posts.
It sounds like she really just wants a casual get together. And as I said before the mention of gifts was probably in response to others asking her about them.
I agree with this. If you don't want gifts then bill the event as a get together or BBQ. If you want gifts then bill the event as a shower. It's that simple.
i agree with PP i would have left it at no gifts required.
she might not have meant for it to come off as gift grabby but it certainly seems that way!
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