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OnTheLanai · January 2012

Ok ladies got any confessions or newbie questions?? Feel free to post here!

My confession for today is that sometimes when we finally get our BFP I want to keep it secret from DHs family the whole time since they have been so mean to us about IF. IDK if that is a flame worthy confession or not LOL

SteFizzRich · January 2012

My Mom told me last week that my brother and SIL are going to start TTC. This has me more excited than it should. DH and I personally don't think they are ready. They both have reproductive issues. My brother's spans back from birth. It's probably going to be a long hard road for them. They don't have great insurance and are not very financially stable. On top of it, I don't think my SIL is emotionally mature enough to go down this road. She's kind of a basket case already. But I'm selfishly excited that there will be someone else in the family TTC w/fertility issues. I am just so eagar to have someone IRL going through this IF journey with me.

dimples128 · January 2012

I have found out over the last week, there are 5 people I know who are now excepting and 3 have due dates within a week of each other! While I am happy for them, it still p!sses me off because I'm the one having to go through all this to just have one! I hope I'll understand "why" sooner rather than later.

BabyDreams711 · January 2012

I love your post! If they can't share your struggles and be positive or at least there for you guys, why share the positive experience when it happens!!!

My MIL still has pics of my DH's ex-wife's children on her wall with her biological grandchildren. These boys are not his and he was not allowed to be a father when he was with her. These pics are when they were 2 & 4, they are now in their 20's. Plus we have been together 10 years, longer than he dated and was married to his ex. I told him MIL will not get a picture of our baby, we hope to have, until those come down. And I am DEAD serious.

limpetfan · January 2012

My confession is that I'm unreasonably irritated about a coworker's just-announced pregnancy. She is a really loud person anyway, but her loudness has grown exponentially since she announced the pregnancy this week. She's also using it as a reason to not do things in the lab (things that are totally fine during pregnancy). I'm just over it. This probably makes me bitter... but I don't care.

MsGMChick · January 2012

Mine: I must be getting chubby(er) because for the last 2 days my favorite bra won't fit and today my jeans are digging into my belly. I keep telling myself its phantom baby bloat but it probably has more to do with the 16" chocolate chip cookie I made the other day. Le sigh.

ukcats27 · January 2012

OnTheLanai - I completely agree. My husband's family has been incredibly insensitive. I don't feel like they deserve to know first, second or even third!

OnTheLanai · January 2012

ukcats27:
OnTheLanai - I completely agree. My husband's family has been incredibly insensitive. I don't feel like they deserve to know first, second or even third!

Im glad Im not the only one! Thankfully its not his immediate family, but his extended have gotten just plain nasty with us! In December they found my blog(still not sure how that happened) and left nasty anonymous comments on my post about a pregnancy in the family. DH and I are very disgusted by their behavior. One of them even attacked DH! I was PISSED. Ive never seen DH so angry before that day. EVER.

ukcats27 · January 2012

OnTheLanai:
ukcats27:
OnTheLanai - I completely agree. My husband's family has been incredibly insensitive. I don't feel like they deserve to know first, second or even third!
Im glad Im not the only one! Thankfully its not his immediate family, but his extended have gotten just plain nasty with us! In December they found my blog(still not sure how that happened) and left nasty anonymous comments on my post about a pregnancy in the family. DH and I are very disgusted by their behavior. One of them even attacked DH! I was PISSED. Ive never seen DH so angry before that day. EVER.

Oh my gosh! That's horrible. I'm sorry you had to deal with that.

brookelynpaisley · January 2012

I was bummed when I opened up FB today and saw an u/s pic of my childhood nanny's soon-to-be grandbaby. Then, I remembered her married daughter (who, coincidentally is married to aman with my husband's name) is only about 5 years younger, so it's not that awful. But THEN I discovered it's her youngest, unmarried daughter's kid. My confession is that I wish I could get past feeling like I "deserve" a baby more than a young unmarried person. I feel awful that I can't get past that thinking.

KristieM1985 · January 2012

OnTheLanai:
ukcats27:
OnTheLanai - I completely agree. My husband's family has been incredibly insensitive. I don't feel like they deserve to know first, second or even third!
Im glad Im not the only one! Thankfully its not his immediate family, but his extended have gotten just plain nasty with us! In December they found my blog(still not sure how that happened) and left nasty anonymous comments on my post about a pregnancy in the family. DH and I are very disgusted by their behavior. One of them even attacked DH! I was PISSED. Ive never seen DH so angry before that day. EVER.

WTF! That's horrible. I agree I would not be telling them about anything until I was ready to pop. They don't deserve it. I'm in shock. That's horrible.

