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First post and a question

umassgrlumassgrl
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HI ladies!

ive been lurking/reading/learning for a little while, so this is my first post. I am 23 weeks along with fraternal girls. Ive been extremely lucky and have had an easy pregnancy (knock on wood). These are our firsts, so we are freaking out a little bit over being prepared for any baby let alone 2. We have all the material things needed and are learning how to care for babies, but my question is this, was anyone else afraid they wont be able to bond with 2 babies. I am scared that I wont bond strongly with either one or if one requires more attention i wont bond as much with the other. Am I the only one to fear this? Please no flames. Thanks ladies!

B and E est July 19, 2008 B and K joined us April 14, 2012
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  • adacopeachadacopeach
    I, personally, don't worry about that, but we've been trying for these babies for a couple of years.  However, i have read that its very important on the mother to try and start bonding with the babies while you're pregnant.  I know that it sounds silly, but every night or morning, I'll take just 5 minutes and rub my belly and talk to them.  I visualize what it will be like when they are here.  Just by doing that, i get so excited to see both of their little faces and to love on them.  Our lives are about to change forever and part of being prepared is to mentally be in the right place.  It sounds like you guys are taking those steps by reading books.  Don't worry, i'm sure that nature will take its course once they are here and you'll/we'll never be able to imagine our lives without them :)
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  • ardillaardilla member
    I was afraid of this, until about the point you are at now. I started to learn their in-utero habits and little personalities (especially because of lots of monitoring and u/s due to PTL and hospitalization). We decided on names that fit them, and when they arrived, I felt like we already knew them and had already bonded quite a bit. Congratulations on your two little girls :-)
    After 20 months TTC with PCOS, we were blessed with twins!
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  • macchiattomacchiatto member
    I agree with MrsLee. Some MoMs do find that they bond with one baby first and then the other (one might make eye contact and smile earlier, or you might have one in the NICU and one at home, etc.) but over time as you get to know them, recover and heal, get used to taking care of two babies at once, those things will work themselves out.
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