how did you decide to TTC #2

LynsiBHM · January 2012

If you aren't the "happens when it happens" (or oops) type, how did you know when you were ready for #2?

I get baby fever because P is getting so big so fast, but I KNOW I am NOT ready right now. But H is really thinking we should TTC soon. He keeps implying that an oops would be great and I just smack him. We talked about it last night and I realized I have no idea when I want to go for #2. (or 3 or 4...)

Did you just "know"? Did you plan in advance (i.e when #1 turns 2)?

CountryMile · January 2012

DS is going to be three soon and I am still not ready. I am actually thinking about it now more than I was before. I really would love to TTC now, but think it is best for our family situation to wait. I was thinking this April, but now I am pushing the time a little more out. We do want a #2 for sure, so within the next 12 months we are going to start trying.

meangene · January 2012

We knew we wanted to have ours relatively close together, because I plan on going back to work when the youngest is in preschool and it made more financial sense for me to stay home less time. I weaned DD at 14 months and got a little baby crazy, so there you go. Got my IUD out and here we are

McAllie5 · January 2012

For me, I just "knew". I've always wanted them to be close together in age, if I can help it. I think 16-24 months of an age difference is perfect. Of course, I've never been there and whatever age gap we end up with will be perfect, I'm sure.

We stopped preventing when DS was 6 months old, but I'm still BFing on demand, so I'm not concerned that I haven't gotten AF yet. Just a little impatient.

Before DS was 6 months, I was petrified of getting pregnant, and then I started feeling like it was "just time". Now I'm very ready. I'm not looking forward to having morning sickness and taking care of a baby at the same time, but big picture - I really would love to be pregnant now.

I have the strongest feeling that there's a little boy waiting to be born.

ToBeMrsT · January 2012

We originally said we'd have them 4ish years apart, but when ds was 15 months we both felt ready to try again. DS was 19 months when I got pregnant.

hellopoppyseed · January 2012

We are planning #3. I think you have to know yourself. If you are someone who is very cautious and isn't excited about change, you may never feel ready. We planned ds1 for months and talked about the timing and everything but I never felt ready (not in a bad way but it's just my personality). DS2 is just lucky he's already here because I never would not have been ready for him either. I am 30 and we are in a great place for having kids but I can't handle the idea of it. Once things actually happen, I'm fine and I adjust but I have a really hard time comitting to making people. I only agree because I know I want three children and I know the timing makes sense for us. BUT even thinking about it puts me off sex completely. When people say they have baby fever, I don't relate at all. I love babies but having them is life changing and I can't think about it. I just take the plunge because scary feelings aside, I know it's what I ultimately want.

Sharon21 · January 2012

DH and I had it loosely planned before we got married. I already had DD#1 and we knew that we wanted to get married, buy a house, and I would finish college before we tried for another. So when those things were done we started to discuss when a good time would be and kept going back and forth about what time of year would be best to TTC (didn't want to be far along during the hot summer, didn't want a Christmas baby, etc.) finally we decided there really is no perfect time to get pregnant because there is always something going on. So we figured we were ready whenever so I got of my BC and got pregnant the following month.

We are already starting to plan our next. Hopefully we will be able to have number three when the LO is between two and three. We are planners.

kagl08 · January 2012

We always knew we wanted them close. We decided once DD was born we wanted another when DD was about 18 months old. We are the "pick a time-frame and stick to it" type. Instead we started trying when she was 5 months old because we miscalculated. Embarrassed

I blame it on 1st time parent brain. Then DS came 5 weeks early so now my 2 are 13.5 months apart. Honestly it's the perfect spacing for us. We love it! I can't imagine just having DS now (DD is almost 18 months old now and DS is 4 months old).

Katieh6 · January 2012

My boys are 27 mod apart. We got pregnant when ds1 was 19 mos. Ds1 was still so little when we had ds2. If we have a third I'd like ds2 to be at least 3. He's 18 mos and still is a baby.

12bailey18 · January 2012

We did the whole "just see what happens" but we still had to really sit down and decide to come off BCP. We knew we wanted them close in age and I just had a feeling in my gut that it was time. It was the same feeling I had when I felt it was time to plan for #1 so I was familiar with the feeling. We got pg the first month...LOL.

