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October 2011 Moms
rubysue267
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*Whine Wednesday*
rubysue267
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I know they do this on other boards and I can't remember if we ever did it here, but frankly, I'm sitting at my desk and all the coffee in the world can't sustain me right now. Ladies - friends - lay it on me: what's curdling your milk this morning?
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Re: *Whine Wednesday*
For me, I am just plain exhausted. I know I'll adjust, but I go to work, come home to relieve DH of baby duty, do the baby routine and try to soak up those precious few hours, put baby to sleep, then try to do as much around the house as I can / prepare for the next day of work, pass out in bed and start over.
My family is really big on get-togethers and they want us to come up on Saturday for an ice festival that's 2.5 hours away. My parents may be moving 6 hours away in the near future so I know this may be one of those few times my siblings and I can spend time with them before this happens, but I am just so exhausted. Right now I can't even fathom getting up early on Saturday to pack up DS and commit to 5 hours of driving just to stand outside and freeze my ass off while looking at blocks of ice. I feel like a really bad daughter because I'd much rather be home in my pajamas, catching up on laundry and recharging for the next week. And at the same time, I want my parents to spend as much time with DS as they can before their quality time with him predominately consists of Skype. Yep, there's that "bad daughter" feeling again.
A) I have 13 pounds to go to get to pre-pregnancy weight and I feel like it's impossible with my thyroid problem
C) DS stopped sleeping through the night and has been waking up early as balls. I don't know if it's because he is getting over a cold or is ready to start cereal.
D) I wish my DH would help more but at the same time, since I'm not home much, I want to be with the baby as much as is possible. I'm torn. I'm resentful towards DH because I put my needs aside for DS and he doesn't, but if he were to say "well let me feed him then" I would probably protest because I want to spend as much time as possible with DS when I'm home from work at night.
E) I AM SO TIRED
F) AND FAT
My office building is freezing cold (especially the room where I pump!) and my work neighbor listens to a dumb radio station too loud. I'm listening to "Margaritaville" right now. AGGHHH!!!
cereal has nothing to do w/ sleep. solids are only for practice eating off a spoon at this age, not for nutrition or to fill them up. right around 4 months babies usually have disruptive sleep. it's called the "4 month wakeful period" if you want to Google.
my whine isn't a big one, it's been a good week.:)
the nights I don't pump before bed, LO sleeps til 4am and my boobs are ready to explode. night I do pump (like last night) she wakes up w/in 30 min. it's as if she hears the pump and thinks "haha, im going to screw with you!"
Gosh I really needed this Whine Wednesday post!!
-I have an business that I am able to do out of my house but I feel like it is my DH thinks of it as more of a hobby and it always comes last and I'm for sure losing clients. I'm exhausted because I have to "squeeze" in my work around everyone elses schedule...naps, midnight, 6am. blah
-We are remodeling the bathroom in our bedroom meaning we have been relegated to the couch to sleep. During the day the baby and I have to stay in the nursery -- it's loud and she isn't napping.
-My mom (babysitter for today) told me she would be here 1st thing in the morning and it is near 9:30...first thing is like 7am to me.
-Superbowl in Indy=nuff said.
I cannot stand when a student of mine needs to borrow a writing utensil and when I hand them a pencil, they ask for a pen instead. Seriously? Bring your own d*mn pen or use the frigin pencil. You are 15 years old! (I do not give them pens, by the way, but it makes me want to scream when they ask.)
What medicine do you take? I've battled this for years, and went to several different docs. I've done plenty of reading, and realized that my body would do better with Armour (not synthetic, but made from pigs). I had to FIGHT to get this-maybe you need a new med? It was the only one that made me feel normal and actually loose weight. But I feel your pain. It literally is an ACT OF GOD for us to loose weight, and no one understands unless you have this disease. Good luck, friend. When is the last time you got your levels checked?
SALT! Where's the damn salt?!
I'm feeling super shabby, too, Crystal. I seriously don't know how women do this. I feel like I am going to be taking it day-by-day for the rest of my working life. I also feel really bad because I miss sexy time with DH but am so tired every night that I'm fear we'll both be celibate for the rest of our lives. I never wanted to be one of those couples that has to schedule sex but due to being a walking zombie my spontaneity is out the window.
Whoa, I didn't realize anyone from our board was pregnant already. Congrats and good luck!
Nita, you definitely win the trophy for today's WW. Girl, my hat's off to you. I can't imagine how exhausted you must be.
You win a second trophy for your awesome attitude. You totally put me to shame for the general bratty / pessimistic attitude I've been sporting lately.
Please stop now, before I start crying. Pregnancy-whinyness is back, too.
All of this.
My major "whine" is that we are moving at the end of the month, but if you walked into our apt, it looks like we are just super messy people. I feel like nothing is packed up yet, probably because DD is always awake and that leaves only one of us at a time to pack while the other watches/entertains DD. It's super frustrating and it's been extremely taxing on DH and me.
I fly out on Saturday morning and even though I've worked at an airport for 5 years, I'm still wicked nervous to travel with a baby. I know exactly what to do but actually doing it is a different story. I am praying that L just sleeps the whole 3 hour plane ride. (yea... riiiight)
Oh and one more whine: I still have zero sex drive and it's driving MH nuts
Burned by the Bear
In response to Crystal's post: "We had sex last night for maybe the 3rd time since V has been here and I'm ashamed of my performance. I've got no game anymore."
