It's decided- I'm having a C-section ;-( (long/sorry)

sanriobaby · January 2012

Even though I knew this was a possibility, the finalization of this decision is kinda sad for me. As some of you might know, I've been high risk from the very begining. Baby girl has been either frank breech or transitional breech since 17wks. I have a blood clotting issue, an anterior placenta, I'm plus size, and have sleep apena. I'm now also showing signs of early PE. After many talks with my medical team, we've all decided that at this point, attempting an inversion at this point may cause more harm than good and it's better to not risk having an emergency c-section due to a failed inversion/complications, so now I'm going to have a scheduled c-section instead. Since I was the last appt of the day, I'll know next wk the date and time.

The good news is that I won't have to wait that much longer to meet her. My mom and siblings can come down w/scheduled time off to stay w/me instead of rushing down the last minute w/o scheduled time off. My medical team will have every measure in place to deal w/any possible complications should they arise. I'll know LO and I will be hospitalized for at least 4 days, so I can pack accordingly. DH can also give his job some notice before starting his paternity leave, which will be very much appreciated.

The sad news is that this isn't what I envisioned my birth experience to be. I've never had major surgury before and I'm afraid that something might happen and that I'll miss her first cry. I'm sad b/c I won't be able to bond w/her right away since I'll be in recovery. I'm sad that I'll be all hopped up on meds and I fear I won't be "present" to appreciate those first few hrs w/her. I know I'm not the first nor the last woman to have a c-section, I just wished that my 6yr journey towards motherhood wasn't so freaking complicated Sad .

I know in my heart that what counts is that my baby girl gets here, safe and sound, no matter what. What counts is that I'm finally gonna be a mom which is all I've ever wanted. A part of me knows that in the scheme of things, this should be the easy part but I can't help it, I'm having a big boo hoo baby moment, my DH's at work and won't arrive til 11pm, and I'm alone and I just need a hug Crying . I hate to call my mom like this, but I'm gonna ask her and my sisters to come over, even though it will take them 2hrs to drive here.

Thanks for letting me vent.....

pinkshades05 · January 2012

I'm sorry to hear that this isn't the experience you wanted--you have every right to mourn the loss of that dream. I hope for the best that you and your little girl are healthy and happy coming home!

nonoemily · January 2012

(((HUGS)))

Good luck! It sounds like you have a lot to be thankful for, and your decision was well thought out.

I've never had a c-section, obviously, but I remember being really scared before I had my very first surgery. So my heart goes out to you. It was abdominal surgery, too, although not as intense as a c/s.

I hope everything goes smoothly and you heal quickly.

abadab · January 2012

I completely feel you. I am in the exact same situation. I was planning an intervention-free, out-of-hospital waterbirth. I was dismissed from the birthing center yesterday due to my baby being either breech or transverse for most of this pregnancy and sent to an OB. My scheduled c-section will be on the 6th.

Here's what I understand... for scheduled c-sections, they usually do a spinal block, which doesn't affect your mind at all. It only lasts about an hour and then your pain meds are up to you. I asked about immediate skin-to-skin, and my doc won't do it because he feels he needs his space to close me up. But he said it will only be about a half hour before I can have my baby in my arms, and it won't leave the room at all. And my mom can be with it during that time. I'm actually going to ask if my mom can do skin-to-skin with it while they close me up, because someone is better than no one. Plus, I'm trying to focus on positives - round head, fewer hemmoroids...

I completely understand your feelings, though. I've been in tears over this. Like you said - I understand that it's all about the health and safety of the baby, but at the same time - it's so different from what my plans were... I hope you are able to come to terms with this change in plans. Everyone has told me that this is just the start of this kid calling the shots...

HappyToBe2012 · January 2012

Good luck! While not the experience you were hoping for, at least you can know that they are taking every precaution to make sure you and LO are okay and doing well!

colinemma · January 2012

Your feelings are totally valid ~ I think most of us facing a c-section have many of these feelings.

I'll be having my 3rd c-section on the 21st. Unless there are major complications, you are awake & totally present mentally during the operation.... you are usually just given a spinal. So you will hear the first cry. Again, unless there are complications, the baby will be in recovery with you after an initial physical for bonding.

Feel what you are feeling, go through it & then you will be better prepared on the big day!

soralette · January 2012

**HUGS** I'm sorry that you have to go through all of this stress.

I hope that, in the end, it turns out to be much easier and better than anticipated!

mixedqt21 · January 2012

I feel your pain. Up until this point I had thought c-section was the last thing that would happen but now it looks like we will be scheduling one. I feel just as down about it, and you have no reason not to feel upset. Doing what is best for LO is top priority and knowing that gives me comfort. (((HUGS)))

soveryexcited · January 2012

Like one of the pp's, I'm going in on the 15th for my third c-section. My first c-section was an emergency c-section and it was a pretty awful experience. My second was planned, and it was a TOTALLY different experience. It was actually completely the opposite of my first. I was able to walk into the OR, hop up on the table and they administered the spinal. Didn't even hurt. I laid back, and they prepped, all the while chatting and talking with me. DH came in at that point and sat by my head and talked to me too. The actual c-section part was very quick, and you can't feel a thing. My Dr was super great and talked us through the whole thing and then we heard the cries. They brought DS right over to me as soon as they wrapped him up and I got to snuggle with him (DH was holding him next to my face) the entire time they stitched me up. I was completely aware the whole time. The pain meds that they give you after don't make you loopy so you shouldn't be out of it at all. And I don't know if its different at your hospital, but DS and DH were with me while I was getting stitched up, and then walked with me into the recovery room and stayed there too.

I'm sorry that you won't get the birthing experience you wanted; but don't worry; a c-section is actually really great. It's planned, you will have your whole medical team in place, and it will be fine and you will do great.

sanriobaby · January 2012

Thank you all SO much for your kind words of support as well as your personal experiences w/having c-sections, it really helped! I wound up calling my mom and she along w/my youngest sister came right over, then DH came home and btwn them and your messages, I feel so much better! I was having a rare woe is me moment and really needed to vent/cry it out.

Although I'm still a bit nervous, I'm going to concentrate on the positives. I'm going to meet my baby girl soon!!!! Once again, thanks ladies for being there Big Smile ...

laxnpro · January 2012

All the stories helped me as well

I am most likely going to have to schedule a c/s and have been very conflicted about it. I think the most important thing is that no one is making the decision lightly and while it may not be ideal, it is for the good of our LO. My friend had to have one as well and she said to think of it as your first selfless decision you make for the health of your child.

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