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Trouble TTC
biomaj5
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Hello
biomaj5
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in Trouble TTC
I initially posted this on the IF board, and they suggested I try over here instead (this is mostly a c&p from my post over there). I'm not sure if I actually fit in here because we're not currently seeking treatment for IF, but I've been lurking a little and thought I'd introduce myself. I'm 28 and DH is almost 33. We started TTC in June 2008. We took a 6 month break from Oct 2009 to March 2010 and from Oct 2010 to March 2011 (applied to grad school-rejected both times). We stopped TTC again in July 2011 to get some debt paid off. Anywhoo, we're starting TTC again. DH has always been very reluctant to get any testing done. After the 1 year mark, my OB-gyn tested my thyroid, prolactin, and progesterone and everything was fine. DH kind of shuts down when I bring up doing an SA. About 2 weeks ago I managed to get him to talk to me and we decided that we'd try for this year and then pursue testing if we don't get KU this year. My insurance plan starts the year on July 1, so I'm going to bring it up again around then to see if he'd be willing to start earlier. We have coverage for IF testing, but not IVF or IUI. He's very stubborn, so telling him to grow a pair and just do it won't help. Anyway, we're kind of in limbo right now. Some other people on BOTB have said that their DHs were reluctant to do a SA, so at least I'm not alone in having a stubborn husband. Based on how long we've tried, I think we'll probably end up doing IUI or IVF, but we can't do either until DH is on board with testing and actually does the SA. I hope he'll come around soon. I'll probably do more lurking than posting until we figure out a plan, but I wanted to at least say hello.
7,065/13,000=54.3%
Started TTC in June 2008. Not bothering any more.
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Re: Hello
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Metformin 1500 mg Femara 5mg + Trigger + TI Round 2 = BFP!
Beta 13DPO: 115, Beta 16dpo: 561 BFP Chart
It might be but I'm not sure. I haven't called them yet to find out. I'm having a very hard time not bringing up the SA to DH all the time. I would much rather talk out the issues and get a plan in place, but I guess he needs more time to process before he can talk about it. If I call them, I may not be able to keep my mouth shut lol.
Eventually we are going to have to talk about it together. I just hope that it's too far from now.
Would he agree to at least have a consultation with a specialist or RE? If he came and the Dr went over how important testing is maybe he would come around? The next time you guys talk about it try asking him what it is specifically that is stopping him from getting it done.
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Metformin 1500 mg Femara 5mg + Trigger + TI Round 2 = BFP!
Beta 13DPO: 115, Beta 16dpo: 561 BFP Chart
Welcome and good luck!
I'm really sorry that your DH is being stubborn. It always hurts my heart to see this; as he is 50% of your fertility. While testing for infertility is certainly not comfortable (for the man or woman) it must be very difficult not having him on board.
"I prayed for this child and the Lord has granted what I asked of him." ~1 Samuel 1:27
"Whatever it takes, we walk together." ~Pittsburgh Penguins
My IF-turned-baby blog
Gah. I have been trying to reply to this for 2 hours. I didn't even know that my last reply went through since I got the error message and then couldn't load the page for the rest of the afternoon.
::kicks bump::
Anyway, I really can't get him to talk about it. He instantly shuts down. Eventually he's going to have to address it. I need to make an appt for my annual, and I'll bring up testing with my OB-gyn again and see if they can come up with an initial plan or refer me to an RE. There's one across the street from where I work that would be very convenient. I'm having a very hard time being patient. Clearly something isn't right, and even though we're not even close to worrying about AMA yet, we're not getting any younger and I want to get the ball rolling on getting answers.