Getting a hard to for wanting to find out the gender

ericamanuela · January 2012

I'm going tomorrow to find out the sex of my baby. Almost everyone I talk to doesn't understand why I don't want to be surprised. People keep telling me that there are so few surprises in life (I don't agree) so why ruin it. Also, everyone I know isn't finding out the gender. I'm not into surprises, I'm a planner and I like to take advantage of technology. Am I totally unromanitc with this? Do I seem heartless? Am I missing something?

offroadjewel · January 2012

I just think it is personal preference. I wouldn't worry about what others say. Follow your heart and do as you wish. I'm a planner as well and will definately be finding out the sex too when the time comes.

ashcart01 · January 2012

Most people I know DO find out the gender. For awhile I thought about having it be a surprise...but who am I kidding. I want to know!

Forget everyone else. They can do what they want when it's THEIR kid.

Natalie&Mark · January 2012

Um, do you already know the sex? No? THEN IT'S A SURPRISE. I don't understand why finding out early is less desirable. I get the pros and cons to both, but IT'S STILL A SURPRISE.

laurendom · January 2012

I kind of feel the same way. And for my first child I want to know. As FTM and this totally knew experience, I feel like I can idenitfy better with my preganancy and baby once I know the sex.

Its funny how much my mother who is extremely traditional didn't like the idea and then the second we went out for nursery furniture shopping and she really looked at all the cute boy or girl things, she said, "Oh, now I want to know, so we can buy stuff now!"

But to each their own!

sandy02 · January 2012

To each their own.

Though the "there are so few surprises" thing doesnt set with me because when you find out tomorrow it will be a surprise until they tell you, Boy! or Girl! same as at birth. Just one way you wait longer. Also, I think there are so many 'surprises' at birth, and emotions and things you never expect that you'll have more than enough to overwhelm you, lol.

If you want to find out, do it and dont let anyone ruin it for you!

TBsquared · January 2012

People have told me to wait and people have told me its the best finding out, its just personally prefrence and you should do what you want. I personally chose to find out, but im still skeptical so it adds a bit of stress to my life. Ive bought baby girl clothes and painted the nursery pink and im sooo scared i will come home with a boy and nothing for him. so thats something to think about....its never 100%

I am actually going for a 3D ultra sound for a second peek and a second opinion on gender because im so worried!!

Hkaye · January 2012

Who cares what other people think I agree with pp its still a surprise. I am with you and I love to plan so finding out that late would not work for me

LiLTexan09 · January 2012

And I don't understand the people that DON'T want to find out! But, like others have said, to each their own. To ME, it's just as much a surprise when you find out at the ultrasound!

meangene · January 2012

I seriously will NEVER understand why people would not want to find out if they have the opportunity. Then they usually end up bragging about it like it's some great feat of willpower. The last thing I needed while my vag was being sewn up was a surprise

Find out!!

camillaandcarson · January 2012

Sorry you are getting a hard time. No one has given me a hard time for wanting to know. And as one PP post, literally, it is a surprise anytime you find out. I don't know right now and will be very surprised when I learn, no matter what week in pregnancy it is. I will be surprised when I meet the baby finally. I was surprised to be pregnant. There are lots of surprises along this whole journey for me at least!

themodscientist · January 2012

Yes to all the PPs, if you don't know what it is yet, then it's still a surprise when you find out, now or later!

My friend waited, and told me when I said I wasn't waiting that I should have the nurse write down the sex and put it in an envelope so my husband and I could open it at dinner, so "you won't find out in the doctor's office- how sterile!" I had to point out to her that she found out her baby's sex in a doctor's office, too! She was just more naked than I'll be.

Do what you want and tell others to mind their business.

ericamanuela · January 2012

I think that's it! I honestly think that they're sort of bragging about having the willpower because it doesn't make much sense why they look down on me for wanting to find out. I also agree, I'll be dealing with enough when I deliver to worry about being surpised what gender he or she is. Thanks!

ericamanuela · January 2012

Also, it was a big enough surprise to find out I was pregnant in the first place. I didn't think I could become pregnant easily because I had a very slow thyroid (for some strange reason pregnancy put my thyroid at an ideally perfect level) and we certainly weren't planning it. Finding out I was having a baby was a beautiful surpise. There are always surprises in life.

ohiobride2004 · January 2012

I was talking about this to someone today. I am going to find out but my family doesn't want to know so we will keep it a secret. The last thing I want on delivery day is a surprise. This is already so much unknown and emotions that day at least I can know if I am having a boy or girl

Taryn M · January 2012

Natalie&Mark:
Um, do you already know the sex? No? THEN IT'S A SURPRISE. I don't understand why finding out early is less desirable. I get the pros and cons to both, but IT'S STILL A SURPRISE.

I agree with this. You'll be surprised whether you find out now or later, so why wait? I'd much rather be surprised sooner and be able to prepare...but that's just me.

ipookie8 · January 2012

Natalie&Mark:
Um, do you already know the sex? No? THEN IT'S A SURPRISE. I don't understand why finding out early is less desirable. I get the pros and cons to both, but IT'S STILL A SURPRISE.

THIS exactly.

I have been saying this ^ for months... every time someone asked me if we were gonna be finding out the gender and poo-poo'd it when I said OF COURSE.

It's a surprise when you find out at the ultrasound just as much as when they pull the little critter out of your body at birth.

I don't understand why other people have to be so opinionated about things that have nothing to do with them personally... I now just laugh to myself when people start getting hibbity-bibbity about mine and my husband's decisions.

AprilAngie · January 2012

Hkaye:
Who cares what other people think I agree with pp its still a surprise. I am with you and I love to plan so finding out that late would not work for me

I agree with this

kincaid44 · January 2012

I have been getting a lot of grief over the same thing. Just do what you and your hubby want to do! Everyone thinks that their opinion is the right one, so try not to worry about it too much.

mmooki · January 2012

I am the odd one who ISN'T finding out. Either people are totally with me or I get the "How can you not find out???"

It's my preference. Not hubby's but he understands why...and if we ever have any more kids, we will find them out.

Josie22 · January 2012

I had a women who I worked with. She was in a supervisory role. She use to berate me on a regular basis because I wanted to find out. It was completely out of line, and offensive.

It's your body, your baby, your choice. Do what you want to do.

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