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MJCarp09
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What do you want out of your labor?
MJCarp09
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I am by no means wanting to do a home birth and everything involved, however I have been thinking I'd like things done slightly different with this birth than with my previous. with my first I was progressing however they came in asking if I wanted my water broken, to which not thinking about I said sure ! the plans for a natural birth without an epidural went out the window with the insane pain that followed for 2 hrs.
This time around I'd like to do things differently, and want to talk with my dr. What are some things you would like as long as all things go well and you are progressing well and baby is healthy and maintaining labor?
such as, delayed cord clamping, no iv if possible, no interventions etc?
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Re: What do you want out of your labor?
A baby.
A memory of the event that isn't scarring.
A body that will at some point resemble my own.
A hospital bill that doesn't make me cry.
Other than that, whatevah.
Make a pregnancy ticker
Same here. I don't have a birth plan except, just get this guy out safely to the best of your ability. I found out last time that births don't go as you planned, just let the Dr. make the educated decisions and do his/her job. If the heart rate is going down to 60bpm and the Dr. is bringing up a possible c/s...just fill out the paperwork and don't argue.
In the end, a healthy baby and a healthy me.
I really hope that I can avoid a C-section or any medical interventions that will make my recovery more difficult.
Same here. Labour and delivery are just means to an end so it doesn't matter how it happens.
This exactly.
Ideally I'd like med-free, intervention-free, no pitocin, no c/s, delayed cord clamping and to take my placenta with me for encapsulation.
We'll see how it goes. I'm preparing myself for the unknown especially since I'm having twins.
What I ultimately want out of my labor is to be holding 2 healthy babies when it's over.
I had a rough (traumatic) delivery last time. I want a different experience this time. I want to be able to look back with some kind of joy, instead of what I think may be PTSD. I changed doctors and hospitals, and hopefully the nurses will be nice.
To that end, I WILL speak up this time:
-when the nurse puts the IV in the crook of my elbow (led to a blocked IV while pushing, and they weren't able to get meds into me to help stop hemorrhaging.)
-when i want to push in a different position (FLAT on my back for 3 hours. Essentially did crunches for 3 hours-- none of the nurses suggested raising me up a little, a push bar, etc. I blew all the blood vessels in my back, chest, and face and hemorrhaged into both eyes pretty severely. I couldn't see my daughter when she was born because my eyes were swollen shut. Then they gave me 2 doses of benadryl because they thought all the burst vessels were an allergic reaction.)
-when the nurses tell me i don't need an epi boost because I'll be pushing soon. (2 hours of transition and 3 hours of pushing after the meds were completely gone.)
The things I can't control are the nurses' attitudes, but hopefully a new hospital will do the trick there. So I guess I just want a positive experience. I am really scared that it will be the same, or worse.
ETA: to put back the bullet points that disappeared when I posted
Eleanor Gwendolyn
You could always do the water births or give birth with the use of a midwife, etc. This isn't my style, but i've heard some cool things about it. However, if you plan on going to a hospital, they tend to be very forward and all that jazz.
My girlfriend went into her labor with all kinds of rules and wishes. She didn't want the baby to be touched after born by anyone except her boyfriend and her, delayed cord clamping until after the baby received all his blood or it stopped throbbing (not very knowledgable), only the father cut the cord (which is normal for vaginal delivery), and she didn't want an iv or any monitors on the baby.
In the end, she went in there with all these "don't do's", and she finally allowed a monitor. The baby's heartrate was WAY low so they needed the baby out. She ended up getting a c-section, the baby had to be taken in the nicu for several issues with breathing and keeping his heartrate up and feeding. Dad didn't get to cut the cord, nor hold the baby for quite some time. In the end, the baby was fine and she has a healthy son.
I guess thats the most important thing to me. I have twins and there were so many things that i couldn't do with their labor. All i want this time is a healthy little boy that goes home with me when i leave, and if that means that they have 100 different monitors on me and the baby, well so be it.
Last time, I had a great, med-free birth, but I feel like they only reason it was med-free was because it was already too late to get anything by the time I showed up to the hospital. I just... showed up and pushed.
I'd like to get to the hospital earlier this time, but not be forced into having an IV. We'll see if that happens.