my life is the movie Groundhog Day - not sure I can do it anymore

marybeth1699 · January 2012

I love my LO but at times I feel like my life us tha same thing over and over. Some days I wind up watching the clock waiting ir bedtime. I feel terrible that I feel that way. We get out of the house once a day to go shopping, run errands, meet friends for lunch or go to play dares but I still get bored. Particularly in the 3- hours from when he wakes up until his nap (530 am until 9 am). Maybe it is just the age he is at - he can't crawl yet but he tries. And he is always trying to pull up to standing so I am constantly hovering over him so he doesn't fall over. And he is interested in stuff for like 5-10 mins max. We go from room to room playing with the most random stuff. I am going a little stir crazy. We have no 2 on the way this fall and I think things are going to be like this for quite some time. Anyone care to commiserate?.

ENI36 · January 2012

marybeth1699:
I love my LO but at times I feel like my life us tha same thing over and over. Some days I wind up watching the clock waiting ir bedtime. I feel terrible that I feel that way. We get out of the house once a day to go shopping, run errands, meet friends for lunch or go to play dares but I still get bored. Particularly in the 3- hours from when he wakes up until his nap (530 am until 9 am). Maybe it is just the age he is at - he can't crawl yet but he tries. And he is always trying to pull up to standing so I am constantly hovering over him so he doesn't fall over. And he is interested in stuff for like 5-10 mins max. We go from room to room playing with the most random stuff. I am going a little stir crazy. We have no 2 on the way this fall and I think things are goingto be like this for quite some time. Anyone care to commiserate?.

give it some time. i used to feel really bored but as he has gotten older it gets better every day.

12bailey18 · January 2012

Yep, that is the stage where I was sooooo bored as a SAHM. They just can't really DO anything yet but you still have to watch them constantly. LOL. I remember watching the time crawl by. Good for you for getting out everyday. That's important for my sanity. It won't be like this for long in the big picture. Soon things will be much more "exciting" and be he'll be able to keep busy and do more stuff. Hang in there. I know exactly how you feel. I remember that stage vividly.

marybeth1699 · January 2012

Thanks for the suggestions. I can't really leave him because he has some major separation anxiety going on. So if I leave him (in a safe space) for too long then one of two things happens - he cries cause I am not there or he tries to crawl, lands on his belly and screams. Maybe I should just let him cry a little more? I have an exersaucer and those types of things but they buy me 5-10 minutes max before he is bored with them. Sometimes I wonder if I spoiled him by always being there to play with him. I am just a little frustrated so thanks for letting me vent. And keep any suggestions coming!

susanmosley · January 2012

marybeth1699:
Sometimes I wonder if I spoiled him by always being there to play with him. !

You are not.

Are you reading any books, listening to your music/talk radio, planning events/parties, working on projects? During that age, I was doing a lot of things I wanted to do...granted in tiny segments, but I always had something to drift off to in the times you are describing.

ENI36 · January 2012

marybeth1699:
Thanks for the suggestions. I can't really leave him because he has some major separation anxiety going on. So if I leave him (in a safe space) for too long then one of two things happens - he cries cause I am not there or he tries to crawl, lands on his belly and screams. Maybe I should just let him cry a little more? I have an exersaucer and those types of things but they buy me 5-10 minutes max before he is bored with them. Sometimes I wonder if I spoiled him by always being there to play with him. I am just a little frustrated so thanks for letting me vent. And keep any suggestions coming!

i wouldnt just let him cry more. what he is doing is completely normal for his age. trust me it gets so much better as they get older.

rab41380 · January 2012

At that age it is easy to feel that way. Once they hit over a year you can actually get out more to museums, zoo, etc...they can converse with you more too helps a lot too. I know I am feeling the same way as you, but I have a 3 year old and a 6 months old and I am getting antsy with all the typical SAHM duties, I want to have a career again. I know I will just have to wait until DD is in kindergarten and I will then feel more comfortable with putting DS in daycare, but I want him to be home with me the first two years. SAH is not for everyone and some can only do it for a few years and some can do it long term, just depends on what makes you happy!

pinacolodas · January 2012

Do you belong to a gym with babysitting? DD just started and man, I wish I had tried it sooner. It gives us both a break.

janbrady · January 2012

Do you have any mom friends to set up playdates with? Or you can join a mom's club.The one in my area sends out emails with the different activities for that week. You don't have to go to *all* the activities.

If your budget allows Gymboree is a fun option. If not, library story time could be good for interaction.

I also break up the shopping into different days/stores so if I'm desperate we can run an errand.

ETA - Sorry, reading comprehension fail. I see you do get out. One thing that helped me was to realize you don't need to entertain them 24/7.

12bailey18 · January 2012

Separation anxiety is normal at that age, it's not your fault! We couldn't even sit in church without being paged to the nursery that DS was crying. Seems like I could never leave him for a small break! It can just be a very difficult age. I agree with PP. Let him explore in a safe room and take some time for yourself!

hayleydeee · January 2012

I'm right there with you. Lately half the time I forget what day it is. Also, since adding two new babies into the mix, days and nights are all the same. It's pretty much the same routine, round the clock.

When DD was that age we blocked off and baby proofed a couple of rooms in our house so that she could have free rein of those areas. It gave me a chance to do other things without having to stay right next to her all the time. If you have carpet it would probably be fine for him to fall on his bum once and a while, it's all part of learning to get around on their own.

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