This actually made me feel a little better. At a recent visit to my psychiatrist (discussing postpartum anxiety), doc tells me that I should really consider the fact that if I'm not having sex once a week my marriage is probably in trouble. Maybe she didn't realize that I'd come to talk to her in order to DECREASE my anxiety, not add to it. I think DH and I have managed 3 or 4 times as well and honestly, my head is just not in the game.
I have to preface my whine with a story.
On 12/29 I fell down the stairs carrying DS, he's fine. I on the other hand fractured my ankle and my back. I now have to wear an air cast boot and a back brace. The air cast is annoying, but easy to deal with. The back brace, I want to throw out the window! I cannot wait to be healed, I can't do anything around the house and going out is exhausting since moving requires an extra 10lbs of equipment! Not to mention DH is getting frustrated because I can't help around the house or with DS at night. I do the best I can, but I still feel bad.
Also I'm a cow because I obviously can't excersize in my condition. I am so ready to be healthy, ugh!
Oh my goodness you get a trophy too! I am so sorry about your fall! I'm glad to hear that LO was fine but a back and ankle fracture must be so painful. I hope you heal quickly and can toss both braces out the window.
Well my marriage must be doomed!
Geez, I put all you women to shame. We have not even had sex once since the baby. I'm saving myself. (ha, ha)
In all seriousness, we are both tired. 1-We bed share, which makes it more difficult. 2- I had on and off pp bleeding all the way into December, I was over doing it with heavy lifting. 3-We moved. Before moving we were at my parents nuff said. 4- Now that I'm back at work I go to bed early because I have to work so early. 5-It has been so painful after my last 2 kids that It is hard to look forward to.
We are in a sex drought at this house. No, my marriage is not in trouble just our sex life! We'll fix it soon enough. DH is working at home a couple days a week maybe we'll squeeze it in between conference calls.
BFP #1: July 12, 2010 Natural M/C: July 26, 2010
BFP #2: January 30 ,2011 Born: September 29, 2011
BFP #3: January 5, 2013 Born: August 25, 2013
I take levothyroxine.. .I read about armour a couple years ago and brought it up but my dr didn't feel that it would make a difference in my weight, and the levothyroxine actually has helped with the other symptoms (fatigue was the worst out of all of them.. I couldn't focus at work because I was exhausted all the time). I had my levels tested in December. This really does stink! and DH does not get it at all.. he says "calories in, calories out, Kim.. it's simple math" EFF YOU - my body doesn't work the same as yours. Ugh.
Are you kidding me?? I can make you feel even better then- we haven't done it at all yet. I miss having that connection, but I still kinda don't feel like it yet. What would that psychiatrist say about MY marriage (which I think is just fine, thanks. We'll get there. Hopefully soon.)
I really would love to have some chocolate, a cup of coffee or soda or spaghetti. All things I've cut out because I think LO was reacting to what I was eating. I know I can't eat dairy, and I've found cookies with no-dairy dark chocolate (thank goodness)...and I'm about to try spaghetti again. I'm just getting tired of eating rice, yams, potatoes and chicken every day.
The upside of all of this is I can't eat a damn thing when I go to a shower or to visit people (EVERYthing has dairy in it) which I'm sure has contributed to some weight loss.
In my head I'm telling your H to get bent-your thyroid is your bodies engine. If it isn't running properly, than nothing else can work properly. Does he know that you can actually die from hypothyroidism if it isn't treated? That is extreme, but it is true. Before I was on the right medicine, I was eating a 1,000 calorie diet and working out with a personal trainer 4x a week for four months and I NEVER LOST A F.UCKING POUND!!! Do you go to an endocrinologist? I went to three different docs until I finally could get a referral. Don't take one Doc's word, you need to be your own advocate. You know your body best, not them. If you haven't already, I recommend reading "Living Well With Hypothyroidism" by Mary J. Shomon. It was a total eye opener for me, and I actually took it to the Doc with me and quoted it. I also have her book "The Thyroid Diet", but I don't follow it.
I wish SO and I were having sex more often. For a few weeks, we were doing it 3-4 times a week; now we're lucky if it's once a week. Between A keeping us busy and my period coming and going all the freaking time, it's hard to find the time. Sigh.
Which brings me to my second whine...between pp bleeding and my period I have hardly had a break from bleeding since A was born! I got my period at 6 weeks pp (I EBF and wasn't on the mini pill..arg), it lasted for 2 weeks, got it again at 10 weeks, it lasted for 2 weeks, was gone for a week, then back for a week, and now I'm spotting again. Frickity frick!
I am going to have to resume work travel starting with a 3-4 day trip in early March, and I hate hate hate hate hate it. I EBF, and I have a large freezer stash, so DD will get BM while I'm away, no problem, but I hate the thought of:
1) being away from her at all, let alone overnight, let alone for two or three overnights,
2) her getting a jillion bottles instead of nursing time with me,
3) DH having to do all the pickup/dropoffs at DC (though he's getting used to those now b/c he's not working), and
4) having to pump at least 6x/day to replace her feedings, especially while balancing meetings all day long.
I'm terrified that my supply will go down and/or that DD won't resume nursing when I get back. I think my fear is a little unfounded; I haven't had any supply problems, DD hasn't ever refused to nurse, and DD will be over 5 months old by the time of my first trip, but I still hate it.
HATE. IT.
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