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Re: FFFC
J was eating a big bowl of (dry) apple cinnamon cheerios as a snack and just spilled 1/2. The babies are crawling around eating them. My 1st thought was to run for the vacuum. Then a realized; snack for babies, less cleaning for me... so I left them.
I usually avoid anything gimmick-y for weight loss but I found this online and went to Wegmans at 10pm to get the stuff. https://www.nowloss.com/jillian-michaels-lose-5-pounds-in-7-days-diet-drink.htm . It kinds tastes like Arnold Palmer Iced Tea- if it works, it works (please let it work, please let it work)
Secretly I'm a little jealous of DH. We've lost the same amount of weight for Mexico and he weighs 70lbs more than me but for some reason- everyone is telling him congrats, how great he looks... not a word to me. Just being a baby.
DH and I went to the movies last night. My parents called and offered to watch the kids and since DH is trying to lose weight, going out to eat was out. All I wanted to do was go to sleep or work on the birth announcements. Really, the only reason I agreed to go was for movie theater popcorn.
DH is at work all day today and tomorrow. DD slept in until 8am, thank god, but by 9 I was already counting down the time until nap and bedtime.
DH works really hard and has long hours but I am so flipping envious when he is home for 4 days in a row without any plans and having DD there. I would love to have a day to just sit on the couch and do absolutely nothing. I am so stinking tired right now, have this nagging cough/cold that won't go away and just am generally wiped out. This makes me feel ridiculously lazy and like a bad mom, who will only get worse because once the baby comes I might have the ability to sleep more comfortably, but I don't imagine I will have the opportunity for sleep like I do now. I am an ungrateful jerk.
Also, I am a waste of space at work, so I am not sure why I come home so tired anyhow.
If DH tries to get some tonight I'm going to tell him that AF is still here. She's not but I'm mad about something he said this morning. He knows I'm mad but will probably try to get some anyway. Too bad for you DH!
I think it's ridiculous when people spend a ton of money on baby clothes. The clothes are going to get spit up on, pooped on, and pureed on. And they will be outgrown in a few months. Clothes from Walmart and Target are fine with me. And kids should be dressed as kids, not miniature versions of adults.
My mom and I just went to Janie and Jack this weekend and my mother bought Charlotte a sweater and skirt (from the clearance rack and it was still $40!). She said, "Oh but it is suck nice quality." Buying clothes for ME when they are nice quality and I will wear it for a few years makes sense. Buying expensive but nice quality clothes for Charlotte, who will spill on them and wear them for a few months is not the same.
I usually keep my FFFCs lighthearted or silly but I just got home from the store and need to vent w no flames.
I find myself fantasizing all.the.time about how my life would be with just DH, J and N. N has the same personality J did when he was a baby- smiley, content, easy going. The 2 of them are a pleasure 99% of the time. B is the opposite; he is always fussing about something, into something... We're an out and about kinda family (well me and the kids). I took everyone to Tops and B just whined/screamed the whole entire time. He was dry, fed, had a bottle and had just napped. DH has had it with him and says he drives him nuts so hangs out in the home office at night until B goes to bed. I keep making excuses for B; tired, teething, over stimulated- anything. It's funny b/c even J shows a preference to N- he's frustrated with B for getting into his stuff all the time.
It makes me feel sick to my stomach but it's my honest feelings. I wish I could be one of those "ooh twins are a blessing... double the love..." kinda moms but it's really freakin hard.
This is/was Tyler. I just couldn't leave the house with him nor could I stand to leave him with anyone in fear that they would get frustrated and throw him out a window. And he never slept to top it off. I never knew what to do and felt so ashamed about how he acted all the time. In hindsight, I now blame it on his sensory issues that even after reading about SPD when he was a baby was certain he didn't have at the time. I was wrong. It was a blessing to me when EI came in and starting sending a bunch of therapists and teachers to our home so Ty could have one-on-one time with someone who could leave before they got too frustrated to deal with him.
I really wish I had something to offer, but I really don't. Maybe you could talk to your EI coordinator about it. Maybe she could offer some sort of support group or something because it does sound like it is effecting your family. Or maybe a core evaluation to see if he has any other issues that may qualify him for some sort of service, I don't know, I am reaching here.
Sometimes it just doesn't matter what we do and don't do as parents, our kids are just who they are.
I often think about what it would be like to be on my own, or with someone like my dad. Dh drives me nuts and it only gets worse. I am actually glad he works as often as he does because we just don't play nice when he is home.
My dad and I are exactly alike, which is funny because I only saw him EO weekend and 1 night a week for dinner/a few weeks in the summer since the age of 4. I need a dh like him, or like me.....I told dh today we needed to sit down tomorrow at nap time and have a 2 sided conversation. I said it was that or we could try counseling because I am frustrated. I talk and he "listens" but doesn't respond, therefore I don't think he listens. Nothing changes and I am left to nag.
He smokes (work and car only, never around us or the house) and eats like crap. He treats my old car like crap, smokes in it even though I asked him not to. He has trashed it and it is full of trash. The kicker is it is 10 yr old and could be replaced. It needs a few things to be fixed. He wants a brand new car....sorry dude, earn a brand new car and take car of the one you have. I have no idea when he got the oil changed last. I don't want to be the one to pay the bill every month and watch it go to he!! in a hand basket.
I have tried not treating him like a child and give him responsibilities....he fails every.single.time. He can't even get to the dentist to get his teeth cleaned, it has been over a year and he has horrible teeth. I don't want to kiss him, I don't want to have sex with him....he is beginning to disgust me.
Phew....that felt good. So yeah, we need some help and the sooner the better,
Sorry MrsWhite- I can't imagine how hard twins must be. ESP with a selfish DH who doesn't help. Him hiding from B seriously makes me want to cry. I am constantly amazed at how you keep it together!! I am not a good enough mom to do this on my own. If I didn't have my DH I would have moved in with my parents long ago!!! My kids are tough. TOUGH. And some days you wonder if it's ever going to end...but it does and soon enough they'll all be in school and you can breathe a little..
Another dumb one: I had a dr appt so as a treat on the way back to work, I stopped and got Coldstone. This was dumb because we are going out to dinner tonight and potentially we will get dessert, and I sure will have another big fat fatty dessert tonight, thankyouverymuch.
I have to get a birthday present for a party Ian's invited to tomorrow. I know I could very easily pop into the toy store or Target after work before picking him up from DC, but I really want to go out and wander around the mall for a couple hours tonight, just 'cuz. I even called my mom already to see if she wanted to wander with me.
I know that DH will even say, "Ian and I will go with you", but I just don't want them there. Mall wandering is the one thing I really miss since becoming a wife and mom. I know my spending is much more limited than it was back then, but I still love the idea of just taking my time seeing what's out there.
I can only imagine how stressful this is, and I truly admire the job you do as a mom. Especially since your DH is acting like a baby himself and hides away instead of interacting with his children and giving you a break. He's missing out on alot. You rock, M!
I think we've all said it one time or another, but you're a super mom and you do so much with those kids. I hope that your DH opens his eyes and starts participating in your daily life more. I can't imagine what that must feel like to do it alone.