Do you like your RE?

Milliways · January 2012

We only have to clinic's in our insurance network, one is a considerable greater distance away so we opted for the closer office, My GYN recommended us to our RE and I am not sure if it is the Clinic or the Doctor I don't like but I don't feel comfortable.

My husband says it is becasue I am control freak, that I am uncomfortable because I still feel like I have a lot of questions about our upcoming IUI. The best way to describe it is that I get that and IUI isn't a big deal to them, they do them all the time, but it is my first and I would like a little bit of hand holding. For the record, based on the research I have done my Dr. is one of the best in the Southeast, so should it matter that we haven't clicked?

SParkman80 · January 2012

I like my RE now. At first I thought my clinic was very unorganized but now I realize they are just super busy. I had all my previous testing records transferred to my new clinic but he made me do repeat b/w and exams anyway. I felt like it was just all about the money at first. Now I like him though.

Hope you and yours start to click better soon!

Citygirl1015 · January 2012

I have the same problem at my RE's. It's definately not a very personal experience, and I get absolutely no hand-holding, but I guess I sort of expected that when I went to a big well known practice. Sometimes it really bothers me, but I'm just glad I've learned so much on my own (mostly through this board), so I don't have as many unanswered questions. Maybe you can see how this first IUI goes, and see if you feel like you're RE is competent where it counts (actually doing the IUI, monitering appts, etc.)

Feel free to ask TTTC the rest of your IUI questions that your RE hasn't answered!

Shayliz · January 2012

I do like my RE, and I'm not sure if I would worry if I didn't feel a click. I could count on 1 hand how many times I saw my RE during my treatment cycles. A CNP even did the IUI.

limpetfan · January 2012

I wasn't particularly crazy about my RE. Then I went to a different clinic for a second opinion and realized my original RE (the RE I'm still with) is leaps and bounds better than the second place. I think sometimes you don't realize what you have until you check out someplace else, or vice versa.

If you cycle with your current RE several times, have no success, and are still feeling this uncomfortable, I'd say go check out the other clinic. Since this is supposed to be a reputable practice, though, I'd give them a chance and see how they are once you're in the middle of a cycle (sometimes attentiveness changes when they're seeing you in the office often). Hope that helps! Good luck.

bulldogmama 09 · January 2012

I do like our RE, very much in fact. I definitely tend to be on the control freak side of the line too and she has been very understand and patient with me. She takes the time to answer any and all questions we have and IMO tries really hard to include DH and explain things specifically to him.

I would try not to let it bother you that you haven't clicked and concentrate on the fact that your doc is one of the best in the Southeast. Plus like someone else mentioned you likely won't be seeing him much during the process. GL!!

ukcats27 · January 2012

Shayliz:
I do like my RE, and I'm not sure if I would worry if I didn't feel a click. I could count on 1 hand how many times I saw my RE during my treatment cycles. A CNP even did the IUI.

This is the same for me. During my IVF cycle I only saw the RE on ER and ET day. I really clicked with the NP and I absolutely love her. I'm not that worried that I don't have as good of a connection with him.

SteFizzRich · January 2012

Shayliz:
I do like my RE, and I'm not sure if I would worry if I didn't feel a click. I could count on 1 hand how many times I saw my RE during my treatment cycles. A CNP even did the IUI.

This. I like my RE. He seems very knowledgeable. But his location, it's more important to like to overall Center. They working in a group atmosphere. My specific RE develops the treatment plan but I end up seeing alot of different RE's throughout the course of the treatment cycle.

HappyIAm · January 2012

I love ours!! He and his wife went through 5 IVF so he really knows what it feels like to be in our shoes. Who is your Dr? We are in the South East as well with RBA. For me the relationship and being able to ask questions is huge. Have you tried emailing the nurse? That is how I get lots of info I need quick.

DoggieMom12 · January 2012

I like my RE, I rarely see him though, I usually see his assistant. She does the majority of my ultrasounds and my one IUI that we have done so far. I think that I would have a hard time if I didn't like him because he did do surgery on me. I don't think you necassarily need to click with him in order to have a good doctor patient relationship,(as long as he listens to you and takes your thoughts and feelings into account) but that's just my opinion. Smile

Mnerani · January 2012

My biggest priorities when I'm judging any doc are competence and responsiveness. I was going to an OB who had the best bedside manner, very friendly- we clicked- but I had nagging questions about whether she really knew what she was talking about. With my current RE, I'm not in love with his manner, but he is very sharp, remembers the small details I tell him, answers my calls and emails, and gives me thorough explanations of anything he prescribes. I think it comes down to what you want most from your RE and what you're willing to let slide.

If the main problem with your RE is that you want more information, what about asking before your next appointment if a senior nurse would be available to consult with you after the appointment, to review the protocol and answer any questions? That might help you feel comfortable.

pulga131 · January 2012

I did not like my first RE. He was supposed to be very good but I just was not comfortable with him OR the clinic itself. I love my 2nd RE and we did "click" and I feel comfortable with the office staff too. I think it's important to trust your dr and staff and if you don't then maybe get a second opinion. GL

d3esika · January 2012

Initially, I was really turned off by my RE's office. Their communication between each other and with me and my husband was horrible - including the RE. I had to show up and demand an appt on the spot to come up with a plan that looked at my short luteal phase - cause that detail kept being "forgotten." Once we got a plan underway, they've (mostly) been very polite, thorough, and always return calls within a business day. I know if there are any other big slip ups though, there are a few other choices re: RE's in the area- and I'm not afraid to use em!

Kdbean27 · January 2012

I didn't like my RE at all at first. Now, I really do. I almost switched and now I am glad that I didn't.

Kathy4678 · January 2012

My RE is ok- it's a huge group so I don't really see the same docs all the time, but I love my nurse! And they have good success rates so I stay.

loulou182 · January 2012

I love my RE. He is fantastic! I'm so thankful to have him. There are a lot of doctors at our clinic who we see during cycle monitoring, and he is by far the best.

Mrs.Slick · January 2012

I love my RE and the staff at our clinic.

DH is pushing the idea of going to another clinic/switching dr's if we don't get pregnant with them by the time we're out of embies (we started with 9 embies and now only have 5 left). This suggestion is not because he doesn't like them or trust them, it's because of plain ole luck. He just thinks another dr may have more luck.

And while I can understand where he's coming from and kind of agree that we should try to switch things up if we don't get lucky, I seriously started crying and almost hyperventilated when he originally brought it up.

RachH517 · January 2012

I was in a similar situation with one of the "best" doctors/clinics in my area and to be honest, it felt a lot like a factory. I know exactly what you mean about wanting some hand holding and them acting like its nothing. We never felt super comfortable there but just kept going with mixed results (see sig).

We just moved to another state and so I had to find another RE. This time I asked around on TB for an RE that would give more personal attention and hand holding and it has been a night and day experience for us.

He has also picked up on a few things that my other doc missed by really listening to what I had say and reviewing my chart carefully.

Here is my two cents, if you can go for a consult with the other doc, it might be worth checking out to see if you feel more comfortable with them. Good luck either way!

Milliways · January 2012

Thanks ladies!

I identified with so much of what you guys said, that it feels kind of like a factory, but I think I should give it a cycle and reevaluted.

My current RE is Dr. Bruce Lessey he has done some cutting edge research on endometriosis and recurrent pregnancy loss.

https://www.facebook.com/video/?id=376929998212#!/video/video.php?v=390848572304

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