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I had a dream last night..

VikingQueenVikingQueen member
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About C.. I guess we were trying to work things out and we were moving.. He had left his phone in the car and it rang so I went to get it to give it to him and noticed it was a girl calling.. so I got nosey and checked his history on his phone and there were a lot of calls and texts from girls and not little innocent ones either.. I remember there being one of our friends there who saw me crying and them telling me that he had cheated on me the first time and he was cheating on me again.. I woke up so upset.. but I think this dream is going to help me decide what is next for me and C.. As far as I know he didn't ever cheat on me, as far as I know he wasn't with this chick until after we split up.. but evidently it's been bothering me subconsciously and now it's coming out in dream form.. ::sigh:: I don't know how to feel right now.. kinda numb I guess..
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  • lebongolebongo member

    ((hugs)) to you! Dreams can suck @ss sometimes. If you are even considering trying to work something out with C you need to have a convo with him and lay it all out on the table. You don't want to have the little nugget of doubt in the back of your head.

    I will sometimes have dreams of my ex (we were together March '01-March '04) and he totally cheated on me - long distance in college. But he will pop into my head and into my dreams on the rare occasion now (we no longer talk at all) and I wake up so upset and angry at my subconscious. 

    Dreams can start your day off so wonderful or so crappy. Hope you have a great and can use this to sort some things out!

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    I'm sorry for that dream.  Yuck!  But maybe this is your body and mind's way of coping and making decisions.  Trust yourself and your feelings.  HUGS!

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  • VikingQueenVikingQueen member

    imageQuigleyCat1:
    I'm sorry for that dream.  Yuck!  But maybe this is your body and mind's way of coping and making decisions.  Trust yourself and your feelings.  HUGS!

    That's what I'm getting from it.. I just am so confused though lol

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  • jenn0021jenn0021 member
    I'm so sorry VQ. Dreams can be so real sometimes and definitely put you in a funk. I don't really have any advice but GL with your decision. I can't imagine being in your shoes. You are strong!
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  • EveanynEveanyn member

    imageMissMheMhe:
    (((Hugs))) Dreams are so powerful sometimes. When I have a big decision to make, I can almost always decide based on dreams.

    This is good advice. (((HUGS))) Obviously you're upset in your subconscious. I'd take that into serious consideration.

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  • benoitfanbenoitfan member
    Oh VQ, as if you didn't have enough to think about where C is concerned.   Now your subconcious has to weigh in on it.  I hope you can find some clarity and figure out your next move.  It's not all up to C you know, you have to take care of you and only you know the best way to do that.  It may be with C, but obviously there is a trust issue (and rightfully so) on your side.  As PP said, if you decide to move toward reconciliation, you will most definitely have to have a tough convo with C about your concerns about fidelity and trust.  If he can't reassure you and you can't get past this, then there really is no foundation to build your relationship on.  I'm sure it's very difficult to figure all this out.  We are here for you to vent to, bounce things off of and provide support any way we can.  Take all the time you need to make your decision, as you said earlier you are giving C 6 months, use that time yourself to find out if you really want him back or if you just want that happy, blissful feeling back that you used to have with him.  They aren't necessarily the same thing.  ((HUGS)).
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    imagebenoitfan:
    Oh VQ, as if you didn't have enough to think about where C is concerned.   Now your subconcious has to weigh in on it.  I hope you can find some clarity and figure out your next move.  It's not all up to C you know, you have to take care of you and only you know the best way to do that.  It may be with C, but obviously there is a trust issue (and rightfully so) on your side.  As PP said, if you decide to move toward reconciliation, you will most definitely have to have a tough convo with C about your concerns about fidelity and trust.  If he can't reassure you and you can't get past this, then there really is no foundation to build your relationship on.  I'm sure it's very difficult to figure all this out.  We are here for you to vent to, bounce things off of and provide support any way we can.  Take all the time you need to make your decision, as you said earlier you are giving C 6 months, use that time yourself to find out if you really want him back or if you just want that happy, blissful feeling back that you used to have with him.  They aren't necessarily the same thing.  ((HUGS)).

    This exactly! Great advice IMO.

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  • jinxycat24jinxycat24

    I hate when Ihave dreams like this. They definitely put me in a funk for the day.

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