help me working moms!

Julygirl80 · January 2012

My daughter will be 8 months in a few days and I am 99.99% sure I am a few weeks pregnant with number 2! I am of course excited and feel blessed. However, I just started a job in a pretty demanding job/career.

I just feel guilty/bad - that I will be telling them at the 3 month mark when I will only be here at a total of 4 months at that point.

My husband says who cares, its just work and you dont owe them anything and I feel like I will be letting them down. I work in sales for advertising so the pace is fast and there is a ton of work to be done. I just feel guilty and that I would be a disapointment to the executive team. I know its not right for me to feel this way, but I can not help it. Career is very important to me.

I am just freaking out a little so if there any anyone out there with some advice or words for me, I would love to hear them, Thanks.

kcisthebombdotcom · January 2012

Wait, how are you not 100% sure you're pregnant? I wouldn't worry about this stuff until you've actually hit the time you're going to start telling people. And even then, there's nothing you can do. I wouldnt spend energy worrying about something you can't change. It is what it is.

Pesky · January 2012

Take this one step at a time:

A. Make sure you are pg. No sense counting your chickens and all.

B. Do your job and do it well in the next 3 months. If you have proven your worth, while painful to have you gone, they will be glad to get you back.

C. Make a plan for handling your workload during your maternity leave, figure out how long you will be gone and plan for jumping back in when you come back. I found my boss reacted much better when I told him when I said in the same breath what my plan was, outlined my idea for a matters grid with status and assigned personnel and the length of my maternity leave.

sunnyt154 · January 2012

I think your husband is right. Life just happens sometimes. You can still have your career. I think most companies know when they hire women, this is always a chance.

The only thing you may want to prepare for is perhaps not being eligible for FMLA.

CrazyToast · January 2012

I agree w/ PPs.

Figure out for sure if you're pregnant, then do your job to the best of your ability until you tell your work.

KL777 · January 2012

You do not owe them anything. People need to stop being "people pleasers" and start putting value on things that are a value to them.

Birthing life is much more important than a job.

Years ago, when I was pregnant, I started a new job and six months later gave birth (and SAH for 3 years). I never had a reason to feel any guilt.

Congratulations on your upcoming baby!

Jenny952 · January 2012

How can you be pg, when you're siggy says you're still pg!? JK. Maybe it's the area I work in (HR), but there are a lot of young women who have babies very close in age. You say that career is very important, so I think when you tell them, you reiterate how important it is for you to transition your responsibilities during your leave and your intentions to return. Do whatever you can to make it easy on them and make it so they'll want you to come back. And be prepared for the snarky comments about how you're just popping out kids. My former boss had 3 kids in 4 years and people made comments to her, but she was always so graceful about it and worked really hard that everyone wanted her to come back.

Julygirl80 · January 2012

thanks so much all!

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