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I so know better!

lafayettegirllafayettegirl member
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So, we've only just begun this whole waiting thing. I know it could take a while. I get it. But....the SW called us right after Christmas, before we were even officially approved, to say that she had a BM she thought would be a great match. She got us approved and immediately showed our profile to the BM. Today, I called the SW, really to check in, since our profile has not been put on the agency's website. While I knew our profile was shown, I tried to put it in the back of my mind.  When the SW called back, she was more focused on saying that she was meeting with the girl today, the girl had seen our profile, and that she was going to give the SW her top three profile choices. The SW then said she normally only calls the top choice.  

 

Well, the SW didn't call back. My head tells me that I should not get too worked up about it because we won't be the right fit for everyone and it would be kind of crazy to be matched the first time out of the gate. My heart is fighting my head and yearning for that call. So, as you all can imagine, I'm all out of sorts.

 ARGH! 

Cervical Cancer Survivor since 2007 TTC Since 2008 IUI#1 = BFN IUI#2 = BFN IUI#3 = BFN IUI#4 = BFN IVF #1 = BFN FET #1 = BFN FET #2 = BFN FET #3 = BFN IVF #2 = BFN IVF #3 = BFN FET #4 = BFN FET #5 = BFP!!! 06/10/2011 Miscarriage 06/21/2011 Adoption Application Submitted 09/2011, Personal Documents Submitted 11/18/2011, Home Visit 12/16/2011, Officially Waiting!!! 01/21/2013 MATCHED!!!! 01/24/2013 Baby Boy Born! Lilypie First Birthday tickers
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Re: I so know better!

  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member
    It's totally understandable! We were shown 3 times in our first month active, and it was weird knowing that someone saw our profile and thought, "Nope"
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  • meganroseleemeganroselee member
    imageDr.Loretta:
    It's totally understandable! We were shown 3 times in our first month active, and it was weird knowing that someone saw our profile and thought, "Nope"
    And a little hurtful to the ego... I always took it waaay too personal if we were viewed but not selected...
    33 yo, DH with MFI Iui x4, Dec 2009 to Jan2011 all BFN.... IVF May 2011 BFP, mc June 2011 at 6.5 weeks, FET Oct 2011 BFP! Sweet baby girl born 25 June 2012** started adoption process Feb 2010, approved Oct 2010, failed match in delivery rooms Feb & Aug 2011... Birthmom called back 3d after we returned home. Aug 26 2011, our sweet baby boy comes home for good!!
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  • lolo2011lolo2011
    Yes it is so hard when you know you were not chosen.  My agency would not tell us every time we were being shown because it was too hard.  I gave them 5 books and when they called me to ask for more I could not believe 5 people had said no to me!  Then they asked me for 10 more and I felt horrible!  Then I got the best call of my life and have the most perfect little boy.  Hang in there!  It is hard but will bo so worth it.
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  • cogbotcogbot member
    waiting is awful.  Everyone says that when our baby comes to us, the wait will not have seemed so bad.  I hope they are right.  Hang in there!
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