S/O: Would you date someone with your name

austenreader85 · January 2012

or close to your name?

Inspired by the "Guess who got married" post below.

A lot of people were sharing stories of couples they knew: Aaron and Erin, Chris and Chris, Casey and Casey, Alex and Alex.

IMO, there's no way in heck I'd date/marry someone who had the same name as me or similar. I'm Chasity and I don't think I'd seriously consider someone named Chase. I went to school with a boy named Chastine and he went by Chaz, I went by Chas. I knew a few friends who thought he was a great catch but I couldn't even get past his name enough to give him a good once over.

Likewise, FIL, Douglas, was married to a woman whose maiden name was Douglass. She hyphenated her name to be FN Douglass-LN but she didn't ask FIL to do the same because she agreed it would be insane for him to be Douglas Douglass-LN.

I don't know, I like having my own name identity and it not being confused with my SO. My uncle and his wife were born on the same day- that's cute. Spouses with the same name is odd, IMO.

juniper19 · January 2012

I have a name that can be a male name. In a million years I couldn't imagine rejecting a man because we had the same name.

CiderWench · January 2012

Yep. My husband and I are Shane and Shannon.

HannahO28 · January 2012

Sure I would. I mean, it's easy for me to say, because men aren't named Hannah, like, ever. But I don't think I would let someone's name being similar to mine get in the way of what could be an awesome relationship.

maggie2324 · January 2012

You can't help who you fall in love with, or what their parents named them. So, i wouldn't say no. At the same time, I'm pretty sure I'm not going to find a man sharing my name. Margaret (Maggie). I did date a guy whose mom's name was Margaret though.

DH's grandma was Margaret too, his cousin is Margaret (Maggie) too. I married a Matthew (Matt), which is about as close as I'm going to get. His last name starts with an M too. We got a lot of M & M jokes... and no, we are not naming our children M names. That's just too much.

Jenny952 · January 2012

I think it would be very odd to meet a guy named Jennifer, but I wouldn't count someone out just because of his name. I can see where that would be annoying and a bit of a pain to share your name with your spouse. I can imagine feeling that way in high school, but I can't imagine not being with my DH just because we had the same name.

ycristina84 · January 2012

I would never write someone off because of their names. I'm a Cristina and if I had met a super hot/funny/sexy/smart Chris or Christopher, I wouldn't have thought twice that he had a similar name. That's an extremely stupid reason to not connect with someone that could bee your forever...If you meet a person and hit it off, why would the name matter? It's just a name. I don't think it's odd, they are simply coincidences in life and depending on what generation you are from certain names are extremely common for both sexes. Not giving someone a chance because their name being close to yours makes about as much sense and not dating someone because of their shoe size.

brideofscowboy · January 2012

I have a very uncommon name....so when I met a guy with a similar name...we clicked..and then fizzled. lol Our intials were the exact same too. Weird.

SEWF · January 2012

I wouldn't write them off. My name is Shauna, so the possiblity of meeting a Sean was high.

Coincidently, H's first name is Kyle, and I have a cousin named Kyle. H's brother is Sean, and I'm Shauna. It was odd at first, but I love him, so it wasn't going to stop me.

ButternutSquash · January 2012

If I meet a grown man with my name....he prolly needs love. LOL!

I don't see the big deal here. You meet who you meet, you fall in love with who you fall in love with and sometimes people with the same name get the hots for each other. *shrug*

kookulai · January 2012

I find it much odder when people date/marry someone with their sibling's name. My aunt, for example, married a Mike and has a brother also called Mike. I would think at a certain point the name would be so ingrained in you as "brother" that you couldn't move on to "sexual interest." But I guess it's just a name, you get over it.

baby_mama88 · January 2012

I used to live next door to an old couple named Gene and Jean. They were adorable.

Keri Marie · January 2012

My name is Keri and I dated a Larry... we didn't think the jokes were funny.

kerribear1717 · January 2012

Although Kerri is not a very common boys name in the US I did know a Kerry in HS. He was pretty cute but I would not have dated him. I can't really say if it was the name or he was a year younger but I was good friends with him.