MrsBalletStar05 · January 2012

We talked about it in advance. We wanted our kids to be 3-5 years apart...in my mind that sort of meant that we would wait until #1 turned 3 before we would start trying, but we got anxious and started shortly after he turned 2....so they are 2 years 11 months apart (basically 3 years!!)

kcisthebombdotcom · January 2012

We always knew, even before we TTC our first that we wanted kids close. DH wanted irish twins, and I wanted about 18 months apart. When DS was 4 months old I said I was tired of the condoms, pull and pray was a fine form of birth control until DS turned 9 months and we actively started TTC. 2 weeks later I got a bfp with DD. Smile

In hindsight, I'm glad they're 12 months apart instead of 18. Crazy enough, I wish I listened to DH and got pregnant even sooner.

WhitePicketFence · January 2012

We had always planned on having our kids close together so we just kind of went for it. We both got to a point where we both just knew we were ready and had more reasons to TTC again than we had NOT to. DD1 was starting to sleep better and become slightly more independant (she was 9 months), so I felt like I could handle another baby.

Good luck with whatever you decide!

MrsRoy07 · January 2012

We plan to start TTC this summer, so that hopefully #2 will come along around the time Evie turns 2. That's age gap that I like, so that's the plan.

I'm with ya- she's getting so big so fast that I have crazy baby fever!!!

BNV07 · January 2012

We originally thought we'd wait until DS was about 18 months old to start thinking about #2. Well, a few months before he turned 1 we decided to just stop preventing and take the "see what happens" approach - fully expecting it to take awhile (it took 9 months to conceive DS).

Well, I got pregnant in May - found out right after DS's first birthday, June 2nd. After we found out I was really nervous about how I was going to handle 2U2. At my first appointment we found out I had a missed miscarriage. It was so heartbreaking, but I did take from the situation that maybe we weren't quite ready after all and decided to wait awhile to try again.

We started trying again when in December when DS was 18 months and here I am, 7 weeks or so pregnant Still waiting for my first appointment so I'm nervous and hoping that everything is okay this time around. I feel ready this time and as much as I'm dreading being pregnant during the summer in Florida, I am excited to have a September baby

Mom2Mack1 · January 2012

DH said he wanted to have 2 close in age to get it over with, that sounds bad, but I think he meant the being pregnant and having itty bitty ones. I didn't want to be pregnant while at the beach 2 years in a row! So, once the beach came and went we started TTC #2.

2ktBride · January 2012

Our original plan was to wait until our LO was 1 year. But after my body wasn't handling birth control we started talking about how we'd like to TTC earlier and how it actually made more sense for our family. I thought it would take the pressure and stress off by trying several months earlier than planned but no...I'm still as nervous and stressed as ever. Sad

toomanycats1 · January 2012

I'm alot like you. Baby number 1 was a bit of a surprise, and if we had another one I wanted it to be planned this time. DS is such a good boy, that we just weren't ready to add another, and weren't sure we would ever be. Everyone kept telling us that if the first is easy, then the second will be a terror... and we weren't ready to add that to our lives!

Now DS is 4.5 and will be heading to kindergarten in the fall, and I'm starting to have baby fever finally. The plan is to start trying in September when he is in school and starting to get settled. Having a TTC plan with a date far ahead is helping us mentally prepare ourselves, and has made this decision alot easier so far. I think it's better to prepare a little bit, then just let an "oops" happen and force yourself to leap into something you might not be ready for yet.

sophie206 · January 2012

We wanted kids around 2 years apart, so we decided to stop preventing right after DD's 1st birthday. At this point, we are looking at 2 1/2 years + since we haven't gotten our BFP, yet. I am hoping it happens for us before September-ish so they will be under 3 years apart. We want more than 2, but we are 26 and 27 years old, so we have time on our side at least.

MDmama519 · January 2012

We didn't plan in advance but, DH and I both got baby fever at the same time. We decided to just try and see what happens.

And, well..here we are.

FormerlyKrista555 · January 2012

Cliche, but I'm not sure you're ever really ready.

We just knew from the get-go that we want 3-4 kids if possible, and I'm not getting any younger. I'll be 31 in May. Might as well make em while the makin's good.

FusionLMT · January 2012

We want 3 or 4, we want them close in age, I don't want to be pregnant during the summer if possible, and I don't want to be pregnant much (if at all) in my 30s. So voila! #1 and #2 will be 18 months apart, and any others we will try for a 2 year spacing.

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