Gotta love the supporting DH

justEK · January 2012

I am trying to quit smoking again. I quit for a year with him and started back a few months ago with all of the stress from my dad.

DH- "You're in a mood and I don't know why. I'll just give you your space." I need him to help fill my space and be UNDERSTANDING.

DH- "Chew gum." I have tmj and can only chew so much. A pack of gum a day is not helping.

What worked for him does not work for me. It's much more difficult this time and I just want to say eff it.

Actually, maybe a beer will help? It's like he totally forgot how difficult it was for him. He was hell, where it was easy for me.

Man, I hate ex-smokers.

Think I'll go get that beer.

crazynervous · January 2012

Definitely do the beer and my grandpa always had sucking candy with him while he was trying to quit. Good luck.

mylove2005 · January 2012

Good Luck you can do it !!!!! I remember how had it is!!!!

shiloh17 · January 2012

I never smoked, but two of my close friends swore by twizzlers. It was just the need to have something hanging in their mouth or in their hand. They both said it helped. Isn't it something like the urge lasts 90sec., then it passes? Im not a smoker, so this all prob sounds like crap. Good luck!

justEK · January 2012

Yeah it's about 90 seconds. It's not really anything to do with the hands with me. It's the times I smoke. Once I get dinner started, after dinner, after the kids go to bed... I need to fill those times with something else now. And DH's way of dealing with it is avoiding me altogether. So then I'm bored when the kids go to bed, lol.

august06mom · January 2012

Quitting sucks. You have find something that replaces that "me" time. For me, it's a Skinny Cow ice cream cone and nesting.

Beer did NOT help me. I had to stop drinking while I quit. It just made me want one more.

mlm1128 · January 2012

I can distinctly remember my mom trying to quit when I was young. My father came in one night, tossed her a pack of cigarettes and said "Here. You are nasty with out them." Talk about non supportive!! We still joke about it to this day. She did end up quitting.

august06mom · January 2012

My DH has also quit several times, and I get the frustration from the other side of things. It sucks to be supportive and be on the receiving end of crankiness and then just have the person start smoking again. Thankfully, I think he's really done it this time, but it can be difficult to bite your lip when they're being an azz and you know it's from not smoking.

DandelionMom · January 2012

I know it isn't on the same level but H is awful about sabotaging my healthy eating goals. He comes home with tons of chocolate and wine when he knows I've had a rough day.

GL with the quitting!

justEK · January 2012

august06mom:
My DH has also quit several times, and I get the frustration from the other side of things. It sucks to be supportive and be on the receiving end of crankiness and then just have the person start smoking again. Thankfully, I think he's really done it this time, but it can be difficult to bite your lip when they're being an azz and you know it's from not smoking.

That's the thing. I'm not a *** to him. Or the kids really. He's just anticipating it which makes me want to smoke.

august06mom · January 2012

Maybe he's cranky because he knows you're smoking and he still kind of wants to? I hated when my DH smoked because I still semi wanted one, and I felt like he was tempting me with them, even though he wasn't outright tempting me.

I dunno. Smoking and quitting smoking sucks all around. Sorry you're going through this and don't feel your DH is helping.

justEK · January 2012

I guess that could be part of it. A month or so ago, he got mad and decided to light one up. He gagged and was pissed that he couldn't enjoy and didn't understand why I could.

I don't know...

We'll get through it. Thanks for the chat!

J&A2008 · January 2012

My H is also cigarette free, for 14 days now.

I have NO idea what the hell to do for him. It's like he's pregnant with PMS and going through a break up.

Please help me.

justEK · January 2012

J&A2008:
My H is also cigarette free, for 14 days now.

I have NO idea what the hell to do for him. It's like he's pregnant with PMS and going through a break up.

Please help me.

lol poor thing. I did forget to mention I think I am pmsing, too. My periods have been so wonky. I'm off for about a week and a half then on for almost 3 weeks. Just tell your dh to take a break when he needs it. I went for 2 walks tonight. My dh was annoyed.

J&A2008 · January 2012

justEK:
J&A2008:

My H is also cigarette free, for 14 days now.

I have NO idea what the hell to do for him. It's like he's pregnant with PMS and going through a break up.

Please help me.

lol poor thing. I did forget to mention I think I am pmsing, too. My periods have been so wonky. I'm off for about a week and a half then on for almost 3 weeks. Just tell your dh to take a break when he needs it. I went for 2 walks tonight. My dh was annoyed.

Thanks. He went to bed early tonight. I'm pulling for you guys! I've never been a smoker, so I can't empathize, but it seems like it's tough.

Jelly99 · January 2012

Don't know if your taking anything but my DH and I quit with Wellbutrion. And fireballs helped me when I was having a bad craving.

GL! It's worth it to quit. You will smell good, look good and your kids will be better for it too.

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