This was a question on another board, and I'm wondering what the DC Moms think about this. If you've stopped using monitors for one or more of your kids, at what age did you stop using them? If you still use one, when do you plan to stop?
I was thinking I'd use the monitor until the kiddo is old enough to get out of bed and come into our room if he needs something, so probably around the time he transitions to a "big kid" bed. But I'm curious if anyone still uses a monitor with their kid in a "big" bed, and if it's still useful.
Re: Age when you stop (or will stop) using the baby monitor?
I'm thinking probably around age 4 or 5 when she is independent enough to go to the bathroom by herself at night and come down a half flight of stairs and wake us up she needs us.
DD is 2.5 and could be in a big girl bed (and she has slept in it on a number of occasions). However, she still likes the crib and so I've steered her towards staying in it. I have a slight (I mean strong) preference for keeping her in the crib for a while longer for a number of reasons but I promise she will be out of it by college.
I also currently have a knob cover on her door so that even if she got out of the crib, she cannot open the door. I do this because I don't want her wandering around the house at night. Also, there's a half flight of stairs between her bedroom and our bedroom and I just worry about her falling or something.
I'll be keeping the knob cover on her door until she is (1) sleeping in a big girl bed and (2) capable of getting up in the night to go to the bathroom by herself. Right now, she still needs help with pulling down her pants, sitting on the toilet, etc. I mean, she can do it by herself but it's like she needs someone there for when she gets stuck (like sometimes she can't get her pants up). Also, she doesn't know how to wipe well enough when she goes #2.
I already have two monitors so I figure that I'll use them for a while to err on the side of caution. Also, our TV room is 1.5 flights down from DD's bedroom and on the other side of the house so I also use the monitor for when we are watching TV so we can hear if she needs something.
I can't remember at what age we stopped using one for each of the girls (I think around 2 yrs old), but I can tell you we've never used it with DS. See what I mean? Third Child Syndrome is real people.
Seriously, we plugged the monitor into an outlet in his room and then put the receivers in our room and one downstairs in our rec room/basement and I don't think we ever turned them on.
Keep in mind DS slept/napped in our room for about a month when he was a newborn, and then was a colicky MESS the first four months of his life, so it didn't take a monitor to let you know when he was unhappy. Plus we have a small house. Amplifying the crying just made it more grating.
Even after the colic evened out I guess we just had so finely tuned our own parental hearing that even at night when DH and I are downstairs watching a movie and all three kids are upstairs in their rooms, we usually hear if someone is in distress up there.
I would like to stop using it within the next 6 months for Warner. I was barely using it at all when he was in his toddler bed because he's always such a dependable sleeper. But now that he's in a "real" bed in his new room with no pacifier he's having a really hard time settling down at night and more than usual for naps. So I like to be able to keep an eye on him until he gets used to his new surroundings. Also, he fell out of bed one night last week (poor guy) and if I hadn't had the monitor on, I'm not sure that I would have woken as quickly. He was fine, but scared and I'm glad I got in there fast.
eta: also, our only tv is in the basement which is two stories below where his room is. we hardly ever watch tv anymore, but on the rare evenings that we are down there, it's nice to be able to hear him should he need us. unless he was actually screaming at the top of his lungs (and maybe not even then) I don't think we'd hear him from down there--especially not while the tv is on.
Raising hand here. We never used the monitor for LO. Well, that's not true. We used it for a few nights early on when we'd put him to bed in our room and then watch tv or something. Then we stopped. Then when we put him in the crib finally, we used it until I realized that the monitor was keeping me awake. Not him, but the sounds the monitor would make when it heard the heat turn on, the humidifier gurgle, the cat walk by. I would jolt awake at the amplification of those, and I could never get the sensitivity right. So we haven't used it since. I figure he'll let us know if he really needs us.
And he's our first.
We've never used them either. The only place I can't hear them is in the laundry room and I really try to spend very little time there I have become such a crazy light sleeper, it seems odd to even think about using one. There is one caveat, if I am doing yard work during naps, I set one up to let me know if DS is awake. DD can get herself out of bed, but DS is still in a crib.
Kendra, DD learned how to open the door w/ the knob cover on when she was about 2.5...
we'll be using the monitors until the kids figure out what the green light in the room is for and then we'll move them and spy on them and their friends when they come over
I would not hear the kids w/out the monitors (all doors are closed and everyone has lots of white noise) so we still use ours every day.
Same. We have a pretty small rancher and the only place I can't hear him is remote corners of the basement. It got to the point that every little blip on the monitor was keeping me up at night, so I just put it away. Probably at 2 months?
We do take one when we visit family beach houses because those are bigger than our actual house (sad!) and there's usually more ambient noise from our parents, etc.
We stopped using one around a year when he was most definitely sleeping through the night. We can hear when he cries.
however, i do think once he's in a "big boy" bed we'll turn it back on.
Uh oh! I better not get too comfortable :-) However, DD is so laid back she's just not the type of kid to really put effort into trying to figure it out. But I will definitely keep an eye on her.
Never! I am obsessed. J is still in his crib, so it's not like he's going anywhere, but I like to know when he falls asleep/wakes up so I can gauge his naptime better.
When we have #2, I'll get another camera but still be watching J (presumably by that point he'll be in a big boy bed).
I guess probably once he drops his nap and is just sleeping at night, so 3-4?
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