MIL shared pregnancy on facebook

mommabear7182 · January 2012

My MIL just posted about my pregnancy. I asked her to remove it, which then she said that pregnancy is a joy and should not be hidden.

Grrr.

Mrs. Rohde · January 2012

oh. i would be soooooo pissed. This isn't her news to share!!!

noah-bear · January 2012

Thats why my mom doesnt know yet. She is like that.

bellino11 · January 2012

That seriously is my worst fear! I literally just changed my privacy settings, but having another person post on their own page is out of control. Wow-- the nerve of some people. I'd be pissed too!!

Nikko Blue · January 2012

I would let her know that if she feels that way, the next time you have news to share, she can find out when you are ready to share with the world.

JulesDiane · January 2012

Time to unfriend MIL! I would be so upset! How disrespectful when you asked her to remove it, and she didn't.

kimmyt09 · January 2012

My MIL did that with my 1st, as soon as we called to say I was pregnant. So, at only 4 weeks. At least mine took it down when I asked! I'd be so mad if she disrespected me so blatantly.

september's bride · January 2012

MIL and FIL blabbed to everyone already despite us asking them specifically asking them not to. Same argument, that they're just so happy that they can't contain their joy. I was so angry at them, but realistically, if it's out it's out. Don't let yourself get stressed over it now.

MrsT0522 · January 2012

OMG...can you have your husband talk to her?

judahsmommy1 · January 2012

I would remove her as a friend at least for now. I totally agree that it's not her news to share. I would also ask my husband to let her know that next time you have news to share she will find out with the rest of the world since she refuses to respect your privacy.

AngelGirl37351 · January 2012

I would be upset that was not her blessing to share. I had sort of the same problem. When my daughter was born there were people posting pics of her on facebook before my husband and I got to do the big reveal. I was really upset

wallacewife06 · January 2012

That's why I am kinda glad that my MIL doesn't know yet.

kimmyt09 · January 2012

jalara48:
kimmyt09:
My MIL did that with my 1st, as soon as we called to say I was pregnant. So, at only 4 weeks. At least mine took it down when I asked! I'd be so mad if she disrespected me so blatantly.
That is one cute little guy in your siggy! Awwww!

Thank you.

eclipselova4eva · January 2012

That is one thing we've told EVERYONE about this pg. Absolutely no posts on fb to which my FIL said, well some ppl will. Why can't some people just respect it?!

Hopefully your MIL will gain some sense and respect you by taking it down.

jbrennan312 · January 2012

JulesDiane:
Time to unfriend MIL! I would be so upset! How disrespectful when you asked her to remove it, and she didn't.

Yes

aspensonj · January 2012

mommabear7182:
My MIL just posted about my pregnancy. I asked her to remove it, which then she said that pregnancy is a joy and should not be hidden.
Grrr.

This!!! Exact same thing happened to me at Christmas. My husband and I told our family and closest friends, but were not ready to announce to the world because we had had a miscarriage a few months prior and were only 8 weeks along at the time. We had planned to wait until 12 weeks or so to tell everyone else, but my MIL announced on her FB page that she was going to be a grandma. Sure enough, a few minutes later, posts of congratulations came flooding onto my page. SO furious.

I'm so sorry that happened to you.

pinkpepsi · January 2012

I would be so upset. This is why I havne't told my mom either.. The world will know within the hour after she finds out!

Elli143 · January 2012

I can't believe she would be so inconsiderate! Maybe this is the hormones talking, but I would probably leave a note on her FB post saying "You know, I asked politely for you to take this down, but you refused. This isn't your news to share, and I don't appreciate you telling the world after I explicitly asked for this to be kept within the family until we were ready to share. I'm really hurt that you couldn't respect our wishes."

She might reconsider whether or not to keep it posted after all her friends see your response ;-)

jimmie48fan · January 2012

I can't believe she would be so inconsiderate! Maybe this is the hormones talking, but I would probably leave a note on her FB post saying "You know, I asked politely for you to take this down, but you refused. This isn't your news to share, and I don't appreciate you telling the world after I explicitly asked for this to be kept within the family until we were ready to share. I'm really hurt that you couldn't respect our wishes."She might reconsider whether or not to keep it posted after all her friends see your response ;-) That is a good idea!!!! I like the comment the best.

HappynHealthy0917 · January 2012

I TOTALLY understand your frustration! My SIL just did the SAME EXACT THING o twitter this morning! I was and still am PISSED!

roxyttandme · January 2012

What a bish!!!! I would be livid!!!!!

jolis_petits_bijoux · January 2012

What a bish. I would be LIVID.

jolis_petits_bijoux · January 2012

roxyttandme:
What a bish!!!! I would be livid!!!!!

Jinx!!!

krysydawn · January 2012

OMG! I would be livid as well.... Everyone I have told has gotten the "I'm pregnant!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! But its NOT facebook public!!!!!!!!!" Luckily everyone has been understanding... MIL doesnt have a FB and I have my SIL (satans spawn) blocked totally... My MIL did react to the news with a "Nooo.. I mean, yay but uh.. noooo"... UGH... Sorry about your crappy MIL spilling your awesome news!! This was YOUR blessing.. not her place at all. And to not remove it? Wow.... Uncool.

cornflakegirl1984 · January 2012

My aunt told my mom. I was trying to wait until the 2nd trimester to tell my mother due to the amount of stress the woman creates.

