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Babies: 3 - 6 Months
tiff012982
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Ferber/CIO question regarding paci
tiff012982
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DD loves her paci and goes to sleep no problem. We literally lie her down, put her in her sleep suit with a paci and voila in 2-5 minutes she is out. It's wonderful! Once or twice she has refused the paci and has gone down without it, but that was at night and I just think she was super super tired. So my question is about wake ups. She will usually wake at the 45 min mark from naps and usually once a day a paci insert extends the nap another 45 min.
At night she usually wakes anywhere from 1-4X between the hours of 7:30-10pm just for the paci. I don't go in unless she is full on crying, which only seems to happen between those few hours at night. The last few nights she has been great after 10-pm. If she gets up, I don't know it. Two nights ago she slept all the way through from 7:30pm-6:30am without waking at all the whole time.
If I want to do CIO in the middle of the nap and night do I have to get rid of the paci all together? Meaning no paci to go down initially?
I am currently reading Ferber and he says that the setting they go to sleep in will help them return to sleep when they wake. Well, that means no paci unless I want to create that every time she wakes. Anyone have success with keeping the paci to go down initially.
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Re: Ferber/CIO question regarding paci
This may not help at all...but one thing I read in Ferber that I remember was something to the effect of...don't feel like you have to do this if you're happy with how sleep is going. If you don't mind going in to replace the paci as often as you do, and LO seems to be getting enough sleep and is putting herself to sleep fine and happy with that, I wouldn't worry about it too much.
Although with that said, once I plan on doing Ferber full boar (DD puts herself to sleep from awake pretty well, but I still go in to comfort whenever she needs it at this point, which is actually not very often), I will probably get rid of the paci all together just to get all the crying out completely at one time!
DD goes down without her paci 95% of the time. Occasionally if she has been crying for longer than I want, or if I know I'm putting her down when she's WAY overtired, I will give her the paci to help her fall asleep. Since she is so used to going to sleep without it a majority of the time, it hasn't become an issue on those rare nights when she has it.
Naps, however, are a different story. We still use the paci at the 45 minute intruder. Otherwise she just won't go back to sleep. We tried just getting her up when she woke at 45 minutes (like Ferber says to do) but found it just made for extra-cranky days. I said we would use the paci at the halfway point during naps (when needed - sometimes she sleeps through) until it became a nighttime problem again. So far it hasn't.
To the other PP who said your LO was pretty good about going down by herself: I think sleep training will be a breeze for you. Our DD was used to putting herself to sleep most of the time, like I mentioned above, but then around 12 weeks we dealt with the 4 month wakeful and she got used to the middle-of-the-night paci inserts. Multiple times. It literally only took one night of sleep training about two weeks ago. She woke 5 times that first night, but I only had to go in there twice to "shhh" her. The next two nights she woke one time each, but was always asleep before the first interval (5 mins) was up. And since then she hasn't woken in the middle of the night, that I've heard, anyway.
We're dealing with the paci issue too. I am following our pedi's advice: we put her down with the paci but once it falls out, it's out. I don't go back in to replace it. She will wake up and cry for it and we do the Ferber method at that time- the first night we did it, she cried for about 12 minutes and then either found her fists or fell asleep b/c she was quiet and then asleep. It's working pretty well for us.
When she gets up to eat, I give her the paci again to help her go down and we start the process over.
The nap is a different story. I usually replace the paci for her b/c it normally falls out about 1 or 2 minutes after I put her down. Then I replace it about 45 minutes into her nap and she'll sleep another 45 min.