Now work is going to be miserable...

AnchoredByLove · January 2012

A coworker is pregnant. And our office only consists of 1 male employee and 7 female employees. So I can't really get away from her and avoid her. I actually will need to work with her atleast a few times during each week. Plus, all she did today was complain about how nauseous she was ALLL day and how her back hurt. I think she's just about 12 weeks. I'm probably just being overly sensitive and bitter, but her and I had a brief discussion back in October about how we both we having a hard time getting pregnant. She was on Clomid for 3+ months and I'm assuming that's how she's not pregnant. Anyways, now that I've had the unpleasant experience of having to try really hard to get pregnant, it's making me more aware that if I ever become pregnant that if I don't know that someone else is having a hard time getting pregnant, I shouldn't be talking about my sxs or being pregnant around them. I guess she doesn't have the same line of thinking. Or she's just plain forgotten that we haven't been able to get pregnant yet. Ugh. *Sigh* I'm just plain bitter lately about other people getting pregnant and it not happening for me. Which I feel makes me a horrible person.

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kelnyc · January 2012

*sig warning*

Being on both sides, I hesitate to complain about feeling crummy just because I feel so lucky to finally be here, but why should she not be allowed to talk about not feeling well today? It's not like she's rubbing in being pregnant, and I certainly don't think she forgot how much it sucked to have trouble. If she was constantly complaining day after day, that would be another story, but I think it should be ok for her to mention it (Not the same, but I used to get made fun of for being really skinny as a kid. I didn't want to be so thin and have no boobs in high school or college, but my metabolism had other ideas. Is it fair that just because other girls wanted to be thin, I was not allowed to say anything about not liking it? That my mere presence annoyed them? No, it wasn't.). Early pregnancy is rough too! I think as much as people should be considerate of those who may be having trouble getting pregnant, it should go the other way too.

ETA: I just wanted to add that I completely know where you are coming from and was not trying to be biitchy at all. Just offering another point of view on the subject. ((hug))

genmalone · January 2012

I agree with Kel.

While I understand that it is hard (trust me I get it). She struggled too. I have a much easier time having it in my face when I know the person has been there. I'm sure she will ease up but right now I'm sure she is excited. You'll be there one day too and you'll probably want to scream it from the rooftops (or maybe it's just me).

Anyway, I certainly understand why it bothers you but wouldn't you want to talk about it if it were you? That's what I try to remind myself.

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