However, I do have a first cousin named Shannon (boy) that married a girl name Shannon. They've been together for at least like 15 years now. It is weird but not terrible. They did not have their son be a Jr.

HAFranklin · January 2012

I'm Heather, and if I had met a Heath and we clicked, I wouldn't have turned him down based solely on his name. What if I was passing up "the one" just because I didn't like our names together? That's silly.

I once dated a guy with the same last name as me. It is not a common name in the US at all, but in Canada it's the equivalent of Smith or Jones. lol We just happen to have ancestors that moved to the same area. No relation. And if it had worked out, I wouldn't have to change my name. lol

krissyh21 · January 2012

Unless a Chris and a Kris named their kids Christian and Kristen, I would think nothing of it.

kelle017 · January 2012

I've known guys with my name, Kelly, and I wouldn't have ruled it out, but it would have been weird.

TheWop · January 2012

DH and I are Nick and Nicole. I don't think its that weird. I get a lot of "Oh, isn't that cute!" when we tell people our names, which gets old, but it's not terrible.

stahlop · January 2012

My name isn't unisex, so I don't have to worry about that, but I wouldn' t even date people who have the same name as my immediate family members. My cousins all married people with the names of their siblings and that weirded me out.

slukd79 · January 2012

juniper19:
I have a name that can be a male name. In a million years I couldn't imagine rejecting a man because we had the same name.

This. Isn't it the person who counts?

Moneypenny424 · January 2012

My friend Lauren dated a Loren. A little odd at first, but not a big deal. I feel more for people who end up being Carol Carroll or something, but either way, I wouldn't let it deter me from being with someone.

I'd be surprised to meet a man named Gillian, but I guess if I'd fallen in love with a Julian, it wouldn't have bothered me.

moonfaerie · January 2012

kookulai:
I find it much odder when people date/marry someone with their sibling's name. My aunt, for example, married a Mike and has a brother also called Mike. I would think at a certain point the name would be so ingrained in you as "brother" that you couldn't move on to "sexual interest." But I guess it's just a name, you get over it.

This is how I feel about people dating someone w/their parents' name. i wouldn't say it's odd; just unfortunate. I couldn't imagine calling out "Oh Dave" (my dad's name) in the throes of passion. lol Dave is a popular name around here for my generation so I lucked out that I never fell for any.

My name is Jeanette, and one of my former loves is Gene. Not super close, but sort of close and it didn't bother me at all. During a break-up, my friend and I ran into Gene and his date, Gina, and my friend thought it was soooo cute. I, on the other hand, did not find it so cute.....Gene and I reunited shortly after that so I ruined their possibility of marrying someone with a similar name.

cdc1982 · January 2012

My nn is pronounced "chris" (spelled diff). I've never dated a guy named "Chris" though. Not for name reasons necessarily, just never did.

However, I dated a guy with the same name as 1 of my bro's & that was just too weird to me! (disclaimer: I ended up calling it off for other reasons, the name thing wasn't a factor, just was really weird for me).

FrecklesInside · January 2012

How can one help it if they fall in love? Why would you let a name stop you? Weird thing to get in the way of what could be the right person for you...

salt78 · January 2012

My boyfriend in 8th grade and I had the same last name. We were made fun of mercilessly for it.

As far as first names are concerned, I dated a Lawrence for a little while years ago (my name is Lauren). It wouldn't have crossed my mind to not date someone for that reason.

blu-eyedwife · January 2012

I don't think it could come up for me, but my brother dated a girl with the same name as him. And she wanted to get married and name their children the same name. She was a bit nuts. That relationship didn't last.

emikat · January 2012

I have dated a Chris and I'm Christine. It's not a big deal and you get used to it. People like to mention it all the time. But whatever. You really can't help who you fall in love with and writing someone off because of their name is limiting yourself and possibly causing you to miss out on someone great.

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