Monitoring Appointments poll

Jerem2911 · January 2012

Do you go to your monitoring appointments by yourself or with your significant other?

I was surprised to be the only one there by myself this morning. H has only gone with me on the weekend ones...but even then, he drops me off and then runs errands.

It was too early in the morning for anything other than monitoring appointments. Other services don't begin until 8:30.

SParkman80 · January 2012

Our schedule is pretty wide open in the mornings so my husband has gone with me to every appointment. But I do see a lot of women alone at our clinic.

tombomb84 · January 2012

I always go to all of my RE appts by myself and I am totally fine with it. DH is an attorney and he just doesn't have the flexibility in his schedule that I do.

ukcats27 · January 2012

My husband went to one with me but I went to the others alone. He can only miss so many days so he couldn't always go with me.

MsGMChick · January 2012

MH goes to most of them but I've been to a few alone.

eponine7682 · January 2012

By myself always. DH and I work very different schedules, so he rarely goes to any kind of doctor appts with me. It doesn't bother me, but sometimes I get weirded out by all the couples in the RE waiting room. However, a lot of them could be there for a consult, in which DH and I did go together because the RE had tests for the both of us to do.

limpetfan · January 2012

My husband always comes with me, for 2 reasons. One, we work for the same company, so we ride to work together, which means he has to go with me. Two, he feels pretty uninvolved in this whole process, so coming to the appointments lets him feel like he's more integral.

lynn0926 · January 2012

By myself on the weekdays. On the weekends, DH and my dog drive me and DH stays in he car with the dog. We bring her everywhere ??

Native+Girl · January 2012

DH didn't go with me at first, even to the consult which looking back was odd, why didn't I ask him to go? He still doesn't come with me to baseline appts, but he expressed interest in coming to the mid-cycle monitoring so he was there for that last cycle and he'll be there for it this cycle.

We also work together and ride together. Our bosses both know what's going on and let us have a lot of flexibility, and the RE's office is literally less than 5 minutes from our office. I would be fine if he wasn't there, but if he wants to be involved, I'll gladly let him.

MandaS08 · January 2012

He goes with me to some of them-if it works for his schedule he'll go, if not, he doesn't. So far for this IVF he's come to all but one, b/c its a bigger deal to both of us-but once we get into daily monitoring I doubt he'll come to all of them.

bulldogmama 09 · January 2012

I went to each of them alone and plan to do the same when we start injects again.

I would not feel comfortable with DH in the room while I'm getting an internal US. For us there are some parts of this that we need not share.

SteFizzRich · January 2012

It depends on his availability. DH has gone with me to all my previous appointments, but will miss tomorrow's bc of his work schedule. I think it will just depend on when they are.

AmyH0807 · January 2012

My DH went to the initial consult appointment with me, but he doesn't go to any others. There is no reason for us both to take leave from work. My appointments are always at 6:30 a.m. and we both start work at 6:30 a.m.

BabyDreams711 · January 2012

DH has a job where he really can't get time off, so I go by myself. I don't mind and fill him in on what's up that night. I really have seen very few hubby's in the waiting room. The one thing he was able to take me to was my HSG, then I felt bad he had to wait out in the waiting room... I never even thought he couldn't come in, I was naive and had no idea what to expect!

ellephunt · January 2012

He goes with if he can make it.

nycitygirl1 · January 2012

I go by myself if they're during the week, but if it's on a weekend DH comes to keep me company.

We both have busy work schedules so it's not possible for him to be at all of the monitoring appointments (and I think it would be kind of silly to drag him to all of these anyway). Last time I had an IUI he couldn't come due to a big meeting at work and it was totally fine with me - the procedure took less than 10 minutes and I was in and out. I think I'd feel really differently about an IVF though.

DoubleBubble08 · January 2012

He didn't go with me to the monitoring appts with the IUI... there weren't that many u/s appts so I wasn't going to have him go with me for bw since that is just in and out. However, for the IVF he's planning to coming to the u/s ones.

watkinae · January 2012

For the monitoring appts, DH only goes if they are on the weekend.

farmerlynda · January 2012

Our RE's office is two hours away, so going to an appointment eats up most of the day. He came to all the important appointments (pre-cycle appointments, ER, ET) and a couple of the monitoring appointments, but I told him not to worry about going to all of them because it's such a time-suck. He has a lot to get done on the farm before Spring and it stresses him out not to do it!

btaylor19 · January 2012

My husband has never gone to a monitoring appt.

dimples128 · January 2012

I go by myself. He has been to one appointment with me and it was our initial consultation. I'm usually in and out of there within 20 minutes so there's really no reason for him to miss work to come with me.

