Is it wrong to want some new things for #2?

blackbird01 · January 2012

I know part of this is being hormonal, but I can't help but be upset. I mentioned to DH today that we needed to get at least a few newborn and 0-3 month outfits for DD since we don't have any for her yet. DH's response? There's no need to spend money on clothes when we have all of DS's old clothes stored away.

I'm all for reusing things and I have every intention of going through all of DS's baby clothes and seeing what can be reused for a girl. But right now we only have two new girl sleepers as far as actual girl clothes for when she's born. I got some beautiful hand-me-downs from my cousin, but they're all sizes 6 months or older (and most are actually 12 months and over). I know I don't plan on going out much when she's first born, but it's not like I'm going to be locked in the house 24/7 until she's 6 months old. I guess I'm just supposed to put her in a gender neutral onesie and a pair of pants when we got out? At what age does he think it's acceptable to buy clothes for her? I mean, I've saved every piece of clothing DS has ever worn--is DD just supposed to wear boy clothes and whatever girl hand-me-downs we manage to get forever?

We're not having any more children after this, so it's my last chance to buy infant clothes and my first time getting to shop for a girl. Is it wrong to want some new clothes for her?

Lina1030 · January 2012

Not at all....I would TOTALLY be shopping for my baby girl.

acooper18 · January 2012

No, I don't think its wrong. I think you should have some clothes that are hers, especially if you can afford it. Its not fair to expect her to only wear her brother's gender neutral clothes. I'm sure he had his own!

AshleyC0117 · January 2012

Lina1030:
Not at all....I would TOTALLY be shopping for my baby girl.

This!!

mertense · January 2012

I'm in the same situation only backwards! I have saved everything from dd and I went through her clothes and pulled out everything gender neutral (which was most items from when she was little). DH doesn't see the point in buying anything new since we have so much from dd but I want to buy a couple of outfits for him. I think I will just have to run to Macys and buy some and then let him see them! I can't imagine putting ds in dd's dresses. My mom's coworker just had a boy in November so I will be getting a ton of hand me downs from her but I'm worried they will be the wrong season...mom sometimes forgets it can get up to 110 where I live and they only get mid 70's-80's.

roxane · January 2012

Heck no. I have saved both DD & DS's stuff, but I still intend to get a few new pieces for baby #3. She/he should have at least a few non hand-me-downs.

I wonder how your DH would feel about DS wearing nothing but "girl" hand-me-downs? It is amazing how sensitive some guys get about the gender specific stuff when it comes to boys but not so much for girls.

danseusefrancaise · January 2012

You are completely justified in wanting to buy clothes for your baby, especially since this one is a different gender than your first! If you don't have any clothes that your DD can wear for the first six months, then absolutely go shopping! And/or if people ask what you need for your baby girl, say "CLOTHES! We don't have anything!" lol.

blackbird01 · January 2012

Thanks for making feel like I'm not crazy, ladies. I think I'm just going to save when I can and buy a few things on my own since obviously DH isn't going to go shopping with me or give me money for clothes. I just remember how excited he was to buy clothes for DS when I was pregnant, and that was with knowing that we were going to have two baby showers (our moms held separate showers). I thought we could go shopping as a family for DD and get her a few things of her own, so it makes me sad that I'll have to do that by myself.

It doesn't help that my mom basically refuses to buy any girl clothes since she's worried the ultrasound results weren't accurate (and I was given no reason to think the tech had any difficulty in determining the sex) and my grandma told me she was so excited to get us girl stuff for Christmas and then nothing. I feel like I'm the only one insisting on making sure DD has a few things of her own that aren't hand-me-downs and it's making me sad.

danseusefrancaise · January 2012

You are completely justified in wanting to buy clothes for your baby, especially since this one is a different gender than your first! If you don't have any clothes that your DD can wear for the first six months, then absolutely go shopping! And/or if people ask what you need for your baby girl, say "CLOTHES! We don't have anything!" lol.

bellablue2 · January 2012

Hell no you are not wrong! I have two boys, and there is no way in hell I would want to use their old clothes for my baby girl! I am going all out for this baby! I never thought I would have a daughter and she is my last child, so she will be decked out!

devious1031 · January 2012

Sorry girl, that sucks =0( We have 3 girls and even though they got/get mainly hand me downs they get some new stuff too.

Mrs.Teddy · January 2012

I think every baby deserves a few new things (if you can afford it reasonably) even tho we are team green again I have picked up a few things for ducky. I'm going to start sorting thru DS' things in the next month and pull out any neutral stuff to have ready as well but I still wanted this little one to have a few new things, including a coming home outfit. However if I knew this was a girl (or if it is) I can guarantee you there would be a lot more then a few things in that closet!

schmood · January 2012

No...go out and buy girl stuff. I was out shopping yesterday and there are a ton of places that so much stuff on clearance. Maybe he'll feel better if you're getting stuff for $5-10 instead of paying full price? Macys and Herbergers (Younkers in some parts of the country...) had soooo much stuff on clearance. Herbergers had lots at an extra 70% off. I'm team green, so I couldn't go crazy, but did get a few things - a fleece fuzzy snowsuit for next winter for $8, a few gowns for $5...

eav2c · January 2012

I would be out shopping. You might not need nearly as much but you should get to buy her some adorable little outfits. I don't see the problem in doing so and my DH would be slapped silly if he thought my little girl was going to exclusively wear DS clothes.

TKx2 · January 2012

Not at all! I'm not buying any newborn or 0-3 clothes because I'm having another girl, but after the the sizes/seasons are going to be totally off (DD1 was an October baby) so I'm going to have to buy her a new wardrobe every season. One of the best ways I've found to save is to get a Carters coupon online and go in during a sale. I've stocked DD up for the season for less than $100 before.

ETA: you probably know this from your son, but Kohl's Jumping Beans line is pretty much alwasys 50% off, and with a coupon (I swear I get a 15-20% coupon e-mailed to me every day) you can get each piece for less than $5. Their girl stuff is really cute and holds up really well.

gisa886 · January 2012

I don't think he is being fair at all. I would get everything gender neutral out and show him how little you have and go from there.

countdowntolockdown · January 2012

If the tables were turned and you had a girl first and were having a boy now, I doubt this would even be an issue.

Shop for your little girl, is what I say!

Good luck.

MDmama519 · January 2012

I am in your exact same situation.

I went through DS' clothes and pulled out things that DD could wear eventually (didn't find much) but, I accepted 2 large boxes of hand-me-downs from my aunt and uncle. Unfortunately, most of the clothes were 3 months and up.

I have bought "new" clothes for DD when I find them on sale but, most of her clothes that I have bought have come from a second-hand store (which is no big deal to me).

It's not wrong to want to buy new baby things!

My DH and your DH sound the exact same. And, this is our last baby, too.

learningfromlife · January 2012

gisa886:
I don't think he is being fair at all. I would get everything gender neutral out and show him how little you have and go from there.

This. I understand utilizing the gender neutral stuff but would he want to go around in girl clothes forever just because he has an older sister? You're not asking to buy her a 7 thousand dollar stroller, just some clothes that are her own. We got a ton of clothes for this baby from an online yard sale site but we're still going to buy our own stuff too. Like another poster said, Kohl's has some inexpensive things, and so do places like wal-mart (hey I'm not ashamed to say I get kids clothes from wal-mart sometimes....)

in my life · January 2012

I saved all of DD #1's clothes, but I've still been buying clothes for DD #2 too. I definitely want her to have some of her own clothes too.

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