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Arraignment hearing was today.....

Crystal318Crystal318 member
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Regarding our Domestic Violence dispute which took place on Christmas. He plead "not guilty" and asked for a jury trial. Then blamed me for the fact that we have to be spending all this money on attorneys and have all these court dates, etc.

On another note, I think that he is realizing that he is losing his control over me and I think it is freaking him out. But it also scares me at the same time because I know that this is the most critical period. I know that when the addict/maniputlator/abuser starts to feel out of control they freak out. I am scared that he will start using LO as his means as control over me even more than he already has because he knows as far as WE (he and I) are concerned, he cannot control me anymore.  How did you guys handle this aspect of it?

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  • achase123achase123
    I think you should take the Mosaic quiz that they discussed on Oprah.  It talks about the potential that someone has to be violent, and what to do about it.  Google "Mosaic test".  I took it and it was pretty enlightening.
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    imageachase123:
    I think you should take the Mosaic quiz that they discussed on Oprah.  It talks about the potential that someone has to be violent, and what to do about it.  Google "Mosaic test".  I took it and it was pretty enlightening.

    I just took the assessment. I scored 7 out of 10. 

    Very Scary. Very Enlightening.

    Thanks for the info, AChase.

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    imageCrystal318:

    imageachase123:
    I think you should take the Mosaic quiz that they discussed on Oprah.  It talks about the potential that someone has to be violent, and what to do about it.  Google "Mosaic test".  I took it and it was pretty enlightening.

    I just took the assessment. I scored 7 out of 10. 

    Very Scary. Very Enlightening.

    Thanks for the info, AChase.

    I just re-read mine, it was a 7 out of 10.  Also, read "The Gift of Fear".  Follow your intuition.

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    imageachase123:
    imageCrystal318:

    imageachase123:
    I think you should take the Mosaic quiz that they discussed on Oprah.  It talks about the potential that someone has to be violent, and what to do about it.  Google "Mosaic test".  I took it and it was pretty enlightening.

    I just took the assessment. I scored 7 out of 10. 

    Very Scary. Very Enlightening.

    Thanks for the info, AChase.

    I just re-read mine, it was a 7 out of 10.  Also, read "The Gift of Fear".  Follow your intuition.

     

    Right now I am reading "Who is Pulling Your Strings" and so far it has helped me realize so much!!!  You are like a fountain of knowledge!!!  :)

    Gift of Fear.....next on my list :)

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  • BeachBum1223BeachBum1223

    I am so afraid of this as well. My ex was never physically abusive but the mental abuse is SO bad/hard to deal with.  Some days I feel like he  can't control me anymore but something will happen and I feel right back in his grip.

    We are currently in the tension building phase of the cycle and I am holding my breath waiting for him to explode.  It's horrible.  I just want to be rid of him :(

    Definitely going to read those books you both recommended.  I have read "Why does he do that" and it was very helpful.

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