Mnerani · January 2012

The day I got my PCOS "diagnosis" from the stupid u/s technician, DH wasn't with me because of course, we expected to get the results from the doctor. It was really hard to be alone at that moment. From that point on, we decided to do as many of these appointments together as possible. I appreciate it because I feel like so much of this is a learning experience, and even though I always take a notepad with me, sometimes I need help remembering what the doctors and nurses say, especially when multiple options are presented. I think here in Kenya, it's a little counter-cultural to have a man come to fertility appointments. The first time we met with our RE, DH walked into her office first and by the time I'd entered the room, the RE was trying to disguise the surprise on her face

brooklynesque · January 2012

I go alone (with an occasional exception on weekends). My husband has a long commute and I don't see any particular reason to demand he come.

OnTheLanai · January 2012

My husband goes with me to every appointment because he has the flexibility to do so. My RE clinic is about 45 min away, so we try to schedule early morning visits and then come back and he goes to school the rest of the day(He is working on his thesis, final semester of Grad School). But on those days he generally tries to work later in the day so that he doesnt miss too much work.

pulga131 · January 2012

Solo. My re is very far away so no sense in us both wasting a sick day. For the actual dr appointments he's always there

jessican08 · January 2012

Unless there is something to discuss with the RE, I always go by myself. I'd rather do that than have DH there with me whining and complaining b/c he had to get up so early Stick out tongue

Citygirl1015 · January 2012

I go to most alone, unless it's the weekend and DH can join me. I've actually gone to most IUI's alone too, and I'm fine with it.

carcrashheart · January 2012

I go alone. He has offered to go with me, but he would wait in the consult room anyways. I don't see any reason to take him with me when there isnt much that is going to be said. He gets too uncomfortable seeing me in stirrups and until there's a baby to see on that screen it doesn't make sense to put him in to an uncomfortable situation. I don't need anyone to hold my hand and I can relay information just find. He went to the consult but stayed in the consult room while I had my u/s done. I didn't take him to my HSG, and while I did have my mom drive me I didn't have her I the room with me. I guess I would just rather do those things alone until it's specifically baby related , rather than fertility related.

kellygksu · January 2012

He goes with me if it's a weekend or holiday for us. Otherwise, I go by myself.

Google76 · January 2012

My DH comes to about 50% of my appointments with me ... He works overseas a lot so isn't always available ... But if he's home he's with me ...

Either way I don't mind x

DoggieMom12 · January 2012

My DH has only gone to two appointments. Our first one which was a consult and our first IUI. I go to all other appointments on my own.

hunterjumper102 · January 2012

No I usually go to monitoring appointments by myself. I don't see the point in DH and I taking time off from work when I can go by myself. DH only comes when he needs to make a contribution or if its a big/important appointment.

brideonjuly8 · January 2012

The times I've gone to get monitored I've always gone alone. I don't see any reason for DH to be there, just to be checking follie size.

genmalone · January 2012

My DH goes to the important consults (when our last IUI didn't work and our IVF consult) and appts on the weekend. I go to all my monitoring appts by myself. I don't don't think it's worth it for him to miss work. I'm also very independent and drove myself to my HSG. I would do the same for the hysteroscopy but my RE said no. Wink

Bubs101 · January 2012

When I was just on clomid, I went by myself. But once we started IUIs, and now IVF, my hubby is with me at every appointment because they're more critical and often require decisions to be made. He likes to be there.

candiryan39 · January 2012

My husband goes with me but we always have morning appointments and he works nights so he never has to miss work. I've told him I can do this by myself, no sense in him waking up early for nothing, but I think it's his way of being a part of the process.

KdgTeacher · January 2012

Most of the time (well over 90% of the time) I go by myself. He did the IUI with me, but I'm not sure he'll be able to stay with me this cycle depending on when they are and his schedule.

For monitoring I'm usually in and out within 10 minutes. It would be silly for him to go.

buckeyebaby814 · January 2012

MH only goes with me if it's the weekend. He's actually been working Saturdays but luckily he's off this week so he can go with me for my follie check. I did go to my baseline (last Thursday) by myself and I felt awkward because every other woman there had their SO with them.

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