The nerve of some people. Our bodies, our babies, our news to share!

TechieGirl1 · January 2012

that's the reason why we are telling everyone at the same time. because we know both sets of grandparents will not be able to contain themselves! (First grandchild on both sides!) Geeked

MeatballEsq · January 2012

Ugh I'm sorry MB! Thank goodness my MIL doesn't have Facebook. She started telling everyone when I was only 5 weeks, and when we told her it was a secret and to please stop telling everyone she threw a fit and said all she wanted to do was "share her good news." Sounds like our MILs are both pretty selfish.

KWood2011 · January 2012

OMG I would seriously flip out over this!!

nickschick! · January 2012

I'm sorry. I'd have DH all over that one. I can't believe she wouldn't take it down when you asked. I'd say, fine, leave it up, but you won't be getting a phone call when he/she arrives!

damabo80 · January 2012

Elli143:
I can't believe she would be so inconsiderate! Maybe this is the hormones talking, but I would probably leave a note on her FB post saying "You know, I asked politely for you to take this down, but you refused. This isn't your news to share, and I don't appreciate you telling the world after I explicitly asked for this to be kept within the family until we were ready to share. I'm really hurt that you couldn't respect our wishes."
She might reconsider whether or not to keep it posted after all her friends see your response ;-)

I like this idea.

damabo80 · January 2012

Elli143:
I can't believe she would be so inconsiderate! Maybe this is the hormones talking, but I would probably leave a note on her FB post saying "You know, I asked politely for you to take this down, but you refused. This isn't your news to share, and I don't appreciate you telling the world after I explicitly asked for this to be kept within the family until we were ready to share. I'm really hurt that you couldn't respect our wishes."
She might reconsider whether or not to keep it posted after all her friends see your response ;-)

I like this idea.

aubrie7789 · January 2012

oh my gosh I would be furious! My MIL actually just updated her "Bio" on facebook and in it mentions her first grandchild and one on the way this fall...obviously its me and my DH's bc her other grandchild is 2 months old...I didn't say anything but I hope no one notices....a little bothersome but I'm doing my best to let it go.

nycteach · January 2012

noah-bear:
Thats why my mom doesnt know yet. She is like that.

Me too. Sadly, I can only tell my mom once I'm comfortable telling the rest of the world.

nycteach · January 2012

eclipselova4eva:
That is one thing we've told EVERYONE about this pg. Absolutely no posts on fb to which my FIL said, well some ppl will. Why can't some people just respect it?!

People are dumb. I had a good friend who texted friends and family the birth details and asked people not to share on Fb yet but sure enough people shared baby's sex and name before she could make an announcement. blah!

bookbagged · January 2012

That is terrible! How inconsiderate of her.

My BIL (who overheard us telling MIL) told all of my husband's relatives when I was 6 weeks with out first child. Then, we didn't find out the baby's sex and just hours after our daughter was born my MIL had dozens of photos of her on facebook before we could even call friends and family to let them know the sex.

This timr, we aren't telling BIL until we have to, and MIL won't be knowing until later as well.

useurname · February 2012

I would have been spitting fire!!!! Angry

Something you would rather wait until the time is right. I didn't want to tell anyone until I was 3 to 3 1/2 months and then I still felt uncomfortable.

Netty_3 · February 2012

I am sorry she took that from you. Most people don't like to share for a while...and even then, it's your news to share! She's had her pregnancies to share already. You should tell her (nonconfrontationally) that it bothered you and why, and that it would have been nice if she would have at least taken it down when you asked her to. Don't let it fester, and get DH to be there to support you. I really am sorry for you.

Netty_3 · February 2012

My BIL posted a picture of me with our baby right after I had given birth...looking a mess!

rebubula:

That really sucks. I feel your pain; my BIL did the same thing literally minutes after my husband told him not to tell anyone. I'm on Facebook, but I rarely post my personal business on there. So it infuriated me to have someone else post something about me on their page for 300 people to see. I fumed for weeks.

I sent him a message telling him it wasn't his news to share and I was very hurt that he explicitly ignored our request to keep it quiet until we were ready to let everyone know. You need to let MIL know how much this upsets you and how wrong she is.

overtonhayes · February 2012

WHAT?

I'd have lost it. I was scary even before I got pregnant, now NO ONE messes with me. Haha

I second what others said about getting your husband to talk to her if she won't listen to you. But I personally (now, as I said, NO ONE messes with me, so this may be too aggressive an approach) would try talking to her again. Tell her this is your pregnancy, it's your news, it's your choice who you tell and when, and she really needs to take down that post immediately, How dare she? Not to mention - I'm really sorry for how morbid this sounds - but your ticker says you're not 12 weeks yet. God forbid, but if something were to happen then who you have to break the sad news to should be your choice and your choice alone.

Ugh, I'm furious FOR you now!

I'd also keep an eye on the post and take a look at who has commented/liked it. It may be worth giving them a quick call or shooting them a message asking them to keep it to themselves.

rubber_chicken · February 2012

this is why we didn't tell either of our families until 14 weeks. some people make everything about themselves. your MIL sounds like a turd.

melody921 · February 2012

Ugh, and this is why we won't tell anyone before we're OK with everyone knowing. That was really disrespectful of her. Yes, pregnancy is happy news, but it's YOUR happy news to share. What's the matter with people?

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