KristieM1985 · January 2012

brookelynpaisley:
I was bummed when I opened up FB today and saw an u/s pic of my childhood nanny's soon-to-be grandbaby. Then, I remembered her married daughter (who, coincidentally is married to aman with my husband's name) is only about 5 years younger, so it's not that awful. But THEN I discovered it's her youngest, unmarried daughter's kid. My confession is that I wish I could get past feeling like I "deserve" a baby more than a young unmarried person. I feel awful that I can't get past that thinking.

my confession is that I feel exaxtly the same way but I don't even feel awful for feeling that way.

genmalone · January 2012

KristieM1985:
brookelynpaisley:
I was bummed when I opened up FB today and saw an u/s pic of my childhood nanny's soon-to-be grandbaby. Then, I remembered her married daughter (who, coincidentally is married to aman with my husband's name) is only about 5 years younger, so it's not that awful. But THEN I discovered it's her youngest, unmarried daughter's kid. My confession is that I wish I could get past feeling like I "deserve" a baby more than a young unmarried person. I feel awful that I can't get past that thinking.
my confession is that I feel exaxtly the same way but I don't even feel awful for feeling that way.

My confession is that while I do feel guilty about it, it's not just the young unmarrieds that I feel I deserve it more than. I'm bitter when it's a financially irresponsible person and pretty much anyone who has an oopsy. I know I'm hateful but...

OnTheLanai · January 2012

genmalone:
KristieM1985:
brookelynpaisley:
I was bummed when I opened up FB today and saw an u/s pic of my childhood nanny's soon-to-be grandbaby. Then, I remembered her married daughter (who, coincidentally is married to aman with my husband's name) is only about 5 years younger, so it's not that awful. But THEN I discovered it's her youngest, unmarried daughter's kid. My confession is that I wish I could get past feeling like I "deserve" a baby more than a young unmarried person. I feel awful that I can't get past that thinking.
my confession is that I feel exaxtly the same way but I don't even feel awful for feeling that way.

My confession is that while I do feel guilty about it, it's not just the young unmarrieds that I feel I deserve it more than. I'm bitter when it's a financially irresponsible person and pretty much anyone who has an oopsy. I know I'm hateful but...

I definitely have those same feelings..

Jezebell26 · January 2012

OnTheLanai:
genmalone:

KristieM1985:
brookelynpaisley:
I was bummed when I opened up FB today and saw an u/s pic of my childhood nanny's soon-to-be grandbaby. Then, I remembered her married daughter (who, coincidentally is married to aman with my husband's name) is only about 5 years younger, so it's not that awful. But THEN I discovered it's her youngest, unmarried daughter's kid. My confession is that I wish I could get past feeling like I "deserve" a baby more than a young unmarried person. I feel awful that I can't get past that thinking.
my confession is that I feel exaxtly the same way but I don't even feel awful for feeling that way.

My confession is that while I do feel guilty about it, it's not just the young unmarrieds that I feel I deserve it more than. I'm bitter when it's a financially irresponsible person and pretty much anyone who has an oopsy. I know I'm hateful but...

I definitely have those same feelings..

Im with you girls. I feel so ridiculously sorry for myself and am beyond upset over people I know who are pg with #2, i started ttc #1 before some of them. It is eating me alive and some people keep asking what we are doing and why havent I had kids. If they only knew.....

I am so bitter and some days, i dont feel bad about it

watkinae · January 2012

genmalone:

KristieM1985:
brookelynpaisley:
I was bummed when I opened up FB today and saw an u/s pic of my childhood nanny's soon-to-be grandbaby. Then, I remembered her married daughter (who, coincidentally is married to aman with my husband's name) is only about 5 years younger, so it's not that awful. But THEN I discovered it's her youngest, unmarried daughter's kid. My confession is that I wish I could get past feeling like I "deserve" a baby more than a young unmarried person. I feel awful that I can't get past that thinking.
my confession is that I feel exaxtly the same way but I don't even feel awful for feeling that way.

My confession is that while I do feel guilty about it, it's not just the young unmarrieds that I feel I deserve it more than. I'm bitter when it's a financially irresponsible person and pretty much anyone who has an oopsy. I know I'm hateful but...

This totally sum up my feelings right now. I was upset when I found out that my (25 yr old) brother and his wife are expecting their 2nd kid. First of all, my mom and I found out on FB (b/c SIL isn't smart enough to not post obvious status updates). A week later I finally called my brother out on it and he admitted #2 was on the way. Since I outted him, he then called my mom to let her know. In that same conversation he asked her if she could loan him $2000 so that he could get a 4 door car. I just feel like if you can't afford a $2000 car, maybe you don't need to be having another kid right now.

Blsd4given · January 2012

genmalone:

KristieM1985:
brookelynpaisley:
I was bummed when I opened up FB today and saw an u/s pic of my childhood nanny's soon-to-be grandbaby. Then, I remembered her married daughter (who, coincidentally is married to aman with my husband's name) is only about 5 years younger, so it's not that awful. But THEN I discovered it's her youngest, unmarried daughter's kid. My confession is that I wish I could get past feeling like I "deserve" a baby more than a young unmarried person. I feel awful that I can't get past that thinking.
my confession is that I feel exaxtly the same way but I don't even feel awful for feeling that way.

