Support from board

pleaseforbaby · January 2012

Sorry if this comes off wrong but I am going through exactly what everyone on this board is, however everytime I try and post, get to know you all, send re-intros, encouraging words...I get no response and nothing in return.

Feel like a unpopular teenager trying to find her way in.

Signed,

Overemotional TTC'er

hunterjumper102 · January 2012

We are all hear to help and giving any encouraging words to you. I don't remember your intro which is why I have not replied but in the future I hope that you become a active member of our 3T community. A tip that I would give for more response is to be active, reply to other people and be supportive of them and they will be more likely to me supportive back. Its hard for us to get to know you if you are only posting a couple of times. I hope we see you around more and GL.

Junebride007 · January 2012

Hi! Intro boards are always fun because they help other people get to know your journey. Have you done an intro yet?

Shayliz · January 2012

I saw you made a post today that didn't get any response... it is a weekend and the board is much slower. Also, the board has lurkers who may open posts with no intention of responding to them - that's why you'll see your view go up with no response. Or, someone will open it and not have an answer (like me, I have never stimmed before, so I have absolutely no idea what levels are good, what upping the dosage will do, etc)

pleaseforbaby · January 2012

Junebride007:
Hi! Intro boards are always fun because they help other people get to know your journey. Have you done an intro yet?

I have done several. It's okay...I just see how close you all are and want to be part of the community. It is a rough time for sure and I have a great support team, but they don't quite understand what it's like of course. Thank you ladies for your response. I know I sound so pathetic with this post, just emotional and hopeful.

genmalone · January 2012

Also keep in mind that this board is really slow on the weekends and at night. I saw the title to your other post and I don't have any advice or experience to offer and therefore didn't respond. I'm sure you'll get responses but you just have to be patient.

mizzougal08 · January 2012

I don't think a single woman on this board would purposely not respond or give support to a fellow IFer. Sometimes there's just nothing meaningful we can say other than a good luck or a FX. We are all here for each other, you included! I'm still in the "newbie" stage, but I try to post a couple of times a day to get my name out there. It's easier to be supported when the people on the board know who you are. Just keep jumping in on threads and eventually you'll feel like a regular Smile

sbrowns08 · January 2012

I actually can help in your other post! I opened it on my phone and realized I had more to say than I could manage to type on my keyboard, so I wanted to wait until i was up on the desktop- which I am now. Check out the thread in just a second!

Also- try adding something to your sig or avatar that will help us remember you! I'm not big on sharing personal pic either, but I try to keep my stuff recognizable. I bet that will help!

Sorry your feeling down though. Sad

kellyrn9956 · January 2012

I'm sorry your feeling down about the board's response. I agree with sbrown - using a picture will help us get to know you better. It takes time.

Also, as everyone has said, the board is very slow on weekends. Also, remember you are dealing with women who are dealing with IF. I go through periods of time that I just don't have the emotional energy to deal with responding to posts. It doesn't mean that I don't read them or that I don't care - it's just where I might be at that time.

Finally, all of our plans are so individual - some may not have anything of substance to add.

lincoln79 · January 2012

it can be hit or miss if a topic one post's on brings on a strong response from the board.

i know i was really freaked out when i found out i had a misshapen uterus. i posted about it and got very few replies. i then realized it is not so common.

sometimes in that case, people will cross-post (using the abbreviation XP at the beginning of their post title) on other boards like infertility.

it is a great place for support and just hang in there and keep posting. we are listening, praying, sending vibes your way.

hope this helps!

zookbride · January 2012

Yup, don't think anyone is purposefully dissing you. Weekends are slow and sometimes our board is a little slow anyway just depending on how many ladies are cycling or not. I know there was a big group that is finishing up cycling so some of those ladies went over to PAIF and the ones that got BFNs are probably taking a step back for a few days, understandably.

Definitely add something to your siggy / avatar so we can get to "know" you that way. Also, if you can give any support or advice, just post in a thread. Once everyone gets comfortable seeing your name, you'll feel more at home. I think we all went through the same thing starting out b/c that's just how it is until you get to know people.

Good luck on your journey and I hope your stay here is short!

And I apologize, I didn't see your original intro...but I also haven't been around much b/c work has kept me working overtime. Anyway, WELCOME!!

maggie2324 · January 2012

That happened to me when I posted my intro on the IF board. One person responded. Really? I'm used to seeing at least 10 "welcome and good luck" posts on this board.

It made me pretty sad actually. So I get where you're coming from. Sometimes I post things and don't get a lot of responses. I attribute it to being in a different situation than most of the ladies. I try not to let it get me down.

Sometimes I feel like I don't fit in either, so know that you're not alone in those feelings. Once I start medicated cycles, I hope to join in smaller groups (like the pumpkin snowgirls) to hopefully get more of a camaraderie.

pleaseforbaby · January 2012

maggie2324:
That happened to me when I posted my intro on the IF board. One person responded. Really? I'm used to seeing at least 10 "welcome and good luck" posts on this board.
It made me pretty sad actually. So I get where you're coming from. Sometimes I post things and don't get a lot of responses. I attribute it to being in a different situation than most of the ladies. I try not to let it get me down.
Sometimes I feel like I don't fit in either, so know that you're not alone in those feelings. Once I start medicated cycles, I hope to join in smaller groups (like the pumpkin snowgirls) to hopefully get more of a camaraderie.

I know exactly how you feel. Thank you for your response.

machole513 · January 2012

I'm sorry you feel that way! We are all here and are in similar situations.Sometimes some posts people don't respond too, esp on the weekends its slow..I posted something over the weekend that I really needed/wanted advice from and only got 5 responses, so don't feel bad! Welcome to the board and good luck with your IVF!

buckeyebaby814 · January 2012

I'm sorry you're feeling down. Like many PPs have said, this board is not as busy on the weekends as other boards. Also, adding some info to your siggy will help us remember you and GTKY! I know for me, just seeing a Dx or treatment cycle info helps me decide if my response can be helpful or just offer some hugs or something.

Best of luck and I hope you stick around!

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