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Scared Shitless
Hi I'm Jennifer. I'm 8 weeks and 3 days pregnant. I'm due September 4th. My husband and I have been married for 4 years. We weren't planning on getting pregnant at all then on Monday we found out we're having twins. I don't have any idea how to even react yet. We were not planning on having a baby anytime soon. I don't even know if we would have ever. From what I've read the babies are mo/di. They have one placenta and two sacs. Is mo/di right? I'm so confused by everything so sorry if that's a stupid question. I also have to see a maternal-fetal medicine specialist on February 7th so I'll be 10 weeks. Does that mean she/he will become my primary doctor? How often will I see him/her? Again I'm so new to all of this so please forgive me if those are stupid questions.
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Re: Scared Shitless
First off, congrats! Seeing two babies on an ultrasound screen is extremely overwhelming even when you were trying to have a baby so I am sure you are feeling a whole range of emotions right now. It will probably take awhile to sink in and it may take awhile to come around to the idea of having two (or heck, in your case, even having one) but know that that is completely normal and ok.
As far as if your MFM will be your primary doctor, I think it kinds of depends on your OB practice. My OB was treated as my primary doctor and I alternated between seeing them and my MFM. I do know that some twin moms just primarily saw an MFM so it really depends. I would ask how they will handle it when you go. How often you see the MFM also depends on how things go with your pregnancy, it will change the farther along you get.
I think that you're reaction is quite normal. I'm sure that a lot of us, even those of us wanting to have a child, had a similar reaction. I know its hard to see it now, but these babies will be such a blessing!! You guys were the chosen ones, sounds hokey, but true. You are correct about the mono/di category...same placenta two sacs. Have they categorized you as this yet? It seems a little early, if so. How often you see the MFM will depend on what kind of pregnancy you have. Mono/di and di/di pregnancies see the mfm more, it seems.
You're in the right place to starting collection information. My advice would be to try and prepare yourselves as much as possible by staying connected on this site and reading a few key books. I told myself that I would not start reading books until week 20, so I'm going to start with the three that were recommended to me...1) mothering multiples by Gromada (breastfeeding & caring for twins-since i"m planning to try to BF) 2) The Happiest Baby on the Block by Karp 3) Healthy sleep habits, Happy Twins by Weissbluth. I don't have any feedback about these books and others may other more suggestions. Good luck and stay positive!!!
Congrats!
Twins were and are a complete shock to us. Even though we were trying to get pregnant, it all happened very fast and then to find out it was twins was overwhelming.
PP has some good advice on books. I have all of those and am working my way through them. Being on this board has been so helpful. Just reading what other MoM's are going through each phase and how they have handled things has been reassuring.
As for the MFM, I have only seen them twice - once for each ultrasound I have had with them. I started out at a midwives practice when I thought it was a singleton, but had to move to an OB once we knew it was twins. They told me I would see the MFM a lot more if I had mono/di twins, but ours are di/di, so they don't need to be monitored as much. So in my case, I see my OB more and only the MFM for my ultrasounds and follow up on the twins.
Boy/girl twins born at 37w1d and 37w2d
Thank you all. I'm pretty sure I won't clue in or come out of shock until they go to college. This is all so new to me I'm just trying to think of everything at once. The bills, the diapers,breast feeding or bottles, the college funds, the possibility of them being born early, the stress it'll put on us, the future health risks, the risks to me, where the hell we are going to get all the funds to manage everything. I'm pretty much scared of everything. I really hope that's normal! My OB didn't actually say they are mo/di but he said he sees one placenta and two sacs so from what I've read on here they are mo/di. Does that make them identical? Sorry probably another stupid question stupid. Will the MFM identify them as mo/di?
I will definitely check out those books. Any other suggestions?
Yes, if they are in fact mono/di then they would be identical. Those are not stupid questions, there are a lot of terms thrown at you in a twin pregnancy and until you are faced with a twin pregnancy, you would probably never know them. It's a lot to take in. Not to be creepy but if you want to post your ultrasound picture, we can probably tell you if it looks like they are definitely mono/di.
As far as everything else, trust me that it will fall into place. I spent months panicking on how we would do it financially and I could not comprehend how we could afford daycare for two babies, diapers, etc. but you figure it out and find ways to make it work.
I don't think I'm comfortable with posting any pictures yet. You know all those creeps out there. And I'm sure you're not a creep or anyone here but I'd like to just check out the website a little more.
I really hope everything will fall into place. I'm glad I found this website as I will probably have million and one more stupid questions in the months to come.
No problem, believe me, this board understands that more than many.
I just wanted to say good luck and congrats.
My husband and I were in your shoes last year - we also had the unplanned pregnancy to find out it was also twins. It took us right up until they were born to get over the "oh ***" phase. I lurked on this board for a long time scooping up what ever information I could gather from people's posts.
Lily born at 27 wks: 2 lbs 4 oz.
Max born at 27 wks: 2 lbs 2 oz.
Glenn born at 31 wks: 3 lbs 9 oz.
My twin's birth story
I'm also constantly worrying about the financials more than anything. I just keep trusting what others have said...it will work out and you find a way.
Boy/girl twins born at 37w1d and 37w2d
Did anyone mention "When You're Expecting Twins, Triplets...." by Dr. Barbara Luke? It's by far the most informative book on a multiples pregnancy. A multiples pregnancy is VERY different from a singleton pregnancy. It was by far the most helpful book we read. DH devoured it and I couldn't get him to read anything before that.
A lot of us on here liked that book.