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November 2011 Moms
Goodfam11
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I know I am being selfish but I still can't help being pissed.
Goodfam11
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**Vent**
I love my husband. He is a wonderful father and an amazing hubby.
He asked me today if he can go to a beer festival. It's is in a town an hour and a half away. This ticks me off. I am a SAHM and while I love it and I love my kiddos, I need that help/break on the weekends. He hardly ever asks to go and do things for himself so that should make it easier that he wants to go do this. It doesn't. I am of course going to let him go and keep my mouth shut but it is so frustrating. I can't pack up and go for a day because our son is EBF. Where is my alone time. I practically fall into bed at nights because I am so tired.
I know it's unreasonable and selfish but he should want to spend his weekends with us and helping out. I don't think he understands at all because he gets to leave the house and get out M-F.
Okay, vent over. Thanks for listening.
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Re: I know I am being selfish but I still can't help being pissed.
Find a sitter and just take your pump. That's what we've been doing. I pump in the car to and from where ever we're going. It's actually pretty nice to go out on a date with my hubby.
Also he went out one day after work, came home about 8 which isn't bad at all. I did tell him if he get those 2 hours to do whatever then so will I. I pumped him a bottle and went to the tanning booth and relaxed. It was awesome.
I can relate.
DH has been working long hrs; getting up at 4 and sometimes not getting home till 10 at night. This past weekend he also needed to work through the weekend. It's pretty much been just me taking care of DD 24/7 since DH is not home when we go to be and already gone when we wake up. I am exhausted. I need a break. Am I getting one? No. Why? DH will be gone all this weekend playing in a hockey tournament 2 hrs away.
Granted, I'm sure he needs a break from work too but still... I look forward to my weekends and having someone else around to help out. Now it's going to be 2 weekends in a row that it will just be me and the baby. Without the weekend to refresh me the week just seems to drag on.
Pipsqueak born 6/9/14
Go and get a pedicure on the other day, Sunday? It will give you enough time away to relax and recharge and you can be home to nurse.
I know how you feel-just last night I was dealing with this kind of thing. He came home from work asking if he could go out later with his friends and get a drink. I said okay because, same as you, I know that he should get some time to himself that's not work related. But I made a deal with him that I could go to the store by myself. So I went and while I was out I get a call from him-"baby is fussy and come home please?" Really? You go to work all day and I'm at home and can't call you to come home and give me a break if baby is fussy. But I can't go out by myself for a few hours without being made to feel guilty because I left you at home with a fussy baby? Then when I brought this up with him, he tried to tell me that lo's fussiness doesn't affect me as much because I'm around it more and used to it...
Thankfully when he left, lo went to bed so I got some time to bump and read
Wow, this really seems to be a trend. I was going through the same thing myself last night. DH is in a band and they practice once a week. We agreed that would be his time and unless DS is sick or somethings going on with him that I need major help with. Well last night they actually had a gig, so DH was gone all day, came home for about a half hour to an hour and then was out again. He had said he'd probably be done around 9:30 or 10 at the latest. Well wouldn't you know that DS had a really fussy day yesterday where I pretty much had to hold him most of the day or had to be really close at hand, so I was exhausted and got nothing done. DH doesn't get home until about 11:30 which just happened to be when I was trying to get DS to go to sleep. I ask if he can help (since this is usually his thing) and he says he so tired and has to get up in 6 hours. I have to admit I wanted to smack him lol.
I agree with PP though, pump some milk so DH can give it to LO in a bottle and go get a massage or pedicure. I'll be doing that myself in the next coming weeks (just need to book it).
Thank you all. I am now booked for a massage and paraffin wrap. Granted it isn't for another two weeks but hey, I have something to look forward to now.
I hope you all do something for yourselves too. You deserve it.