My confession is that while I do feel guilty about it, it's not just the young unmarrieds that I feel I deserve it more than. I'm bitter when it's a financially irresponsible person and pretty much anyone who has an oopsy. I know I'm hateful but...

Ditto for me too. Add to my list people like my BFF's H... She has two kids in her home (1 DS, 1 DD) from previous relationships... And, from my point of view, he clearly hates them (or strongly dislikes, anyway) - which is displayed in every way that he interacts with them. But she's KU with their first DD together. *sigh* When I think of how her kids will be even lower in his eyes once his DD is born.... it makes me so angry and hurt for them. Especially her DS.. They're especially hard on him... And he totally has my heart. Sad

OnTheLanai · January 2012

Blsd4given:
genmalone:

KristieM1985:
brookelynpaisley:
I was bummed when I opened up FB today and saw an u/s pic of my childhood nanny's soon-to-be grandbaby. Then, I remembered her married daughter (who, coincidentally is married to aman with my husband's name) is only about 5 years younger, so it's not that awful. But THEN I discovered it's her youngest, unmarried daughter's kid. My confession is that I wish I could get past feeling like I "deserve" a baby more than a young unmarried person. I feel awful that I can't get past that thinking.
my confession is that I feel exaxtly the same way but I don't even feel awful for feeling that way.

My confession is that while I do feel guilty about it, it's not just the young unmarrieds that I feel I deserve it more than. I'm bitter when it's a financially irresponsible person and pretty much anyone who has an oopsy. I know I'm hateful but...

Ditto for me too. Add to my list people like my BFF's H... She has two kids in her home (1 DS, 1 DD) from previous relationships... And, from my point of view, he clearly hates them (or strongly dislikes, anyway) - which is displayed in every way that he interacts with them. But she's KU with their first DD together. *sigh* When I think of how her kids will be even lower in his eyes once his DD is born.... it makes me so angry and hurt for them. Especially her DS.. They're especially hard on him... And he totally has my heart.

That breaks my heart Sad I hate situations like that!!

Ashbear2 · January 2012

I only have a few girls that I've told about TTC, and the issues we are having but lately, they've been giving me a hard time. I wanna bite their heads off over it; instead I sulk and vow to never talk to them about IF again.

It's childish.

KristieM1985 · January 2012

Blsd4given:
genmalone:

KristieM1985:
brookelynpaisley:
I was bummed when I opened up FB today and saw an u/s pic of my childhood nanny's soon-to-be grandbaby. Then, I remembered her married daughter (who, coincidentally is married to aman with my husband's name) is only about 5 years younger, so it's not that awful. But THEN I discovered it's her youngest, unmarried daughter's kid. My confession is that I wish I could get past feeling like I "deserve" a baby more than a young unmarried person. I feel awful that I can't get past that thinking.
my confession is that I feel exaxtly the same way but I don't even feel awful for feeling that way.

My confession is that while I do feel guilty about it, it's not just the young unmarrieds that I feel I deserve it more than. I'm bitter when it's a financially irresponsible person and pretty much anyone who has an oopsy. I know I'm hateful but...

Ditto for me too. Add to my list people like my BFF's H... She has two kids in her home (1 DS, 1 DD) from previous relationships... And, from my point of view, he clearly hates them (or strongly dislikes, anyway) - which is displayed in every way that he interacts with them. But she's KU with their first DD together. *sigh* When I think of how her kids will be even lower in his eyes once his DD is born.... it makes me so angry and hurt for them. Especially her DS.. They're especially hard on him... And he totally has my heart.

those poor kids. That's so sad.

sarah_e87 · January 2012

When we finally do get our BFP, I plan to avoid both my family and DH's family until I'm 20 weeks or so. I really want to keep it from DH's family for the whole pregnancy and only call them after I've delivered Embarrassed

I know that it's bad for me to not want to share it with everyone, but pregnancy is something to be happy about...and I really don't think DH's family will be very happy.

Stillharbor · January 2012

MH has made me promise not to test without him. However, he gets very upset when I get upset b/c AF has shown up yet again. So, I've broken my promise a few times when I got a really good feeling, just so that I would know either way and get myself under control or at least get the worst of the storm over with. As much as hubby's try to support us, sometimes it's best to lighten their load, (especially when it's something they can't "fix").

Durham1008 · January 2012

My BFF has been completely unsupportive about me and DH having babies and she's also been really jealous about some inheritance money that I'm getting from my grandmother. So I'm just not going to talk to her for a while. I just can't deal with her pettiness anymore.

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